NEVER been asked.

Would NEVER,  if I was ever asked.

If a lady is uncomfortable with the amount of screening you are willing or able to provide, she may ask for a real name and will ask to check your driver's license on arrival. Too much for you? Fine. See someone else who is less stringent, and she will find someone else who is willing to submit to her screening. Life goes on. No need for drama.

Really, if you want to see a polished and classy lady in NYC be prepared to give up some info about yourself.

Personally I would rather not fuck a lady I didn't trust, but that's just me.

I do Not need your full name...however when I get guys writing me and stating they are new...and have No references and no way to check them out....then I ask for a real full name and hometown...I then do a background check...if I feel I need to take it a step further...I get there work number...I need to know I am safe and Not being set up...I understand that it's hard to give out that info....I have also met some guys at a restaurant first...and Enjoyed our time in public and then took it private

Seriously! I require all clients to give me their full names, and I've never had an issue. I don't know where OP lives, but if he isn't comfortable giving out his full name I would suggest he doesn't come visit NYC any time soon.

xo

During a preliminary phone conversation with a provider recently, I was informed that before seeing the provider, I would be required to provide her with my full first and last name. Is this a common practice and do other clients freely provide this information?

I am verified on date-check and preferred411, I have posted more than 50 reviews over many months and am able to provide any number of references, so I was quite surprised by this request and didn't understand why it was asked and expected.

Well during an hour on the phone with her, I did relent to her initial request and give her my first name, but I have gone by my middle name (Lance) with family and friends for most of my life, and she began calling me by my first name from that point forward... I just thought it was a little odd...

P411 suggest you provide her with doc with the 4 nubers on it with the name taped over. But your stating she wanted you name before seeing you. Hm, have to think about that one. Could be something on the provider boards or black list and they only have a real name.  Maybe I move on.

I have nothing to hide and no one that I need to hide it from. Never been asked, I just give it. What she going to do with it blackmail me? Good luck with that as I will turn her in to the police a heartbeat. Tell my wife? She know. Stalk me? I would out her in a second and slap a restraining order on her. I do realize most have much more to lose than I do if outed. So I do see why you would not wish to give out your name. If it is a problem for you just move on. As to why a lady may want it, it so she can check the blacklists and maybe run a background check to see if you are a violent criminal or a sexual predator. It is to protect her from bad men and if you do turn out to be one of the bad ones it gives her a way to report you after the fact. It makes her feel safer with you. Your reviews, date-check and preferred411 id, and references do not let her ID you to police if you do something real bad to her like rape her. I am very close to a lady who was raped by a client that and she felt she had no recourse because of how they met and she did not have his name. Your being verified on Date-Check and Preferred411, TER reviews and white listings, and your references only give her limited recourse if something goes wrong and aren't who you say you are. And with a real name she can ID you to make sure you are who you say you are. Everyone must decide what they are comfortable with go with it. We are all taking chances when we hobby. There is risk on both sides. Maybe giving out your real name is to much risk for you and maybe seeing you without it is too much risk for her. If so it is best for both if you both find someone else. I do know of one lady who does require your full name and at least one who will video you if she does not have it. I much rather give out my full name than risk being taped because I did not give her any other recourse for her to track me down if I miss behave. That is too much risk for me.

First of all, unless you have a disposable phone, if she has you number she has probably done a cell phone search and back ground check on you already...

Some ladies don't give a hoot about references and verification sites, they will want your real-world first and last name.  It is up to you how much info you are willing to give just as it is up to the lady to decide how much she needs to ask you for.

When I got into hobbying a few years ago, a provider requested my work info, full name and a picture. Guess what, I haven't heard from her since. I won't do that BS again, never again.

And just because you give out your personal information does not mean that everyone has to.

Don't lay the "classy" "polished" bit on everyone. There are many providers who are well established and well reviewed that use alternative methods to approve their sessions. Yes, this includes NYC. My playground.

Why would you suggest that anyone not come to NYC?
Just say "don't call Farrah"
See my reply to cyclist. Both of you two are still wet behind the ears.

I declined.  Interestingly that one provider, when I said "no", quickly decided I sounded like a nice guy so she didn't need any references anyway.  All the more reason I ran away.

P411, DateCheck, and references have sufficed all the other times.

