The deepest neurotic bullshit happens around sex. So naturally, this little game of ours attracts some very fucked up guys who play out their neurotic inadequacies relating to women by humiliating and degrading sex workers. Virtually all the shitty behavior you just described falls into this category.

Since the pandemic, I have seen the level of respect men direct towards women on the boards plummet. They also like to hide behind an alias as well. I have been in the hobby for many years and I have never seen it this bad.

Yes it's real. Whether it's fear or resentment or an attempt at manipulation, women of all occupations are affected by male bullies.
I've been angered by fake pics or profiles, but can't imagine taking it out on the provider, other than in a review.

I’ve been around a LONG time, and you don’t usually get to my age without learning something.  
One thing is, that people who belittle, run down, or insult others are compensating for their own feelings of inadequacy. Sometimes Napoleon complex, sometimes lack of power, or money, or status. For whatever reason, they feel the need to drag others down so they feel superior in some way. Because they really are not superior as they think.  People have a need to feel valuable, or special in some way. Sometimes the only way they can do that is by trying to tear down others. It’s not always mysogeny.  When you feel this happening to you, know that whoever is doing it feels less than you, and wants to feel better about themselves.

The fact of the matter is that there are just evil or sick people in society. There is no getting around that. I know that is of little comfort to you but try to to concentrate on all the people who are decent, kind and wonderful, which I believe most people are. Again, I am sorry that you had to endure this. It's not right. Just keep your head held high and let the idiots do as they may. Karma will take care of them for you.

experience are under the misapprehension that since they are paying you, they are entitled to do anything they want, including being rude and psychologically abusive.  There will always be guys like this, just like there will always be providers who are full of themselves and treat their customers poorly.  In my experience, there are more good people in this biz than there are assholes, jerks and divas.  Just chalk it off to lack of education and social skills and ignore them when you can.  

I am surrounded by love, and don’t give my energy to rude & disrespectful individuals. I just turned 44, but apparently I look the same as I did 20 years ago according to my lover. Don’t sweat the small stuff! I think your lovely! Xoxo Smile for me!

Your lover just wants your pussy, and will say whatever he needs to, in order to get it..  

Why not ignore the detractors and just provide good customer service to clients..  

In Vegas a while back you remind me of Bridget Bardot. Sexy pout and all!  

I have NO academic studies or other stuff to back this up but I'm going to suggest that changing norms have caused many people to question what they see and believe. To explain, I mean the MAINSTREAMING of cross-dressing, transgender, and related stuff.  It is 1000s of years old, but usually not in the mainstream. (Was Joan of Arc trans? Etc.).
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Years ago, when, in the mainstream, you saw someone in a dress with long hair and feminine cosmetics, it was a gal. Men's clothing, appearance, and comportment said, "That's a guy." This excludes fringe clubs and underground stuff, like drag queen clubs that go back a long time: probably over 100 years in the US alone. Milton Berle dressing up as a woman or Lucille Ball dressing as a man on their 1950s TV shows was SO obviously comedy that I exclude that, too: NOT mainstream. Through the ages, cross dressing, transvesticism, transgender, etc. became more common and, to some extent, more accepted.  
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In the 1970s(?), a highly respected (and old) English cleric used to dress as a woman and go shopping with his wife one day per week in another city. One day, a parishioner happened to bump into them in a major department store and said, "Hello Mrs. Smith. Hello, Your Grace." and went on his way. The reverend stepped down and retired from his position. (Can't find the story using google.) Today, trans clergy are becoming more common and more accepted in SOME churches.  
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Over the most recent decade or two, I have no idea what gender I am looking at sometimes. I'm not judging and I don't care, but I'm just saying. When I go into stores, libraries, just walking around, riding the subways, ... I don't think that I have any outward reaction but I know that my brain is thinking, "I'm not sure ... guy or gal? REALLY looks like a guy but for the dress and makeup. Sort of looks like a guy but those are girl-boobs under that T-shirt, not man-boobs or fat on an otherwise healthy and trim looking person, and other features (facial; hair; etc.) are very feminine. ..."
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I can throw in the internet making it much easier to see the mainstreaming of female and male impersonators that are incredibly convincing. E.g., the katoeys in Thailand that are MORE beautiful than real Thai gals! There are on-line photo quizzes, almost all of them displaying female photos, that ask, "Male or Female" that most people can't pass!  
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On the one hand, I don't care as I'm not asking any of them out on a date or to marry me or even have sex with me. I'm just saying that I don't know what to believe when I'm looking right at them ... or even talking with them such as when they are clerking in a book store ("Excuse me. Can you please direct me to the Self-Help Books section?" "FIND IT YOURSELF!")  
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So what I'm saying is, is that today, you can put me in a room with a beautiful naked person that LOOKS like it is probably a women and my mind MIGHT race not to a wrong conclusion but to an area of total doubt. "Am I on candid camera? Is this a bait and switch? Am I being pranked? ... She's beautiful! Or should I ask? Should I run? Should I just try to enjoy it? ... ???"  
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Using TER and reading reviews, there should be no doubt about what you might be getting into (double entendre intended  .  If someone is not using TER they might not realize how insulting it is to ask ... but these days, what you think might be the most beautiful woman might not be.  
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I hope that the reasoning makes sense even if it's incorrect explanation.

