I think the first thing might just be variety. If you've been seeing the same type of body year after year, boredom is likely to be a factor.
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The second factor, not to get too Freudian, is a mental archetype we tend to form in our earliest years, exposed to female breasts (typically our mothers) in childhood. This would be something really deep in our subconscious and would only pop out during exposure to similar stimulus. Not saying this is Oedipus complex, just a normal association due to early exposure.
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A lot of sexual exposure comes much later in life and is less likely to have established as strong a subconscious impact.
Random one....lately with some stresses I've had some issues getting hard. (I know it's mental not physical) My regulars who know me always get me there but even they've said it's taking mode effort. New chicks can be a real challenge.
Over the last month, coincidentally, I've had two appointments that were last minute and the ladies definitely didn't look like their pics. By TER ratings 3 or 4....Definitely not the usual 7-9 range I'm usually in. I'm talking crooked teeth / dentures trailer park, probably smoked crack at some point in their lives, Definitely well past their prime.
However, for whatever reason my dick jumped right up for them. And I probably fucked better with them than anyone in the last 10yrs.
Like wtf is going on lol? Do they just know how to get it done better? Have some special techniques to make up for lack of looks? Maybe I'm more relaxed and confident? Do I have some weird fetish? I'm so confused. I really don't wanna see them again but damn I might have to hahahaha.
The mind can never tell what junior is up to these days.
Maybe it’s because these providers are on the lower end of the attractiveness scale, that any pressure to perform is non-existent.
Went to a very fancy "holiday party" back in the day when I was still working a corporate job.. Must have been back in 2014 or 2015 (don't exactly remember). Very fancy affair. We had to dress in suit and tie, and lot of the "ladies" were dressed in cocktail dress or gowns.
How about some coconut shrimp, steak. salmon, salad bar (made to order), 10 different types of desserts on the menu. Of course there was champagne and imported beer (names of which I can't even pronounce...) There was a DJ.. All in all a very fun evening. The quality was off the charts.. Company must have spent six figures for this affair as there were close to 100 people in attendance.
One of my coworkers who didn't want to drink or didn't drink at all (don't remember which) offered me to drive back and forth, since I was gonna enjoy some free food and drinks for sure.. This guy was not only unimpressed by the food, he was carrying himself like it was a jail sentence for the whole three hours that we were there.. He was just not an outgoing person to put it mildly.. Still don't know why he wanted to come to the party and why he offered to drive me.
On the way back, he asked me if it was OK to stop by Five Guys (Burger Chain in DC area)... I said sure pal. whatever you want.. The guy ordered 2 massive cheeseburgers, fries and diet.. I just watched him eat.. That's what I did..
Sometimes the mind and the body wants what they want.. It doesn't matter what alternative is available.
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Classic example of "different strokes for different folks." I love high end--nigiri sushi. Many Americans are unable to tell the difference and believe some kind of weird roll (peanut butter and jelly--not really) is gourmet sushi.
Go figure!
I am all about different folks; different strokes or to each their own philosophy, but when you have such disparity in quality, or at least perceived quality, then the said disparity gets put in the forefront of everything. else. You have to then wonder what is really amiss, when someone presented with world class food and booze, completely paid for by someone else, they would choose to pig out on greasy, low quality, burgers and fries.
Some wiring is definitely messed up in case of OP and my coworker as well, or maybe "you can take the boy out of the hood but not hood out of the boy" adage is more apropos.
You weren’t looking to impress anyone. So in essence you were more relaxed and confident.We tend to overthink this with hot chicks and then it fucks with your brain. Why do you think most skanks turn out to be the wildest fucks..?
It’s basically mind over matter.. you don’t mind, it don’t matter.
You're probably right. On the other hand I'm not having this issue when I meet a smoking hot civvie....maybe I'm just getting bored too
whether you realize it or not. Guys that habitually jack off to porn have trained their bodies to respond to that stimulus, so they often have issued when it comes to intercourse. Similarly, the kinds of women you have been able to bed in real life is what your body and mind is used to and comfortable with. ED when you are moving up to girls who are out of your league in real life is quite common. Move down-market and this is familiar territory, so you have more confidence and fewer worries about whether you measure up. (No pun intended.).
