I am still fairly new in this hobby. I have been happily married for the last 14years ( 15yrs in 9/15 ). But I am beginning to get the feeling that sex with my SO sucks ( almost like a chore & not something I look forward to as oppose to time with a provider ). I know that this is all in my head " time with your SO and time with a provider should not be the same - if they were the same why would anybody hobby" So to combat this feeling, I would imagine that I am with my ATF when having sex with my SO. But here is another issue: After some routine sex with my SO/imagined ATF . My SO said the next morning" you fucked differently last night then your usual self.." My mind was thinking WHAT WHAT WTF I just said " yea it was really fun last night, I was really horny and you looked so sexy..." Now my SO is one of those really paranoid and super anal type, I don't think she suspect anything yet.......

she has been with you so long........she can read you like a book.  It goes BEYOND intuition.  Practice in the mirror, just like actors and comedians do.  Take a look at your facial expressions and how you form your sentences.  After a while you will remember how those face muscles feel when you must explain again.  Oh........and also, relax, and be especially conscious of your breathing, and rate of speech.

...based on your posts, any sane women would have left you long ago IMO.  

Better watch out for them switch of the moves bro! Lol.

Isn't that what the guys say to the girls whenever something is suggested to be less than roses all the time? Just quit then?

The more your performance changes at home, the more suspicious she may become!  Keep the wild side on the wild side....
If you don't she may catch on.

Sounds like just quitting screwing the wife is out, so let's stick with the possible.

due to a poor rating he gave someone else, so he says. Hey Max, sex with your "wife"/"SO" is SUPPOSED to be a "chore" -- that's why they call it marriage!  

Try Cialis which will give you longer erections with a much shorter refractory period (the time between the end of one erection and the beginning of the rest.) Tell her you are trying it.  It will improve things physically and give you a good excuse for behaving differently.

You come and fuck hookers after only 14 years of marriage, I assume maybe a kid or two as well are in the picture.  I guess you think this is the solution to your bad marriage?

If she's super anal and it's like a chore for you, mind if I give her a go?  PM me pictures.

no chore here.....going on 24 years and its hot, raunchy, kinky, sexy and awesome!!!!    granted it hasn't always been as intense as it is now, but its NEVER been a "chore".  

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due to a poor rating he gave someone else, so he says. Hey Max, sex with your "wife"/"SO" is SUPPOSED to be a "chore" -- that's why they call it marriage!  

Sounds like you need to stop seeing your ATF...   ijs.  If you read your post again, your ATF got into your head and is now in your bedroom.  Step away for a bit so you can regain perspective.

Normally, I'm a supporter of seeking outside pleasures when there's some kind of sexual dysfunction in a marriage.  Discreetly seeing a provider can prevent the kind of resentment that tends to grow between partners when someone's needs aren't being met. It relieves stress and allows you to come back to the relationship reinvigorated and better able to focus on all the other aspects of your marriage.  Not to mention, it puts a lot of girls through graduate school-- myself included

It is also great that you are using this little activity to pay for education.  I have said it before but while gals your age are out giving it away, I love the irony that despite the stigma attached, you are the one who is being smart.

Finishing school without drowning in student loan debt AND having more fun than I could have ever imagined?  Stigma be damned, I love this life

The odor you smell my friends is what some might call Bacon or possibly Dunkin Donut crumbs.

she just can't put her finger on it yet, but she knows something's different. You call her super anal, but 400 years ago they would have called her a witch and started collecting firewood. I'd watch my steps carefully if I were you.

she WILL find out, and TRUST me, the damage it will cause is NOT worth it........if you have a chance to make your marriage work take it, try different things, change it up, make it NOT a chore, this seems like its a YOU problem and not a wife problem.  i wish you luck dude.

sources of positions & things to try...