Hi,
I recently inquired to an ad on Tryst from a provider who advertised in multiple cities in CA. She wanted a 50% deposit, which I wasn't comfortable with. After agreeing to a 20% deposit which I paid, she disappeared. This is the 2nd time in the past year this has happened (the other time there was no negotiation about the deposit). I feel as if I'm seeing more providers on tryst purporting to serve multiple cities, and wonder if this is a scam to exploit prospective clients. Of course, I'm now quite leery of any provider asking for a deposit.
Should I "out" the two provides who did this on TER to help others, or might that expose me to public disclosure of my information?
Any advice is appreciated. Frustrated.

Did you check to see if she has at least 50 reviews and ads/presence. Did her phone number/email match with the one she had on this site…it is very important to check all of this. I hope that helps…sorry that has happened to you 😞

So for any provider that asks for a deposit, I will only do that if I can find multiple reviews that they are legit.  There are far too many scammers out there for me to risk my dollars on unknown quantities.  Do note, there are plenty of legitimate providers that do require deposits, but always verify them on TER first.

I'd go scorched earth on these scammers. Air em out!  

Don’t put down a deposit! Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice….

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ad on multiple cities a give away its fake especially if they dont also post a travel schedule.    NEVER EVER give a deposit so someone you dont know or at the very least isnt someone with a large number of reputable reviews...  watch out for someone who has reviews but all the "reviewers"  have only posted 1 or 2 reviews  

I've been burned three times twice by Tryst girls. Twice deposit scams, once photo shopped listing that was probably 25 years younger in the photos than the 50year old that showed up. When I files a scam ntice with Tryst,,, they said they were investigating,,, for 3 months,, then no response about the complaint and I had zelle records, screen shots of the texts, PROOF positive the listing was a scammer... But they did nothing. Didnt even remove her listing and let her change her listing name.  

I don’t think an arbitrary number like 50 reviews is necessary if there is a solid review pattern. Some providers like myself are extremely low volume.   Less reviews over a longer time period are equally valuable as are reviews from clients with a well established review history.

That blows. These days I verify first with reviews and then consider a deposit. Ideally reviews on this site give some peace of mind, but even some review history on that shitty PD site would be better than flying blind.  
Whether to "out" them or not is a judgement call. You'd help others by outing the thieves, but If you're concerned about your info being exposed maybe err on the safe side and let it go. And stop using providers with no verifiable reviews?

You can certainly "out" them but if they're truly just scammers, well, they'll just grab new pics and make up new names and go right on with what they were already doing.  HOWEVER, if they've got YOUR personal information, you should take the beating and make more intelligent decisions moving forward and hope to hell that their next step isn't extorsion.

You need to report them to trust, out them here and right a review of them as a scam.  

I personally see Tryst as a low budget site. Private Delights is the worst. I would trust TER and P411.  
It’s so sad that this happens so often. I personally also got burned by so many clients and they cancelled last minute once I booked the room and canceled my other plans that I personally only meet via deposit only now so that if the client canceled at least I won’t loose $300 on the hotel I booked with my own money. Must protect yourself from both sides

It’s weird you feel the need to ask. Sharing is caring. I want to know. I unfollow scammers on social media. I don’t want to be affiliated.

I’m sorry this happened to you. If you’ve tried to resolve it privately and they've gone silent, you’re not overreacting by taking next steps. Like providers have to do, I think you have to do a quick "gut check" first. If you plan to write a review ask yourself: do you already review on TER and do providers know your handle? And are you comfortable connecting this situation to that handle? Transparency helps the community because it protects clients, removing scammers from this realm makes it easier for legitimate providers who run their business professionally to still receive deposits, but you need to protect your privacy too.  

The deposit issue has been debated to death in these forums, so I'll stay away from that.
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Now, here's your biggest mistake: don't see ladies without them having a long review history here on TER. If a lady has a strong review history your chances of losing a deposit or worse, getting busted, are much, much smaller. If you choose to see non-reviewed ladies, it's your risk and unfortunately in this case you lost.

TER only requires 20 reviews to be eligible for the top 100 list.