I'm good looking, great shape, have money. I was married to a smoking hot stripper for 8yrs. It's rare that providers are hotter than what I pick up in a club. They're just more convenient. So I don't think it's a confidence issue like that....doubtful but not impossible
When I was 18, the wind got my dick hard and stayed forever. Now, a strange look or insignificant gesture I can get soft. Another day, I'm concrete. My guess is it's part of getting old with no real explanation. Let me guess, you're in your mid 50's?
I'm 40... but I know it's not a physical issue, I've seen the Dr, still wake up with a hard on, and get random elections all the time. But I own my own company that's 24/7 with 500 employees. It's just stress related for me, I can't relax. Once in a while I'll get a provider when I've had a bunch of drinks and my mind isn't able to stress, at those times I can fuck multiple times.
You're young. Try a morning session with no booze. Also, no porn for several days prior.
I completely can relate to this. In the last year I saw two “high end” providers who were drop dead gorgeous and had incredible bodies. They offered FBSM and the full experience afterwards. But even though they were drop dead gorgeous and rubbing against me while they massages me it didn’t do anything for me. When they started I started feeling nervous and started worrying I wouldn’t get an hard-on and that became the reality. Ultimately I couldn’t perform like I had wanted to or fantasized that I would. It was very frustrating and disappointing.
I also had a provider who didn’t charge as much as the others and she was heavier and looked like at one point she’d done crack, but when she started rubbing me I didn’t feel the nervousness and apprehension and I was really turned on. I had a great experience with her.
I also have had stress with losing jobs in the last couple of years and dealing with issues with my teenage kids. I also watched pornography a lot in the last few years, after my wife passed (I’m a widower) so the comments about pornography could explain why I had those experiences I have.
as to why you didn't just walk out; and
how anyone can get it up for a 3.
But seriously, probably something stress related if you're otherwise healthy and 40s if your regulars are noticing.
I'm fortunate that my go-to regular girl is hot AF and all it takes is a text message from her to give me wood. On the other hand, at 60, I struggle with a new gal. Lots of foreplay gets me there, but I have to explain that to a provider who's used to clients wanting to dive right in, so to speak.
a) I couldn't leave because it was my place. b) I was still drunk from night before so my judgement was still off. c) I was horny.
With my ATF who is a solid 9+ it's never an issue but also because she knows me and exactly what works for me after years of weekly trysts. Other regulars have indeed mentioned that it seems to take more to get me going, once I'm up I'm up.
I echo what some others have said. I think it's the total lack of stress and pressure when you are with her due to her appearance. I say this because the same thing happened to me. Went and saw a low priced local escort over a year ago. When she opened the door at her hotel room I thought "Oh no", she's not a beauty and she looks weathered and road worn for sure. And yet my cock twitched right away, after only being in the room with her for 1 minute. I've seen her a dozen times. I get rock hard instantly every time. She's hard to resist, I know how satisfying it will be every time.
I've analyzed it so many times. I would not have been in this situation when I was young. I'm older now. Sometimes there is a subtle amount of stress wth really good looking women and that can affect my cock. With this gal there is no pressure at all, not even on a minor level. I can just be myself. Zero stress. She lets me do almost anything I want and cum anywhere I want on her, and she's easy to get along with and acts grateful for the money. I always tip her good as she charges a lot less and in turn she's always happy to see me and treats me good.
I admit, it's an odd situation, but I can't argue with the success.
After you’re done, do you tell yourself that you ain’t coming back here again .. then in two weeks, you’re back at it with her?
Just curious…
have you invited any of those 3-4 range catfish back just because they were such good fucks?
I have not....the 3 I won't invite back, just felt too dirty after, figuratively speaking because she looked well put together, just looked like she's had a few rough decades...the 4 I might, idk yet, she was really just well past her prime but didn't look all beat up
For the no pressure situation, I got a chubby chick in my rotation with a pretty face who's young and fresh so there may not be a need to bring back the 4 either, other than her 24hr availability and price point.
I think the first thing might just be variety. If you've been seeing the same type of body year after year, boredom is likely to be a factor.
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The second factor, not to get too Freudian, is a mental archetype we tend to form in our earliest years, exposed to female breasts (typically our mothers) in childhood. This would be something really deep in our subconscious and would only pop out during exposure to similar stimulus. Not saying this is Oedipus complex, just a normal association due to early exposure.
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A lot of sexual exposure comes much later in life and is less likely to have established as strong a subconscious impact.