Hi All:

So an escort I've had my eye on is coming to town in about two weeks.

I reached out to her via a Preferred "for" booking site you all know and asked for a pre-screening. I suggested a date range ("Thurs or Friday, can't confirm now"), did everything I could to make it clear that I had taken the time to read her info and I was serious about meeting with her. Note was, I believe, respectful and certainly not profane.  

Total crickets. Typically when I send out a pre-screen request I get a "I got your request" or "Thanks.. hope we get to meet." Also, I get pinged when my profile (with refs) is viewed, so I know it wasn't.  

This women is highly rated but, reading the reviews, has at least sometimes been a bit flakey. She's also fairly high priced.

Of course, there is no way of knowing what's up. Maybe she just doesn't respond to pre-screen requests. Maybe she's just super busy.  

However, I'd love to know the thoughts of you guys with more experience. Is this a red flag, suggesting she really doesn't care much about clients and is likely to flake later / not put any effort into the session or no big deal I should just ignore and move ahead and send her a booking request

Maybe she's fully booked and figured she doesn't need to pre screen you because she won't have time to see you? Give her the benefit of the doubt. We are to hasty sometimes in assuming the wrong thing. How long have u waited since ur request? Send a follow up and if u still hear nothing back, move on.  

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either her email, TER PM, or text if she lists a number.
Just a VERY brief, hey I sent you a request on DATE/TIME. If you don't hear back in a day, move on.

Lots of reasons:
Poorly organized
Fully booked
Just didn't like something about you

Not necessarily a red flag on her performance, but in my experience, it does increase the odds that she ends up confirming a session then cancelling.

a note suggesting a date range, I typically do not respond. Very, very rarely in my ho career have I had a man who is serious about booking throw out a range of dates/times. Potential dates and times don't keep a roof over my head.

I've never toured before, but I imagine she's trying to keep her schedule fairly tight. She could be waiting for you to determine if you'd rather meet Thursday vs Friday, morning vs evening, ect.

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I rarely use the pre-screening option and almost always send a request with my preferred date and time. If I haven't heard back in 24 to 48 hours, I simply move on.  

I don't think you can make the assumption that she doesn't care about you, is likely to flake, or not put any effort into the session. Those things could happen, but I don't think a non response is indicative of it. There are lots of other reasons for a delayed/non response like you mention.  

If you really want to see her, I'd send a appointment request and see what happens.

Some of the gals make bad assumptions that a pre-screen request means your less serious than someone who sends an appointment request.  If they can't extend you the courtesy of replying to you then they probably aren't the kind of person you want to spend time with anyway.  The good ones will reply to you and work with you to find a time that works

The OP must be a mind reader as I've sent two pre screen requests to well established/reviewed providers and nothing... crickets. I would think a simple, "Hey I got your request. Let me know when you'd like to book" would be suitable to both parties.

...I'd hazard a guess that the number of guys who use the pre-screen option who never book are the majority. Which I assume is why most gals don't respond to them.  

So to me it makes more sense to send an appointment request right off the bat. You aren't locked in until both of you confirm. A lot of times a gal will respond and propose an alternate date/time and we find a date/time that works for both of us.  If my schedule changes, I usually know several days in advance, so I'll reach out an see if we can't find a different mutually convenient date/time. This is just what works for me. I'm sure others have what works for them.

Your comment makes a lot of sense, sexy. Now, I'll try emailing you and see what happens 😎

who will not respond to a pre-screen request due to the guy sometimes not going through with the appt.
I have had the opposite happen to me I have responded to a pre-screen request same day it was sent and silence.
Even if I did not get a reply back I still respond to pre-screen requests.But every lady is different.
If it has been more than 3-4 days since pre-screen request was sent I would follow up one more time with an email if no response still move on.
Has she logged in to her P411 since the pre-screen request was sent?

Also the request could have went into her email spam and if she does not check her P411 all of the time she might not have seen it.

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I send a pre-screen request because I have questions I need answered before I would book an appointment.  For example, I want to find out if the incall is somewhere other than a hotel because I don't do hotels.  Once I've got enough info to know I want to move forward, then I send a schedule request.

Alternate days are not an option for me.  That's another reason I send a pre-screen. If she isn't available on the day that works for me, then no point having any more discussion at that point. Other then to tell her thank you.

Rachael what I would be thinking is that maybe he is pending because of the following reasons:
A.  She could be waiting to here from specific references if she has a question.
B. Maybe she is booked but does not want to to say no until she know more if pre booked appointments will go off.
C. Maybe she wants to ask more questions of you that she might have before she would see you.
Not that I know for sure but those are places I would start.

