Would you cancel immediately, or still see him?

already, but if he flat out told me I would cancel. If a guy said he had herpes flat out, I would cancel too, so it is what it is. What I don't know upfront, can't really fk up my mood but knowing would make me think twice about offering some things I do. We should all assume that everyone is having bbfs with "someone" of course, and protect ourselves accordingly.

What she said.

The bigger risk is who besides a provider he's having BBFS with.  Most providers are very careful and I'd probably be more comfortable having BBFS with a well reviewed established provider that has always used a condom with me (before you all go apeshit...that's a hypothetical) than I would with civy on date #3 .  

If he walk in and said he just had BBFS with a civy girl, would it change things at all?

Like others have said, guys or girls are probably having BBFS with someone.  If you hobby a lot, chances are better than slim that you are engaging in BBFS with a provider.  

That isn't hard and fast, but it seems logical.

who uses condoms 99 percent of the time. If the guy had a list of reviews where 9 out of 10 were all bbfs, no fkin way! That tells me he literally "seeks" out women who engage in this, and not only with him so that is a pattern, not a once in a while thing.

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"If you hobby a lot, chances are better than slim that you are engaging in BBFS with a provider."

I'd say that if you hobby a lot the chances are better than slim that been OFFERED BBFS, but ENGAGING is a whole different game.

I agree London. My perspective from the other side......During a long separation from my SO I always worried more about what were basically "one night stands", or close to it, with civvie women than I did with a top shelf provider. So much so that I stopped pursuing any civvies that I hadn't gotten to know reasonably well before jumping in the sack. Was fortunate enough to have a few that I knew well enough to be in a friends w/ bennies situation.
   To satisfy my sexual gymnastics urges, I would MUCH rather have sex with a top shelf pro than some hot little civvie number I just met in a club. Just my two cents.......RR

I'm really surprised that anyone would openly post that.
You are so right about single guys being a potential risk. I have been offered raw dog sex from most of the civie girls I can convince to fuck me. Good thing I hobby. I always have condoms around now. You would be surprised that more than once,  I have had civie girls actually get mad at me because I practice safe sex. Stupid girls always say "I'm on the pill, were good." Then try to seduce me. When it doesn't work they become insulted.

Just read one, or at least it sounds that way.  I was kind of surprised that someone would write it.  Of course it could be a oops.

I'm going to assume these girls weren't trying to "trap" you with a pregnancy...

But is it any surprise that women hate condoms as much as men? You don't think there are women that go on the pill specifically so they DON'T have to use condoms to prevent pregnancy?

Do you remember the whole Seinfeld arc about "being sponge-worthy?" I'm pretty sure Elaine wasn't using the sponge AND condoms!

My sexual life experiences show that civvie women in general HATE condoms - they hate the smell, the taste, the texture, the fact that it interrupts spontaneity, the fact that it takes away from feeling the sperm inside of them. Providers I have experienced are MUCH more consistent and concerned about condom usage - probably because they use condoms not mainly for pregnancy protection, but for disease protection.

I assume that all clients are fucking someone BBFS and potentially carrying something I don't want.

As long as there is a condom in use with me, we're all good.

Even the dumbest  bar sluts use condoms these days, although there are the rare occasions
a bar slut will claim  she is allergic to latex  . One out of twenty from my perspective .
That's my cue to  ask the stupid girl  if she's  allergic to sucking bareback dick ,
if not, start sucking  .
 After I come I'm out of there , no regrets or guilt complex .

... is repeating alot. I hobby all the time, but I very rarely repeat visit (I've only seen 2 providers more than twice). I don't think too many ladies are offering it up to first time clients.

Is potentially dangerous that is why you inspect the client and the individual before the act. How many of you wash your hands before a session starts? Usually before a session I prefer to inspect the meat,sack and the inner thighs. People can have rashes,shingles,blister's and jock itch. If there is a potential smell roasting from him or her. Then I refund money because that is STD,Yeast issues or worse that is in stage3. Also you can tell any person is a high risk regardless if it's a client,booty-call or one night stand. Because the sex trade isn't the parent for STD/VD. It's a person who is VERY RECKLESS and avoids seeing a physician on a quarterly fashion. I would be terrified if I went into a clients home and discovered medicines for HIV,HepC or any material related to homosexual bars. Gay men are just as bad as straight men you all tend to think..It will never happen to me.? Gay men today who are under 35 years of age are sleeping around and many are for going rubber's and some of those gay men may also be (Bi-sexual) men as well.

they are a given. If I were banging just one guy who I assumed was NOT banging everyone else, I would not use one. I am seeing 10-12 guys a month here, so it's a bit different. I will agree that I hate using condoms, but I don't promote bbfs in the hobby.

I see all this BBFS talk all the time, and ever since TER allows writing BBFS, I have yet to see one until recently.

The reviewer said that he had to bring a recent test to the provider, which at least shows she's trying to do some sort of screening, but then we all know that it could be dormant/undetected for 6 months...

I'm waiting for the day there is some sort of vaccine for everything. Not in my lifetime...