to find out if you are ok with a client dominating you (sexually) during a session?
That might include using physical strenght, firm language, directing you, dirty talk, questioning you, being demanding, "forcing" you to pleasure the client, with some minor discomfort such as gagging..
Let me further qualify this question by describing what I am *not* refering to: humiliation, abuse, pain, hitting, name calling, restraints, disrepect, crossing your boundaries, nothing that requires a safeword.
This might be considered more in the realm of role play with you as a submissive compliant "toy" serving the client.
Suggestions on how to handle this scenario are appreciated also.

it seems that it would be wisest in your case to stick to providers who outright advertise themselves as submissive, whether that means they are willing to engage in that type of roleplay, or they are truly submissive. that is a lot safer, more productive, and less awkward then trying to broach the topic with someone who does not present themselves that way, imo.

Because if she doesn't like that type of play, shes either going to decline the date or see you, but think you're a creep.

Some women actually love being dominated.  Just see ladies who are well reviewed over a long period of time.  She's probably seen it all, done it all, and a little force is no big deal.  (Or of you get lucky, she loves it.)

First of all, read her profile and reviews.  There's a category in the profile for S&M and her reviews will tell what she's like in session.  Many web sites include such services as well.  Beyond that, just do a session with her, talk to her, etc.  With my ATF, she just got kinkier and kinkier.  Nothing heavy duty, as I'm not into that either (though she's into rope play, etc.), but lots of butt-slapping, face fucking/gagging, dirty talk, etc.  It's all good.

Do a first session with her.

When you contact her for the 2nd session, ask her what she thinks about ______.  She is far less likely to freak out if shes already met you and know youre a good guy.  Maybe she'll respond and say, "Oh yeah, that fun.  Lets do it."

Thats how I experienced my first really fetishy session.  A guy saw me and was vanilla for the first session.  Then he emailed and asked if Id be willing to try a GS next time.  Id never done it before but figured what the heck.  So we did it and it was actually fun.  

Had he asked for it before Id met him, I wouldve blown him off or said hell no.

may I sugest.. Know your friend first. ( one or two sessions plus)
bring it up in conversation... Keep it light

Push boundries in a gentle and respectful way.
Let her take the lead
The rest will fall into place

if all goes well you can continue to move forward from there and she will let you know
what her boundries are)

As soon as I walk in, the providers tell me, look here bitch, you gonna eat me out good. Then they grab my teenage body and shove my face in their twat. Then, the sit on my face, and I don't get to breath sometimes.

Then they tell me, you gonna fuck me with the limp 3.5 inch cock of yours, you bitch. Then I say, hey baby, its not the length, but its the motion in the ocean. Then they tell me, you bitch, then they spit in my face and have me swallow their spit. And I hate doing this the most, most girls will force me to eat their asshole, and I hate doing it. But, I feel physically threaten by these fabulous providers, that I feel obligated to comply.

So, you are meaning to tell me, that you can force a women to do what ever you want, and its not the opposite. Well, somebody throw me a biscuit, cause this is some new info that I've just learned today. Shit, I am about to try that out. Hopefully, the girls don't push my teenage body around and fart on my face and call me a sissy.

What are you on, and where can I get some?

say yes mam. and give me her number.

Maybe sniffing glue or something.

Actually, maybe he sniffed your butt hole. Now that's some nasty shit. lmao

If you were "dating" out in the real world, you would most likely wait a bit of time to get to know a lady that peaks your interest before divulging into the world of "what your deepest, darkest fantasies" are right? In the same way, if a provider you badly want to see does not advertise as a fetish provider, it is wise to spend a few dates getting to know her in a vanilla way before bringing up some fun fantasies you want to explore with her.

Hope this helps,

Sitara

Just kidding, sweety! Actually you're a little hottie! You just happened to post under Billionaireboy and myself so that's why I jerked your chain.

I'll tell you what. I wouldn't mind spending a few dates with you to see what kind of fantasies we could explore...

I always figured as a more of a meat and potatoes kind of guy.

Mikey is a beer and dog biscuits kind of guy.

makn her an offer she cant refuse. To have her try it. And if shes never tryed it she may find she likes it after all. But maybe wouldnt have tryed it if not enticed by extra incentive at first. I have had that happen to me in alot cases. I didnt even know i liked certain things then tryed it for the rewards financially and ended up realizing dam this is a blast. ----