It's her right to ask, mine to move to someone else.

This was precisely my point in my original posting, I am on P411, on date-check, have 30+ reviews on TER, and still, that wasn't enough, I still needed to provide my full name???   If that is the case, what value are those services???

Here is what I partially say on my website:



Why You Need References In Order To See Me

I recognize the concerns of new clients in providing personal information for reference purposes, and especially before you have even met me. The point of the following information is so that you have a clearer understanding of why references are vital for both my -and your well-being.

We both have a lot at stake here. Your concerns should your personal information be exposed, would probably include a devastating impact on, -a significant other relationship and possibly a family -a business and career, -financial fall-out, an established life.

My concerns should you turn out to be someone who would harm me, or bring some sort of other ill-will, might be harassment, coercion, serious physical injury, and even worse. I am not being melodramatic; these things happen regularly. The risk is higher for an independent provider who may, or may not have ready access to a ‘guard,' or the intimidation of an agency owner with friends should a client start any sort of unnessary drama.

An escort who references her clients is not only providing a shield of protection for herself, but also for the clients.  In an arrangement where the client meets up with the escort, you have no idea who is going to be at that location upon your arrival. If the escort does not care who she is meeting with, that could be a signal of either extremely bad judgment to the detriment of the escort (and potentially to the client himself,) or a possible set-up when the client walks in. After all, we are talking about two strangers meeting in a private setting in many situations.

Integrity is a key component when you utilize my services as your professional date. There is no way that I would ever bring any harm to you. In fact, I refuse to see anyone who does not meet my strict and very high standards. I am not here out of desperation; this has almost become a hobby for me, perhaps even amusement! I see very few gentlemen to begin with, and I plan on keeping it that way.

At a reduced fee, I would even be open to meeting you for a cup of coffee, or a glass of wine if that would help you feel more comfortable. Upon meeting, it will immediately become quite clear that not only am I a very beautiful and classy lady, I am sincere and honest. You are safe with me! A satisfying mutual arrangement is what I seek, and hopefully you will feel the same.

Other Information

I may ask for, or need the following information. Please be prepared to provide this to me should I ask; if you are not comfortable doing this, then please find a different provider - *full name, *birth date, *residing city, *private telephone number, *work telephone number (see work reference above,) *email address, and *occupation.


This is what happens to your information after fulfilling a companionship commitment:

For the safety and privacy of both parties, I do not retain ANY information once an escort date is fulfilled. You will need to re-contact me and provide your telephone number, or email address each time that we meet. This information includes, but is not limited to: names, telephone numbers, email addresses, reference checks, and so forth.

No, I had been with about 50 providers without ever being asked for my full name, which was why I was surprised when this one did ask for that, especially since she had already checked my last 30 reviews on TER and mentioned that she personally knew 3 or 4 of the providers that I had already seen....

hour ladies. Polished and classy comes at a price.

I've never been, but I don't think FS MPs and certain agencies take screening as seriously. But sometimes you get what pay for.

That's how they feel powerful and important.   There's no better feeling for a woman than to know she has you in the palm of her hand.  It's a confirmation of her sexual power.  

"Wow, he's given me all that sensitive information.   Just to be with ME!"

With providers, unlike wives, their upper bound is typically 300-500 USD per hour.  So they need some other leverage on you.  With wives, the sky's the limit.  She would love it if you broke your back to build her the Taj Mahal!

So, with providers, to get around this "upper bound", she's going to try to squeeze more out of you.  This is not monetary currency, but emotional currency.

Just for consideration, the information you have provided here does match what can be found on the website as you stated.

    I would strongly reconsider such incriminating information on you website. In the event that you were caught in a sting, trust me, all that explanation you have on your site has excellent probative value and certainly would be entered into evidence in a court of law, should you choose to go to court on the case against you.

    Another consideration is the offering of meeting for coffee in order to build confidence as it were. Believe me vice officers are very adept at seeing opportunities and working them. Meeting someone for coffee can be real enticing particularly if it meant a multi-hour date with a lot of money. It’s hard for you to decline and clearly a great opportunity for the vice officer.

    There are so many ladies busted daily in this country that it is not even news anymore. Why do you suppose that is? It’s because the vice divisions are opportunists and will take advantage of any door left open. They talk bigger lines than most clients you will ever meet trying to “tire kick” or negotiate lower rates.

