I'm sure the ladies will pipe in here but let me tell you a guy's point of view from a guy who's been going to swing parties on and off for about 20 years.
Size matters... but not as much as you might think. Sure, I've been at parties when some horse has walked in and all the ladies go ga-ga over him. But, let's be realistic - how many women can he please in a night? As guys, we've got to have recovery time and, after a while, we are just too tired. Even guys with huge shlongs need rest. If you add things like alcohol and drugs to the mix, it's even worse. At best, the guy with the huge shlong is going to do at the party maybe 3 or 4 ladies. And that usually leaves plenty of ladies for the rest of the guys.
While all of that is true, it doesn't even begin to tell the real story. I've heard this time and time again from the ladies at swingers parties: if you're clean, and polite, and respectful, and don't ignore the husbands, and basically behave like a nice guy, you'll do all right for yourself regardless of your size. As one of my female swinger friends said: "Just because a guy's got a dick a mile long, if he behaves like a dick, he can talk to the hand."
There are more things to sex than a big shlong. There's conversation. There's smell (be freshly showered). There's massaging. There's a whole world of things to do and say beside sticking Tab P into Slot V. 
And NONE of them have to do with the size of your penis.
Me, I love kissing. You won't believe how well women at swing parties respond to a good kisser (if you have their permission, of course). And, I love performing oral sex. Again, you won't believe how much play you'll get if you're good at it. The women talk to each other, you know. i picked up the nickname of "Mr. French" from a swinger after she experienced my skills and word got around to her friends. I was very popular in that group. And, i've had fun at parties without ever dropping my pants... although my tongue got really, really, really tired...
Size of shlong, age, weight, height... there's something for everyone at most swinger's parties.
If you really want to learn more about swinging and how to behave at parties, i strongly recommend joining a swinger's site like swinglifestyle.com. Most have discussion boards like this one where you can ask questions of real swingers who KNOW.
Hope this helps...
Kudos for you to enhance your sexual experiences....via swinging!! YAY!!
Regardless of what you may hear. Women wanting to be pounded all night via a huge penis is a not a requirement of a great time at a swing party. That is not what swinging is all about. It is a lifestyle choice and swingers are representative of society. Not all men who swing have porn star sized dicks, not all women who swing want or will enjoy a man with a huge dick. We love our innerds. Frankly, I prefer a man with excellent oral skills....after that....it takes almost no effort to get me off with a penis.....size does not matter.
Seriously, it is not always fun to be with a man who has a ginormous dick, it has been my personal experience that many men who have huge dicks have no clue what to do with them besides pound and drill. Sex is supposed to be a fun, sensual, gentle experience....not a test of wills to see who is going to tap out first....and I have to tap or risk loosing my innerds.
A man with a normal size dick can put it down just as well as a man with a huge dick.....it is not the size it is what you do with it.
Wanna be a great swinger? Here are some rules:
1. No always means NO
2. See a closed door, don't go in.
3. Don't assume anyone playing openly wants company.
4. Wrap it up
5. Be clean
6. Be gentle
7. Bring your A game
8. Have fun!!!
I'm 50/50 on if size matters. I've had guys w/ like your member fairly average who knew what they were doing with it and i've had guys slightly better well bigger than average to flat out huge not know what they were doing at all so...though I like something that can "hit the back" of the vagina, he necessarily need to be hung to make the sex feel really good. And either way if it's average or larger/longer i'd like it to have some thickness to it too.
Well, there is always two sides to every coin! I agree with those who said skill, personality, cleanliness, and other factors usually outweigh size in most situations. I can also tell you there are downsides to size... I'll give you a few examples from personal experience, some you might find humorous...
I have been turned down more times than not by providers who offer greek, once we meet in person.
I have very rarely experienced a DT BJ...
Sitting on some public toilets can be a hazard, because nobody likes their wick to be dipped in that polluted liquid!
Finding condoms to fit has been quite a challenge, and many providers insist on using only their own brands/choices, which typically aren't XL.
But back to "swing parties", as in all venues of life, there are so many different types of people with different tastes, likes, and dislikes, there is hardly ever a problem finding others amongst a group of people that match up perfectly well with you! Go forth without worrying about it and Enjoy Yourself!
Of course there's 2 sides to every coin, thought I covered that in my reply. Though in what i call "front sex" aka vaginal I have a size preference but if a guy is a bit under that or a bit over doesn't again bother me much if they are good at it lol. NOOOWWWW as for azsekz aka doin' it in the backyard I prefer very average or smaller even lol even with a lot of lube it's easier to deal with.
Sucks you rarely experienced DT BJ ...are you trying to brag? ;-p lol Maybe i'm like a monster w/ little gag reflex but i've taken down real big ones if there's ever an issue it's usually because the guy has a freakish curves. I also TRY to have a variety because I try to accomodate one I see.... I see guys who are teeny tiny to wait-a-minute big.
And at the swing party i'm sure most of the guys will reflect his size so I think he'll be just fine lol