To potential clients to say hi and thanks for getting in touch. I'll also ask for best contact details in case I get a cancellation but mostly it's just polite to reply and I check my emails and reply to people at least once a day, even if I'm busy?
She may just not be working for a couple of days though before her tour. Sometimes clients do think we sit by the phone/computer 24 hours a day 7 days a week, when we're not perched on the edge of the bed in full lingerie waiting for them to call )

I did that (the date range) a bit ago, with mixed results. In my mind I was being flexible and able to adapt to her schedule and avoid some of the "Can't do that... How about this date? ... Doesn't work for me, how about..." dance.  

But I completely see the point.

Sometimes I have opened emails and gotten interrupted, then didn't realize they were there, or they went to spam, or his email got stuck in his outbox.

My auto reply lists the email etiquette, because answering every guy's email where he seems flakey to me makes it harder for me to walk into the serious dates in a totally focused mood.

You know how you hear the stories where husband and wife don't fuck because they both work, and are both frustrated about their jobs/co-workers/bosses? Or just obstacles? They can't get their mind off the frustration, but they can't really "vent" to the hubby/wife/SO, because they had enough shit to deal with that day too?

In that world, you can't always avoid those people nor can you ignore them. But here, it's different. "customer service" and a "fake smile" while a customer signs a paper in corporate world, while still frustrated about the last customer who wasted your time with petty bullshit... ok, that's one thing. But here "fake smiles" aren't accepted at a high dollar. At least in my world, the guy needs to know you're enthusiastic about what you do. Some ladies feel hard. So they tend to carry those feelings a little longer than others. So they have to set up the "what others think of me doesn't matter - the ones who can handle that they may have to pursue a little harder and smarter will get it."

Think about it. How long does it take to unwind from work? For men, it may be different - but I know how I work. If I'm sitting online answering emails all day for people who aren't doing simple things I ask, I notice these same people give me problems that I'm taking "home" to my "SO" (my paid date) when I really do need to have a clear mind.

Sometimes in order to deal with this, I can't answer emails that are seemingly flakey. In the case of what you are saying, if my auto reply didn't address what you were inquiring about, then I'd say "Hi, got it - let me know when you're ready to choose a time/date."  

But really, sometimes just emailing again making sure she knows you are serious, and maybe compliment her on something that was on her site so she knows (not your pussy so wet in that picture - more like - I loved your blog or quote or whatever...) and why you want to see her, that would help.

Some ladies also don't respond to long, seemingly narcissistic introductions that don't have a date/time/location/incall/outcall attached.

I have ignored inquiries that seemed like they were purposefully trying to make me "excited" for a date just to hear me beg, so I don't answer those. Or ignored inquiries that seemed like they were copy and pasting a bunch of ladies. Every now and then someone slings a second email "hey, I'm serious" and then when I know it's a human on the other line, I will respond and tell him / her why I didn't answer, and start the convo to book.

Had some great, long term relationships start that way. In the beginning, it may be a tad tougher, but once you're in, you're in for some ladies... and they will do the same thing to the next guy who they're unsure about so they can be "all in" for you.

Hope this helps.

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I agree with everything you said. The bottom line, and what most men do not realize, is the enormous amount of timewasters and fantasy bookers with which we deal on a daily basis. I have experienced this at all price ranges and at all range of services. Men want the attention of beautiful women, and unfortunately, a lot of men seek this free attention from paid companions. Women in their real lives won't provide them attention, so they turn to women online for this attention. They know it's our "job" to be kind, engaging, friendly and enthusiastic and they use this to their sneaky and/or malicious advantage. Like you, I have learned to weed out any excessive communication or any communication I deem as wasteful of my time/not serious about booking. My intuition is very, very strong about timewasters. Out of thousands of men who have contacted me, I've been wrong *maybe* a handful of times about a man who is serious about booking.

but it's worth being wrong once or twice. In my past experience, the conversations I had led to requests for $80 and a burger for a 4 hour incall. (Or any discount - at one point, I was netting $50 per date with the out of this world requests I would get, because I wanted to please everybody and leave nobody out.) Plus 3 hour phone "interviews" for one hour dates that never happened. When I'd say no, they'd send out mass emails or in person say really nasty things about me to other people to "get me back".

Just not worth it, so if I miss a few mistakingly to avoid 200 of these guys, that means I can provide a way better experience in person, because my mind is fresh and clear.

I need to be there fully, maturely, for people who are serious every time - not exhausted by the jokers.

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Hi Everyone!

Took all your advice and sent follow-up note, saying in essence "Sent a pre-screen request and haven't heard back. I'm sure it either fell through the cracks or you are sold out, but if you are still available would love to see you."

Got a nice note back apologizing for not answering sooner and saying she's rescheduling the tour through my city.

Thanks to everyone for their excellent advice