I just got back from my first multiple hour date date tonight with an ASP. This was the fourth time I have seen this provider, and the previous three were all pretty good. Went out on a limb, and set up a longer date, threw down for some sweet NBA tickets, and was expecting a fun night out.
She must be bipolar or something, because this was the worst date I've ever had. Disaster with a capital D. She talked more to the guys sitting next to us then to me, that is when she wasn't busy texting her girlfriends on her cell phone.
The thing I don't get is this. If a lady is in this business, and she has a client who she has seen a few times, who has tipped her well, and then takes her out on a high dollar date, she at least better pretend she is into it. I don't need an Oscar type acting performance, but come on, at least pretend.
Needless to say, her upcoming review is not going to do her much good.
Learned a valuable lesson though, which is to never take an escort out on a real date again.
BUT....It's a two way street.
They're human too, many men, from what I understand, have a hard time wrapping their minds around that.
You need to ask yourself....
We're the signs there previously?
Carry on.
I feel like when someone does something nice for you, whether it's "business" or not, you should act grateful. A night out, watching an NBA game live sounds like a great time by itself but being compensated for it, yeah- she should have played her part.
Yes, us ladies are human but we're also business women. Regardless of any "signs", leaving one of your best clients significantly dissatisfied is not good for business.
I wouldn't say give up on going out on real dates though, just pick 'em better. I've been out on many "real dates" and I've ALWAYS enjoyed myself and the man I accompany always enjoys himself as well.
Sure there were signs. The main one being that the close in parking was full and we would have to walk a ways to get to the game. Not a big deal, since every one else was having to park there too, (if you are not a bipolar nut job getting hundreds of dollars for the night out). Sorry, but maybe next time I should get a limo to drop us off right out in front? Still, between the parking, tickets, and the date, I'm out some serious coin for a date that turned out badly. My point is that if the lady is a professional, she should act like it. If she is not, she is in the wrong business, and she should save this shit for the guys who are not helping to pay her bills and rent.
"pretty good" and "going out on a limb" are thoughts that would nix spending additional money, for me.
Cool?
These events have nothing to do with the old scapegoat, "she's got a civvy life too"... This is just plain rude. Personally, if it were me and I had not already given her a donation, she would certainly have gotten a discounted amount and a quick end to the "date".
You're making an incorrect inference. See my reply above........
Shorter encounters. Sorry that this happened to you.
There are always lessons to be learned. However, over reacting to situations leads us to "learn" the wrong lesssons....
A better lesson to take from the experience would be to figure out what indicators there are in terms of the interpersonal factors that might suggest better compatibility for including "dating" in your relationship with a provider.
Another lesson might be to ask the lady in advance if she would enjoy a particular type of date (assuming here that you did not ask in advance since your narrative does not say so)
There are many escorts I have greatly enjoyed fucking. But with whom I realized right off that I did not have much in common.
How much do you *need* to have in common to have a good shag, after all?
Ironically you need to have a hell of a lot more in common with a woman, provider or civvy, to have a good time with your clothes *on*.
Another factor - I've met some providers who are true divas, who know their way around the bedroom and a guys wallet lol, but who do not have very much companionship potential. Too self absorbed lol.
My advice for what it's worth would be to keep things with escorts simple and about service for donation.
Until or unless you meet a lady with whom you have excellent rapport - as tested over many months, not just a few dates.
Then and only then *discuss* with the lady whether she might like to accompany you on a date, and make sure in advance that she is enthused (or capable of showing enthusiasm) for the particulars you have in mind.
But, at the end of the day, my opinion is that hobby is not really not about "dating", though sometimes you do meet a lady in this biz with whom you can really enjoy spending time together outside of the bedroom.
She doesn't sound bipolar to me. She sounds like an irresponsible, immature, inconsiderate and uncaring teenager with no brains!! Not a professional escort on a date having bipolar or any other kind of mental illness problems. She is just a BRAT and needs to grow up if she is going to work in this line of work! No professional and mature provider would do that to any client! Don't quit on all providers just because you made the mistake of choosing a brat for your big date out. Just be more careful who you choose next time. I suggest trying an inexpensive and shorter date out before going on a big date with a provider, if that is what you are wanting. That way you can see if she works well with you in an outside atmosphere before investing a lot of money and time in her. Sounds more enjoyable then quitting on all providers in my opinion.
never that one again might be more realistic.
You need to avoid folks:
who are so all about themselves that they use their time out with you to advertise themselves
who while providers are really hobbyists and have an unprofessional attitude (they are so much into their own fun they let service go to hell)
etc.
I've had terrific fun outings with ladies by avoiding those like that. The other pitfall to avoid is that a lady who is a terrific time out on the town might start taking you for granted and misbehave slightly. Then it might be good to give her a rest. Remember that over familiarity breeds contempt, this may be only a business for her.
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rather than an MILF. The younger girls often (not always) do have the social skills for that type of event; especially the obsession to be texting all the time.
Also, you didn't say if she had several drinks which may have led to her behavior.
Wow that sounds like a fun date! Or a date that would be awesome to me! I have gone to a hockey game with a client..I LOVE Capitals. So if I went out it would be me and you baby, some good drinks good food and great fun afterwards, and before!!!!!
Sorry didnt work for you...
I have taken my ATF of 5 yrs on alot of long term dates and keeps getting better and better !
So dont lump them all in one basket because of one bad experience.
Providers no different than any other female, or us men for that matter. You find out a great deal of a person outside of the bedroom. There were many women in my life where the physical attraction was there, but out and about time was a disaster.
Set up a longer date with a simple dinner before festivities a few times. If it's there for an hour dinner, consider something longer. If not, you've not lost much.
Guess I got lucky. The provider I've seen and I have hit it off damn well. Now we never do anything shorter than an overnight. Dinners, drinks, chat time, going out, and in general just making sure there is plenty of time for talking and laughing are all mandatory activities now, and have not for a minute felt we weren't having a kick ass time. A session without that is just not complete anymore!
If that's what you want, keep looking!
and she can kiss you on the balls.
(ba-doom)
It was just her and the reviews will speak for themselves. Some girls are great for an hour, and other are great at long term dates.