TER White List Referrals, direct provider referrals, referrals from other clients, and sometimes DateCheck. They all work for most professional gals.  

Seriously, guys who give their civilian identities take MAJOR blackmail, LE and privacy risks.

And working girls who only take true ID clients have AWESOME leverage. Girl power.

I was asked for the first time today to use this thing called escort pin.  A web site you enter lots of information included credit card it supposedly posts a one dollar charge for verification purposes.  I didn't like this and passed.  Has anyone heard of this or used such a thing?

What the hell was the girl thinking with your references !!!    I  have never asked you that and never will !!!  L O L

Elise, Thank you, You are such a sweetheart! You are exactly the sweet Southern true GFE type of gal I always seek...  If only you were closer to home, I wouldn't have encountered this experience, but of course, having that temptation so near would have me knocking on your door several times a week at least... But, I would promise to bring you a ROSE! lol...

I require a full first and last name. If you have plenty of reviews of ladies I know to be reputable or if you are verified on Date-check by reputable ladies...I might let that slide and just take you on a first name basis.

some providers ask your full name and it is mainly for their safety. Just because you were good with some providers does not mean you will be good to her. What if you attack her? what is she going to give to LE your P411 number?? Put yourself in her shoes!!

While I certainly understand the need for safety, and respect any provider's decision to determine the form of identification she feels most comfortable with, for myself I would not give out a full name to someone I did not know.  This is exactly the issue that P411, Datecheck and TER whitelist are designed address, giving the provider a resource to check references without unnecessarily compromising the privacy of a new client.  Especially in light of recent government attention to agencies, I think it is reasonable to respect a new client's efforts to ensure their own privacy provided that they have confirmable references.  There really should be a happy medium, or gentlemen will lose wonderful opportunities with providers, but also visa versa.  I note that many providers go out of their way to provide references (primarily I believe to ensure the safety of their community), which I find to an extremely honorable act, so the act of giving out a full name before ever meeting is not really a necessary element to security.  But to each their own.

Several women in NYC do not charge 500 an hour and are the best times and drama free and not stuck up. But I do have the clients who can easily afford to pay 500-1000 and hour because ALL of my clients are upscale..But, the amount I charge is what they would pay for for a nice dinner and is easily explained to their so's...I love it when I see a guy who says "I wouldn't see a girl who doesn't check". Just because she doesn't ask for your personal information, doesn't mean she can't and won't get it. Trust me she is doing it. I know, because I do it and I am so good at it, you don't know I am doing it. Besides having several "friends" in the hotel business where, once I have your hotel room number, I already have your name and anything else I want. I also use several online services for those few, and I mean few clients who stay at places I don't have easy access of knowledge to. ANd for those who live in those gorgeous penthouse apartments with the fanatsic view.. you wonder how do I get your name from your doorman? oh please, you cant be that naive...

But yet, I am one of the providers you easily judge because I don't charge 500.00 an hour..But it is MY business, and mine alone..You are NOT my pimp.. oh wait...I AM MY OWN BOSS.. Can you my friend say the same? I highly doubt it. AND I bet I live in a nicer place then you do..MY 2 doorman would NEVER give out my information

You *are* "nobodyspecial"! So what if you are sucking off all the doormen in NYC. Does that make you "special"?

I bet my place is better than your place. I am on 47th street and am doing just fine not sucking off the door man and then calling it my screening process for difficult clients.

Check that, there is this one doorman.... yummy. But he too pays me. He takes me into the bell hop storage area for special activity cause he has the keys. hahahaha

I too have *"friends"* in the hotel business.

No money, no honey baby!

See, this is what happens when you assume.. You think 47th is great? lmao..think again..I never said I did ANYTHING for free...

Ignorance is bliss..

My alias just means that what I do, a lot of women do..

I can't believe you are going against a fellow provider..but just goes to show you there is no solidarity in this business..

I don't do doorman, but I will make sure to give them your number..  Doorman talk to much and I try and keep my business private.

and the "friends" in the hotel business aren't getting any freebies from me..No one does..for any reason..

I would never ask anyone that. As long as you are safe, sane and are serious, I will see you regardless of your name unless it's Jack the Ripper or something LOL!