I’m an older guy and I’ve been doing this for a while (decades).My experiences have been mostly great and I’ve ran into some high quality ladies. I tend to stick with a regular girl if she is capable of meeting my needs. In the past year I had a girl retire that I was seeing rather exclusively. She retired and so I went looking for someone new.

 I’ve seen 5 different girls in the past year . 2 of the girls who were well reviewed with good reviews on multiple sites were doing hard drugs. One doing coke and the other a nasal spray. The snow girl I had seen a few times before. She starts telling me how her and another girl in the group of girls were doing it with another client. In no way do I come across as I’m ok with this stuff. I drink and maybe an edible once in a while. The nasal spray girl I seen once before commented she didn’t like the drip in her throat. I inquired what kind of medication it was. She goes oh it’s ketamine my friend gets it for me. It just makes everything nice! These are higher end girls.

I don’t review anymore because I’ve found that it’s ymmv. Basically , I just want to know if she’s legit and safe. Even if I was to review a lady I don’t want to include this! But I certainly don’t want to be around it. I’ve been doing it for a long time and it just struck me as a wtf situation. Maybe it’s been like that since I started and I just never ran into it.

For the most part, this isn't my experience. When seeing a higher end lady, more often than not, she doesn't come across as if she's on drugs or has a drinking problem. The few times I would say this happened is when I saw a Too Good to Be True lady. This is usually a well reviewed lady that is priced lower than most ladies rated as well as her. But usually, if you read closely there are some red flags. I guess most guys don't downgrade a lady who might be slightly older and/or an alcoholic/drug user if she's still decent looking and provides good service. In my case, she was still good looking and performed well enough. But I was very turned off by the fact she was clearly a functioning alcoholic and there were some red flags. In the end, I figured out why she kept her price point down compared to other comparable ladies.

 
The fact of the matter is, if smaller details bother you, you need to work a little harder and read between the lines with reviews. I would even suggest contacting a few guys who has seen them recently. I have found a DM can result in them sharing stuff they didn't feel comfortable putting in their reviews.

Sounds like a string of bad luck. Id look at the reviewers names and take that info with a grain of salt moving forward.  

Ive been extremely dilligent with reading these reviews and finding the right ladies to meet my needs. Its never going to be 100% accurate, but its worked great for me for over 2 decades now.  

I dont do drugs though and would be super turned off by a gal trying to toot while im trying to fuck. As far as ket gal goes, she will be nuttier than a fruitcake within the next 5 years.  

I like seeing providers that actually care about their future.

This is more common than some guys think. There are a lot of clients that enjoy drinking and doing drugs with providers. While some providers prefer to stay sober while with clients (or at least make that claim in their ad), there are also many providers that drink and do drugs both with and without their clients. Most providers are usually more careful about this stuff while around clients. However some ladies are less “professional” than others or fall into addiction. A lot of guys, myself included, have stories about a favored provider becoming addicted to drugs. It is what it is. In these types of situations you have to be selfish and think about yourself. At a minimum, never book these providers again. You could also ask that the provider remain sober. You can also end the appointment early. You could try asking for your money back (if you’ve handed it over already) but YMMV on that.
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So, TL/DR yes this is something I’ve seen. I’ve also noticed an overall decline in professionalism the past few years, so I’m not surprised this is something you’ve seen much more recently.

Could just be coincidence. Anyways was just curious at others experiences. Thanks all appreciate the responses.

If you have to ask her to stay sober its not worth booking. Fish. Sea.

Even if you don't suspect a provider isn't on d.rugs she might be or might be taking it after. Same with alcohоl.

And honestly it's true for everyday life and people in general as well.
And working this job ain't easy, so many turn to different Dr.ugs of choice.

 
I would also point out that some people aren't necessarily turned off by provider dr.ug use especially if she holds it together. Cоke and mеth can turn a frigid woman into a horny slut. I've had sex with a civvie who was on blow and holy shit she almost made me tap out when I was in my prime. Like she just wanted D in all holes and squirted non stop. I've had sex with same civvie when she wasn't on it and it was average at best sex.

I've had convos with dudes about shops who'd be like "yeah girls there don't do any dr.ugs, but if you bring them a line or two they are not gonna say no". Lol.

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Id prefer mid sex with a gal that isnt spun.  

Ive had both. Drug fueled sex turns me off big time, i cant get into it.

Yea, Chemsex/PnL is definitely a thing. Mixing drugs and sex can be fun to a degree. I get the feeling many providers are pretty good at reading people/clients. They probably can tell which clients would be cool or not cool about drugs and drug use. OP said he likes to drink and do edibles, I’m guessing the providers in question got a certain vibe from OP but read the situation incorrectly. That’s also why I’m also not surprised some clients on this board never run into this situation at all and are flabbergasted by OPs story.

That's fair, I'm just saying some folks don't mind it. It's not like an industry such as doctors where you really don't want your doctor to be on D.rugs at any time. Or even have an alcoholic drink in him/her.  

And yeah there were instances where I refused to have sex with someone who was drugged out of their mind because I was worried for their sanity and was turned off.

 
Yes, it probably is best that she only does it if you want her to, that would be more professional.

So, I’m of the mind that stoned sex (THC) is the best sex…mildly stoned that is. Love a little buzz from a tincture just before the appointment. It makes everything feel so sensual. Ladies are fine with it for the most part, knowing that I won’t be stoned out my gourd. And some will partake as well.

I  use TER as one aspect, but not weighted more that other things. If it's an independent girl, I use TER like general verification. I look at their other social media if they have it and also what communicating with them or their assistant is like. Hunting for a new atf sucks.