Made contact with a highly reviewed provider a day in advance. Exchanged calls & emails of photos. Text messages & calls the day of, thought we clicked. Set the time for 8pm (we both had earlier plans) and I was looking forward to our meeting based upon her photos & reviews.
Called about 1/2 hour before, asked what she liked to drink. Picked up a bottle & called for address. No answer. Text & no response. About an hour after meeting time got a text "too late?". I replied that we had a time set the day before. She then called about another half hour later and I reminded her of our "date" and she practically begged me to give her some time to get ready. I tried to be sympathetic but by this time she was over an hour late and still asking for more time. I gave in and got to her building and then STILL waited for 20 minutes at the elevator lobby without her showing up. 10:30pm and we still hadn't met. I got back in my car, called and canceled. She started crying! She said she really wanted this to go through, just got out of the hospital & her phone woukd be disconnected so no way to reschedule next week Frankly, I'm glad I didn't follow through with the date; the vibe went 180 degrees to truly flaky.
So, I'm curious about others who've had to deal with this kind of situation. Everyone has a bad day, but how do I review or let others know about this provider?
You cannot review her, as no session ever took place. You can mention it on your local board, but beware! If you post this critique on your home board, and she has a presence there as well, expect to be attacked. You will probably lose under the barrage of white knight posts, alias's you've never heard of, etc, unless your have credibility there is well established. I have never been in your position, but have seen this situation occur several times before, and more often than not, an unknown hobbyist stands no chance vs. a highly reviewed provider on the boards.
Let it do, dude, and move on...
I realize that things happen but she strung you along for hours with no apparent reason other than her inability to tell time and act like a responsible adult. If there was another reason for her tardiness she should have been forthcoming with it.
Sounds like she probably tried to sneak another appointment in ahead of you and it ran long.
You can't review an appointment that didn't happen. You can warn others about her on your local board but I would tread lightly there. If she is well reviewed her White Knights will just turn the thread into a train wreck and other providers will think twice about seeing you as well.
You can post about your experience on the local board. If you do keep it factual and unbiased. It may be a one-off situation, it may become a pattern. We'll never know if nothing is said. As has been said though, if you do not have a solid reputation and the lady does, be prepared for some back lash. It is not uncommon for nasty things to be said about ladies in retaliation for refusal to be seen, by competing ladies under alias, by pimps, etc.
Man let it go. She probably over booked. If you guys have a bond, she'll call you or she'll discount you later, if not, forget her and her drama, there are too many providers to deal with BS. $ talks BS walks. Thats my #1 rule. If I make an App and she is even 10 mins late, I'm done. If I'm 10 mins late to my job I get written up. This is business, apps should be respected.
With that comes obvious possible repercussions.
It's not a session, so no review. It was NCNS... but she did totally flake.
As for suggestions to let it go BECAUSE she is highly reviewed, I say that's BS. You can certainly choose to let it go, and no harm no foul, IMO.
My point, though, is that there are a "not insignificant" number of highly reviewed ladies that are true flakes and do this kind of thing regularly. Most guys don't say anything to avoid the hassle that often comes along with it. Thats why there are ladies with amazing appearance ratings, but when you see them their photos were taken 10 years and 25 or more pounds ago. The profile is set by the first person unless the provider or someone submits a trouble ticket for changing something (i.e. body type from average to baby fat), and the review text says nothing. Certainly personal preferences come into play, and some guys rate on the face more than the body (or the other way around).
I don't wish to paint with too broad a brush as MOST ladies (at least here) are what they say they are, or close to it. Certainly less than 10% are into (under my judgement) territory that I would call disingenuous or worse.
I point this out because you don't really know if she is a habitual flake or if this was one off. This leaves you to make your own call. The best you could do would be to PM some of her other reviewers and ask if they had similar experiences, before you decide.
If she is highly reviewed and honestly not a scam, then just let it go. Sounds like it wasn't her day and maybe it just wasn't meant to be. She shouldn't of strung you along so long but obviously she was dealing with something and still trying to keep her date with you. I mean it's not exactly a Nsnc situation. I know it's no excuse because when you make an appt you shouldn't have to deal with our personal issues, but sometimes things happen, and on both ends.
She probally should have just rescheduled with you. Alas you didn't see her so you can't review her. And if you haven't read anything on any boards or thru back channel that sounds like your experience then maybe she was just having a bad day. Sorry you got caught up in it.
Thanks to all.
I've chalked it up to a bad day & moved on.
posts an ad on your regional board or some other hobbyist does a 411 about her, you can PM the poster about having a flaky non-experience.
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