Everyone has a different screening process to where they would feel safe. I gave “50” as an example. But I personally don’t feel safe even asking for a reference from a provider unless they have a strong presence simply based on My Personal Experience. I have Not had good ones with those.
My advice was simply based off of My Personal screening standards. They can give a deposit to Whomever they choose it’s Their money 💰 but I would personally require a presence and many reviews

Indeed true. But TER ‘s standards are Not My personal standards for my safety. From My experience when using references with only a few reviews and whom were new. So I would suggest for everyone to have Their standards to what makes them feel safe whether it’s sending money or screening 😊

Sounds like he paid a deposit AND provided PI/RWI.

I’d like to add to this.

All Ad Sites, Tryst included, are littered with scammers. You'r correct, many of us are aware of the types you mentioned. And, there are more types. That's why I only use Tryst as a source to then cross check with TER. I have it easy compared to you though. I'm in LA and options are plentiful. I can only imagine in a less populated area with fewer options it can be difficult.

So I'll just add a couple of things to look out for:
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1) On Tryst, look at the cities on the tour schedule, is they don't make sense geographically e.g. California, to Florida, to Washington (State) to Ohio, etc., then it's probably a bs ad.  You have to know that scammers are going to be out there posting baiting ads, and although $30, $40, $50 might not seem like much, these ads probably get plenty of traction so I'm sure they are profiting off naive clients.  
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2) If the price vs deposit % seems TGTBT e.g. $300/hr and asking for a 30% deposit, it's probably bs
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3) As you stated in your ad "She wanted a 50% deposit, but agreed on 20%".  Either pay the asking % for the deposit or move on, I personally wouldn't feel confident that the date would go anywhere near my expectation after negotiating down an escorts asking rate.  
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4) Should you "out" said providers, absolutely.
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To me, deposits are a no-go.  I'm not going to argue whether or not you should or shouldn't.  Escorting is just not something high enough on my priority list that I need to put money down for prior to the actual meeting.  When I see an ad asking for a deposit, I cross said provider off my list, make a mental note and never look into see that provider again.  There are too many options out here to get your rocks off e.g. free porn, cam girls, OF, etc., and at the end of the day, PUSSY is not a necessity.

I am pretty sure OF has strict rules on using the site for escorting….it can get the OF account banned.

I have had this happen to me as well, it sucks and I blame myself.  I do however on MOST ads do my "due diligence" and search around the web, do Google Lens searches etc., especially when they ask for a deposit.  There are plenty of bad ad's out there especially on hot.com and adult search.  If they do not have a handfull of reviews on TER I will not even pursue them.  Just my 2 cents.  

50% is too much…even negotiating it down is a red flag and if it is geographically impossible to service the cities listed within a day BY CAR or TRAIN, it is a scam…

If I did I sure wouldn't negotiate it. And I noticed you reached out to someone where, "the other time there was no negotiation about the deposit". Makes me wanna ask, why did you feel the need to negotiate with this one? Was the 50% too much?Now, I don't know if you getting her to do the 20% deposit may have pissed her off to the point where she figured, "fuck this dude".
Anyways, asking if you should "out" her on TER? Depends, how much info does she have on you and does she seem the type that can go BSC? I'll assume she's not reviewed here? If not you can do a rip off review, I think
But if outing her is risky for you then let it slide and chalk it up to experience and learn.

a scammer will definitely send multiple emails if they think your close to paying them.  It might be all that they do all day long.

NO DEPOSITS ... how can i say that any clearer ..    some girls say well i have 40 reviews that make me legit ... well a lot of guys have 20+ white list so that's the same.    

That is unfortunately a classic scam you ran into especially the send me gas money. Sorry that happened.

That is the point of this community. Even if you have given RWI that scammer has scammed so many people that they won’t know it was you who left a review.

And this is why i dont do deposits. Ever.

Is so nasty....my condolences.

it sounds like that provider prefers outcalls and doesn’t want to use her own place. perfectly fine imo but i am not paying for a hotel for just 1-2 hours

Yeah, I am going to go with your assessment on scammers here. I am honest and up front with potential clients as to what I need to book an appointment and when I am available. If a "super hot chick" (the term I hear when some of you guys just are thinking with the little head!!) is magically available to meet in an hour and keeps pestering you for deposit money or more screening information that just screams scammer. I might send a follow up message asking if the person is still interested in booking but I am not going to incessantly badger them. I am also 45 and very mid and I am already half booked for Dec. You think some "super hot chick" that is half my age and charging almost the same rate as I am is going to be available in one hour???? Wildly unrealistic.

is the goal to steal RWI or scam money? both?