First of all, while we may use such terms in advertising, trannies for the most part don't like to be called "trannies" or shemale, ladyboy, gender bender, it, etc.
We like being referred to as TS, transsexual, transgendered, t-girls, girls, or simply "her."
Next I would suggest reading the TS forum on TER, as well as some of the other forums for TS's. If you go to our web site, then to the links page in our yahoo news group there are links to several good sites.
So far as what dating a TS can be like. It can range from being indistinguishable from dating a "GG" (genetic girl) to "doing it" with a man in a dress. Some are knock out bombshells, others barely pass. Most will be somewhere in between.
Some TS girls are on hormones, some are not. Generally a transsexual is considered to be a person who internally feels they are of the other gender, and on a transitional path toward to other gender regardless of their outward appearance. (hence "trans") While a transvestite is usually considered somone comfortable with a male body, but a preference for feminine appearance, even to flamboyance. A "crossdresser" is generally considered one who dresses in the clothing of the opposite sex for erotic purposes or sexual gratification.
But I say "generally" because there is always a blurring of the lines. For many of us gender and sexuality is fluid. Myself, I am a girl with a boys body. A boygirl. Sexually I'm a straight, bi-sexual, gay lesbian. (I like boys as a girl, girls as both a boy and a girl and I'm in a same sex relationship with another TS.) giggle...
Some TS's are "tops" some are "bottoms" some are "versitile." Always be sure to ask your provider her preferences before your date. One place where misunderstandings occur in the TS hobby is in who does what to whom. Be sure you are both on the same page ahead of time to avoid disappointment.
Providers also run the range from good to ghetto. Just as with GG providers, read the reviews, look for a girl with a track record and you won't usually go far wrong.
Most TS providers live and work in larger cities. In part because some rural areas are less accepting of alternative choices in life, but mostly because that's where the boys (and support services) are.
So if you live in an area lacking in TS companions you may need to save it for when you are visiting a larger town.
And if you are ever in San Diego please give me a call, we'd love to introduce you to "the other side!"
Giggle,
TS Jamie