I try to understand why some  hobbyists and providers are so rude and mean, it’s just don’t make any sense to me, I live by treat people the way you want to be treated, coeur-de-lion is right about some guys feel like since they paying you they should be able to do and say what they like, providers who are mean and uptight probably run across some jerks and there attitude changed toward clients, what ever the case might be I don’t name call or get a bad attitude, I just move on to the next, hobbling is so much more fun with ladies who truly appreciate there clients and don’t take anything for granted!

Curly was responding to QueenBia not you. (the post asking to post pictures from 20 years ago).

Ok, Victoria. I may be new here, and unfamiliar with all the personalities and attitudes. And, at my age, I could really GAF less. I will give you my unsolicited opinion. I have only now looked at your website and some other sites with you on them. If there is any “man” who sees anything deficient in you as a woman, he is either blind, insane or of questionable proclivities. You are a complete knockout. A grand slam home run.  I’ve been around, seen the elephant and heard the owl. I’ve traveled, lived overseas, and seen and done things most have not. I cannot find anything about you, that I have seen, that suggests anything but a stunningly beautiful woman.
The fact that you have French culture in addition, is only a lagniappe. Mon cher, ignore the barbarians who appreciate nothing. Why waste your time and emotion on the philistines? Spend your time where and with whom you are appreciated. Treat their opinions with the disdain they deserve, and ignore them.
I’m off my soapbox now.  
Oh, and if you are EVER in the DC/Northern Virginia area please let it be known. I would consider it a singular pleasure to meet you.

I see you really pulled down the jeans so you could find out.

I've been trying to get in contact with you!

Check you email and p411.  I responded to you on both.

If you can't tell a hot woman from a man with tits, you are probably not seeing enough providers.  Get busy booking and it will get you up to speed.  Lol

Misery Loves Company.  Miserable people only get a charge if they can make other people miserable, by belittling, lying, and being disrespectful. So thankful I have the time, luxury, and wherewithal to experience  the best this hobby has to offer. If I don’t say so myself, I am very kind, considerate and respectful to those I meet in and out of our hobby.  And I have a number of OKs  to prove this.  Most ladies I have seen are delighted when I re-engage with them.  I just try to live by the golden rule!

Consider the whole BDSM universe, why does that behavior exist?  Why would someone enjoy torturing someone else, and why would someone enjoy being tortured?  Someone who enjoys being rude is in the same spectrum as a BDSM sadist.  
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The best explanation for BDSM I've seen is from the book The Pragmatists Guide to Sexuality.  Their conclusion is that "evolution is a cheap programmer."  Arousal and aversion share the same circuitry.  In some people it gets inverted. It is no wonder then that some things that most people find extremely repulsive, there are a few that find those things erotic.
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And then we have self-selection ... the people who go against community standards and laws (such as procuring escorts) tend to include less desirable members of society -- certainly over-represented in any event.
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So yes, anti-social tendencies, inverted aversion/arousal impulses, sadism, etc, are going to be over-represented in our little corner of the universe.
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I think if you understand that, then you can more easily discount their comments.

You mean hissy fit as in double period at the end of a sentence, and period outside the quotes? How about lack of use of a definitive article?  

I think she is too upset to think rationally.. LOL

"It's like those French have a different word for everything."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q_8amMzGAx4
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Sacre bleu! I just found "Total Eclipse of the Heart" en francais!  
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTjPIeU4TjI
Bonnie Tyler and Kareen Antonn

“The French don’t care what you say, as long as you pronounce it properly”  Henry Higgins

Dites quoi? De quoi parlez-vous, 'Le Pecheur?

So, Steve Martin says that the French have a word for everything.