how often, if ever, has any client ever really told a provider, even one he knows quite well, what he would really like to do, knowing full well that it would very likely cross her boundaries by a mile.

As a serial fantasizer, I often lie awake at nights with a boner thinking about the things I'd love to do, but rarely do I ever breath a word of it lest the gal freak out.

The one time I recall many years ago I asked a gal whom I knew very well, and whom I knew was a semen-phobic to let me come on her face.  After some time she agreed to allow it but insisted on a staggering fee, which I agreed to.  That was the only time we ever did it but I can still remember the experience clear as a bell over 20 years later.  Suffice it to say, she is still pretty semen-averse.

Anyone else have experience with this, from both sides of the fence?

I'd be interested to hear how any providers deal with requests that are "one (or more) step(s) beyond."

who wanted to suck another man's cock.  I arranged for a male escort to join us during our session and we were off to the races.  It was his fantasy and who am I to deny that.

I don't usually get much opportunity to dish about such things, so I will grab onto this slightly-relevant topic in order to share!

Nothing like a hot woman dressed as a nurse with matching heels.  I also like crazy shit like a brunette in a black vampire costume with the fangs and cape.  I noticed most providers start to balk at stuff like this.  So, I am left to dressing up Rosie Palm with my imagination.  What can I say, I like trick or treat all year long, not just at Halloween.  
     I have also done things like having a provider mush up a banana with their barefeet, and then have me lick the mess off their feet and from between their toes.  By the way, she said the banana felt just awesome on her feet.  I have a serious foot fetish and enjoy a variety of ways to spice that up.  Problem with a lot of fetish type stuff, most providers will not combine it with PSE.  The few that will, usually have a very expensive fee to go with it.  So, again its Rosie Palm and my imagination to the rescue.
     Seems out of the ordinary interests carry an out of the ordinary price and a special provider to pull it off.  Makes those few times that I have had a chance to play like this very memorable.

..what really turns me on. I don't think it is odd or nasty but not everyone does it and I admit to at first being hesitant to ask. One escort I asked was very lackluster and when I offered some guidance she freaked out and said "How about you give me $100 and we end it right now".  When setting up an appt I give the escort my TER handle and ask her to read my most recent reviews in order to see what I freak over. I have had good luck recently but part of the luck is man made, ie, doing my research.

I go BBFSCIP with my ATF  You can't fufill a fantasy any better than that.

That being said, semen on the face or in my mouth is pretty clearly listed as a hard limit of mine.  I don't like it at all.
On the other hand, I dont mind being bruised or marked during impact play as long as its below the neck.  

In some ways that makes a lot of sense. Less pounding or wear and tear on the VJ. She said she was all natural so the condom was her only defense against your swimmers. If your swimmers land on her face, it's the equivalent of a failed amphibious assault. They all died on the beach. It's a major turn on for guys and they end doing all the "hard" work of extraction. Everybody wins.

If the request is more surface, like the spooge on the face, I would charge like a wounded bull for the act as I hate it and find it degrading to me, however the pain/discomfort factor is very low (eyes shut of course).  

Hi I'm London By the way.....
You have a very Excellent Point, US as Providers,Escorts,Play mates, Strippers and etc. Are here to Provide you guys with Your Fantasy not just Any fantasy. Something you don't get at home or Elsewhere. I personally tailor each Experience to that individual. Unfortunately some providers fall short many times. I do what I Can for my clients, the longer I see a client the more flexible I become to Request with no extra charge. Over time me and my clients develope some type of relationship. Which makes a more intimate encounter then the last.

My ATF for the last 5 months has me really pushing my boundaries,things i never even thought i would do,its really been fun and i do not think she knows what No means...anything i have mentioned has been handled..

I don't think there are many of us that will be offended or judge your requests, so IMO its always worth asking.  
I have one client that calls me before every appointment to discuss his fantasy for the day. So far I haven't said no to anything. I obviously have my limits, but the more often we see each other the more inclined I am to accommodate you, with no extra charges.

There are some BCD fantasies I have no problem providing - surface fantasies, as you put it. For instance, edging, role play, doubles, and countless other things. Some light BDSM (I'm not really hard-core, tho), too. It can be fun.

But things like long lost lovers or doing my employees bride to be before her wedding day, simple stuff like that, are things that are difficult to pull a provider into even though no boundaries are crossed. One reason why I'm taking some time to abstain from seeing providers.

When providers ask what I want them to wear, I laugh..

Some 15 years ago, I had a favorite whom I met at an MP, then we started seeing each other regularly at hotels for a little over a year.  It was kink-light:  She wore a large silver crucifix that she liked to bang me in the face with while she did cowgirl on top of me.  Being Jewish, this really was a turn-on.  (Each your heart out Inicky.)

