I'm finding and have made the mistake myself of only addressing male hobbyist when there are also female hobbyist. I love both sexes and I feel badly that I directed a post towards one sex and not both. If you're a provider just be sure to include everyone in your posts and not just lean it towards a certain group of people. The more points of view the broader the spectrum of insight and knowledge you can gain.

It is such a compliment when a women book you. Although, it's usually for her husband (in my case). She was the one who made the final decision.  

How come she never told me anything ? Lol

lol she politely let me know to make sure my post are directed towards everyone.

I love women. I feel like my sexual deviant comes out more freely with women.

I find myself in complete agreement.

She has not just made her point, but she has made it ad nauseam.  

Who else are the female hobbyist here? Just being curious..In good way of cours

I've gone through a decent amount of posts. I honestly don't think it's a big deal that she gives a little reminder to include everyone. As far as I've seen a good amount of providers enjoy women as well. Throwing a reminder out to include both sexes is actually really good advice in my opinion. It can draw in more business and women hobbyists remain recognized. I see no harm in what she's doing.

Well I'm sorry you feel that way but until there is an obvious way to determine who is who in terms of gender here I will continue to alert some providers that there are women hobbyists here. I'm sure some won't give a shit, but for many it is a true enlightenment since they have no idea that there are lady hobbyists here. I have met some great ladies thru it and have ended up with some great playdates too. There will always be an influx of new providers here and since they aren't telepathic it will just have to suffice. Change doesn't happen thru silence or apathy.  

Call me St Thomas ... the doubting one ... LOL

but if you'd like, I'll get TER's official archivist to count just how many posts you have made "making your point" Do you REALLY want to know how many times you've said it?

I'm not here seeking yours or anyone else's approval.

and I suppose if you don't like it, feel free to put me on ignore instead.

Lopaw is probably the most noticeable at the moment but there are a few others. Hotplants, and Vegasgirllover, to name two more, and a few others I can't think of right now. There were also a few on TER in the past, way before lopaw was around. There are also a few couples like critter137. Still they are definitely a small minority of the hobbyist community.  

I know you don't care, but the fact that his post had 9 likes says something. And yes he was the one to say it but many were thinking it. Most were either too chickenshit to bring it up or don't want to hurt your feelings. No, I won't pull up the stats on how many times you have reminded everyone that you are a lady hobbyist, but it's a lot. And anything that someone does a lot, is bound to get on other people's nerves eventually. As to putting you on ignore, I certainly don't see GaGa doing that. I don't think he believes in the ignore button and neither do I. I am certainly not going to put you on ignore. Just because one thing you say bothers me after a while, doesn't mean I don't want to read anything else you say. I enjoy reading most of your stuff. This is a discussion board. We should be free to discuss things we agree with and disagree with. I still think the ignore button is one of the silliest things that TER created. It's more of a tool for 12 year olds on Facebook. Why adults need a button to ignore someone has always been a huge puzzle to me.

I appreciate your openness, Layla, & am in total agreement with lopaw. As you're tired of lopaw's mentioning there are women hobbyists here, Gag, so I'm tired of only seeing the word "gentlemen" time after time after time. When a provider also includes "women" in her ads I definitely take notice.

The alternative is to stop assuming offense when it is clearly not intended.  

Not to mention, there is no end to it. Once you placate one minority class with "PC speak" ten more pop up and start in with the "what about me?" I want to be called xxx.

All humans judge.  It's just that social justice warriors, while shaming others for judging, are the most toxic insufferably judgmental people on the face of the planet.  

Just as an aside, I should point out that my general rants here against social justice warriors were not directed at any particular person on this thread or board.  It is just something I see too much of out in the real world.

LOL Kenya, you're not the only one.  When I was a newbie on the board, I got confused as fuck whenever Lopaw or Hotplants posted.  I think it took me about 6 months before I finally figured it out.

First of all, with very few exceptions, I think you would acknowledge that you have been accepted here by peeps on both sides. I think you add a uniqueness and breath of fresh air to this place.

the times they are a changin'. Awesome!!! People can nay-say lopaw all they want for her reminding everyone, but the more it's discussed, the more people will begin to get it- more often. And hence this kind of thread!! And as the lady hobbyists are in the minority, they damn well have to fight to keep their ground- I can't blame them for speaking up often. Who else is going to?

Next time I'm in London, Louise 😉

But way to go!! 👍👍👍