New to the hobby-in that I have never actually been with a provider.  So, this makes me really new.
Here is the situation, wife is not very good at head.  And, she is prone to some nice dirty talk and loves to kiss/lick my face after going down on her.  We have discussed the idea of adding to our experience with a provider.  However, as stated, I have never been down this road.  As far as I can tell all of the posts regarding the search term "wife" and "including wife" basically is from most of you trying to keep it away from the SO.  So, perhaps I will get very little back from this post.
I told her I would take the step to find someone.  I actually stated, I would like to get head from a professional and she suggested she be involved.  
Any suggestions as to a threesome with one's wife?  Please don't respond with logistics of how to talk to providers about it; I can figure that out.  I am interested in the interpersonal experience and the effects it may have both short and long term etc...Think it through as though my situation is your situation.  How would you best handle this?

It was fun, but ultimatlely did not save my marriage, which is a mixed blessing.

So, to answer your question, I think we have to know more about both your motivation, and how comfortable you may be with each other, and whether or not jealousy is an issue with you.

If you both are very confident with each other, I think it can be a beautiful addition to your sex lives.

As for how to contact the provider, I won't lecture you, but I suspect you could have something to learn there.

Finding a local swinger site or club.. ease into it.. Just go to watch and see how you feel about it... then have a conversation about what you are and are not comfortable with..

Don't hire a provider and NOT tell her....
you would be surrpised by the number of normal, married folks as they say.. go to swinger clubs and don't even do a full swap.. Just to spice it up a bit...

If I could get my S/O to be cool with bringing in providers... we'd have a perfect relationship.

I look at sex as recreation.

I recognize I'm not the most attractive man on earth and even if I was she might want a variety from time to time.  I really don't have a jealous bone in my body.

For you, sex is just that...sex, but for most people under the impression their mate is faithful, it is so much more. It is a violation of what he/she proposed to begin with. I have no problems with men who want to fk strange women for sport, but I would never give up my life for or marry that type of person. I would also never be with a man who wanted to bring other people to bed with us unless I did NOT truly love him to begin with. I am not into open relationships or random sex when I am in love, but that's just me. I have not "dated" since I was London Rayne, and never will until I quit. I don't feel that is fair to another person, so I will stick with p4p.

Guys who think sex and love are not one in the same even with their mate, should simply find women who also feel that way. It's really not all that complicated. Find a woman who also loves fkin something strange, and it's a win/win for both of you. Find one who expects you to be faithful then cheat, it's a war.

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Not sure I fully get what you are saying.  Afterall, I have been faithful for over 12 years and plan to continue to be.  So from my perspective, sex is sometimes about love and sometimes about, well, sex!  Even with the woman I love.  

Based on your comments, I suppose for you, it is mostly just sex these days void of any emotional love connection.  If your clients were to fully understand that, it may be an occupational hazard for that facade to be exposed.  We all want what we don't have, this is the reason you wouldn't want the man you love to bring someone else into the relationship.  Afterall, I imagine you have had plenty of that in the p4p world.  I also contend that once you quit being London Rayne, you will miss the attachless physical connection that must fill some need beyond material.  Afterall, you are good at what you do, which is evident is the glowing reviews of those fortunate enough to spend time with you.  This type of proficiency is to be celebrated and with that celebration comes a level of difficulty in saying goodbye.  One need not look too far to find examples of professional athletes that just can't seem to retire and stay that way.  

Did I get that right?