many ladies tell me that some level of ED is very common. even studly guys being the first time with a specific lady, or too nervous or too many drinks before LOl .. so the best ladies attitude is, i want to make the gentleman happy, both to get nice review as well as repeat customer and just understanding that many guys are simply seeking a positive intimate experience.
especially in this era of safe sex, they know that hinders a lot of guys so its no reflection on the guy's masculinity. just enjoy the time. and sure a lot of girls are thrilled if the guy pops 30 seconds after taking his clothes off and before her panties comes off but again the worthwhile ladies just want to know you enjoyed their company. relax about this and i bet you do even better.
I am guessing one of two things:
1) He is not attracted to me
2) He's having performance anxiety which is perfectly normal
From my side, I often have erection issues. Mostly it is due to a combination of #1 and #2. Being very self conscious I feel the provider thinks it's mostly because I am not attracted to them. This makes my performance even worse.. Hence, my question here...
to be the easiest money I ever made.
Performance anxiety is probably common. I can't agree with "perfectly normal".
I'm well into middle age and when I can't perform it's usually because I am disappointed. Either my expectations were too high, or there was a blatant bait and switch. The second shot on goal is where my age or sub-optimal health really shows.
Collectively our hormone health is not good. It probably starts with insulin followed by cortisol.
They've seen it all.
Depending how they feel about you, whether if they're familiar with your or via internal judgment, they might be sympathetic, cynical, relieved, disappointed or indifferent.
But, of course, I'll let actual providers answer 
It's more work, because they keep blowing me till eventually I get hard enough to cum. Sometimes that uses up most of the hour.
Definitely more work!
No, I've never once thought that it was due to a lack of attraction.
All that goes through my head is "ok, let's try a few different things here" and I will usually ask if there's anything in particular which usually does it for him.
This occupation, when it's done right, is about being empathetic to the client's needs and doing one's best to meet them.
So please relax! All the lady is thinking is "how can I help him enjoy his time the most?"
"how can I help him enjoy his time the most?" Then the answer is to hand him his money back at the end. LOL
Many clients are happy to pay for a job well done.
You know, just like we should all be rewarding every type of professional rendering a service.
It means you are no longer paying her to "go away" and she has EVERY right to treat you like a boyfriend (both good and bad parts) who's role is to make HER happy rather than a paying customer who has/had the right to make it all about you.
As has been said her a million times, there is no such thing as "free" pussy. At least with a hooker (who you actually pay) you know EXACTLY how much you are paying. With a GF you don't have a clue as to what may be expected of you. lol
in my experience, hooker-girlfriends seem to have a sixth sense for knowing when its time to go away so they don't become clingy or annoying. Some of the best FWB's I've had with hookers have been on again and off again rather than continuously. You have a couple of intense weeks during a "reunion" then you may not see them for two or three months, then it repeats.
I agree about no such thing as freebies, but I like the change in their attitude when they are seeing you as a friend and NOT expecting its a paying gig for them. Granted, I will do some nice things like take them on trips, where I will undoubtedly spend more than I would have by the hour, but it becomes an unexpected gift for them and is accepted in a different light that the "envelope." It has to be the right girl with the right kind of connection and mutual attraction.
Debra's answer is exactly why I think so highly of SW's. They are some of the best people I've ever known!
This is a sugar baby's dream. Actually it's an old dude that she doesn't have to fuck. Middle aged probably won't be dead soon enough and are too sharp to change their estate plan.
I think nothing of it. I’ve had regulars that never got it up. And honestly I never considered the possibility of them not being attracted to me. It’s actually pretty common. I like to think there is a little more to our experience together than that.
When I meet someone I find a way to connect mentally (which is a turn on to me). At that point it’s pretty easy to read them intimately so to speak. It’s like a new dance parter And we always have a good time. I wouldn’t want to dance to the same song over and over again anyway. Show me some different moves.
Also don’t be afraid to bring any kind of aid you need to enjoy yourself. I’m good but I can only do so much in that regard If that’s your concern. I’m pretty sure most of us are used to it. One of the best things about this hobby, so to speak is that our date is safe space.
Relax, have fun, and experiment.
To OP
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I once wrote a blog about this. The title was Vi*g* (not sure if I can write that) is just reading glasses for your dick. Once middle age comes, for many guys getting it hard and keeping it hard gets more difficult. It is something to discuss with your doctor because if it isn't mental they can prescribe something. Just like the bulk of people over 45 seem to need reading glasses, men may need the little pill. There is no shame to this.
But I also always say the biggest sex organ is your brain and once your dick doesn't do what you want your brain gets all involved making it even more difficult. There are so many things to do that don't require your dick to be hard so relax. If you have fun then it's money well spent. Don't go into like I do w buffets thinking I got to eat everything when I should just eat little bits of this and that equal to a regular meal and be happy. Setting yourself up to do this and that or you won't get your money's worth is bound to effect the outcome.
Another thing is if it does get hard but gets soft real easy then get it hard and plop a cockring on it. Those can be very helpful. I don't like it when a client doesn't come unless we have discussed it and that's just how it is. The good providers really want you to have fun. So just talk to us , you know your body best. Tell us what works. I promise most of us won't get mad.
Better luck next time
Xo
many ladies tell me that some level of ED is very common. even studly guys being the first time with a specific lady, or too nervous or too many drinks before LOl .. so the best ladies attitude is, i want to make the gentleman happy, both to get nice review as well as repeat customer and just understanding that many guys are simply seeking a positive intimate experience.
especially in this era of safe sex, they know that hinders a lot of guys so its no reflection on the guy's masculinity.
just enjoy the time. and sure a lot of girls are thrilled if the guy pops 30 seconds after taking his clothes off and before her panties comes off but again the worthwhile ladies just want to know you enjoyed their company.
relax about this and i bet you do even better.
Honestly I have never thought it was because of not being attracted to me.
In my experience as a working girl, I've partied with a LOT of different girls and clients too, and seen clients can usually almost always get it up even for some pretty wild stuff...
Usually I think it is due to nerves or because of erection problems that they deal with all the time.
I just always want to make sure the client is enjoying his time, whether he can get fully erect or not 
A man can get excited seeing a sexy M&M. I wouldn't assume it was because they weren't attracted to me and frankly men are quite brutally honest. Most of the men I know would just leave if a provider wasn't what they wanted or expected. I assume its nerves and offer a massage that always works and takes away the pressure.
Here's something no one mentioned so far: medications. One example I know off the top of my head is antidepressants, SSRI or SNRI class in particular. Those are notorious for causing erectile issues and/or difficulty orgasming. Dopamine is responsible for sexual pleasure and its orgasmic effects, while serotonin is responsible for that mood boost after sex. But when SSRI's or SNRI's raise levels of serotonin, it crowds out the dopamine, because the number of hormonal receptors in the brain is limited. On the plus side, it makes sex a more "heady", psychological experience. In layman's terms, it means a person enjoys it more on an emotional level, despite feeling less animalistic pleasure.
Studies showed that in men, sex is more centered around dopamine (pleasure), while in women, sex is more centered around serotonin (mood). So in a way, a man on SSRI's enjoy sex more similar to the way a woman enjoys it.