So, one day I'm on top and my regular finish was to take off the cover and come on her gorgeous pencil eraser nipples, natural Bs, but I decided what the hell, and asked to come on her face.

Well sir, I might as well have asked to piss on her mom's grave.  She pushed me off of her, tossed on her clothes, and marched out the door without a word.  That was the last I ever saw or heard of her.

Since then, I've been understandably gun shy.

I have one gal who was always telling me that this is a crazy business.  One gal's vanilla can be another's cyanide.

Case in point:  Tomorrow, I'll be seeing about the sweetest waif of a provider you can imagine, but she is strictly FBSM/tantra, clothed, no mutual touching, and certainly no FS.  Her boundaries are such that she won't even let me pay her to have a meal with me, much less spend the night*.  But she has one rule I must obey:  I MUST come on her face to finish.  So twist my arm gal.

Go figure.

So long as the client's request is within my limits (not necessarily my preferences, just my professional limits) I am happy to oblige.  

No Shame and No Blame

I think a big theme underneath what we are discussing is the shame that men often feel in revealing their deepest, darkest most shadowy sexual fantasies for the fear of having women point critical and shaming fingers at them. We live in a society where it is very difficult for men to find a safe space to open up and be brutally honest about their innermost sexual demons and most women are not equipped to hold man's true desires in a way that provides these men with a safe outlet to unleash their sexual fantasies. One of the many reasons I enjoy my craft as a Courtesan is because most of the time I adore men and really love being a place for them to share whatever is really going on in their sexual psychology. Even if some parts of their fantasy go unexplored with me, at least they can open up and this is part of the healing equation where men in our world are aching to be heard, understood and fully seen by the feminine.

Re: No Shame and No Blame

Although I've never had a double, I do have a fantasy that I consider to be very hot and I most likely won't ever get to experience, but here goes.

in NYC who'd be happy to humor fantasy #1. Of course, 'swim at your own risk' lol.  

A while back, I developed an unreasonably trusting professional relationship with a provider. From the beginning, due to intense chemistry and perfectly aligned sexual appetites, nothing was off limits between us. Nothing. All my deepest fantasies were explored, quite enthusiastically on both ends. That's just how we got down. But our very last session was a gift. I asked her to design a 2-hour date doing whatever *she* wanted, and that I'd consent to any sexual act she requested involving the two of us. She had a week to plot her own paid fantasy fuck fest with me. No rules except one: She was Boss.

I'm in Atlanta, not NY

#2 - easy and fairly common in a doubles session.

I like to finish in the gals mouth, as long as she is willing to give a BBBJ I will usually ask whether it be a civie encounter or P4P. The best is when a gal just does it with out having to be asked. I can't say I've ever seen a woman take severe offense to the request.

Completely aware of that, that's why I said it probably wouldn't ever happen. I'm very clean and DDD free and prefer to stay that way.

...but first my fantasy (however impossible it seems now) is to have sex with a willing woman in utter weightlessness, like the astronauts in space—if ever it has truly been done by those that have been sent up there? But then again, I’d be just as happy to experience weightlessness in space alone. Other than that, the COF wouldn't much work out anyway and to wonder, after the release, what new shape and expression the semen would take in a weightless environment—all that goo-like-sticky just floating around. Eeeeeeuuuoooooh!

at least he didn't kick you in the shin and make it an angry pirate

... but unless one is very naive it's nothing more than marketing and there's very, very little chance that it was said in sincerity.

Yes, I have some specific fantasies, and when I want one fulfilled, I know exactly who to call. But over the years, I've found it to be way more fun to just let things play out with each individual lady. It doesn't matter if it's a first session, or a thirtieth. I can't tell you how many times I've been surprised, and shocked about the discoveries I've made. I'm always discovering that I like things that I didn't think I'd like. I could give you a hundred different examples, but let me just talk about a recent session. I've described parts of it in another section of TER.

... turned out it was a giant turn-on for one of my favorite providers. On our first date, she literally begged me to COF and then rub it into her face and chest. That was a first for me and it was ok, but the fact the provider loved it made it a lot of fun, just watching her reaction.  

As long as you pay her enough money and it's within her personal limits.

I don't advertise it because many men who want such things get too graphic in our correspondence for my comfort. However, I'm quite happy to discuss these things in person with established friends, and have had some really hot scenes. I'm not into pain or humiliation for either party, though. I do love T&D.

A time ago, a gal did tell me that she wouldn't know what I wanted if I didn't ask.   That makes a lot of sense and I've never forgotten it.