Does anyone have any great ideas on how to put a provider at ease when she comes to my hotel room? I know that I would be a bit scared if I were in her position.

Obviously I will be freshly showered, polite, and sober. But what else?  Have wine or champagne?  Chocolates?

I'd be interested in hearing from both providers and hobbiests.

for real.

u should email me a pic of it right now
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then show it to the girl when she gets there.

muy importante !!!

She'll be asleep in no time.

You might try wine, hot chocolate, anything to make her feel warm. That's especially good this time of year. Or something sweet. Make eye contact speaking to her, and keep the tone of your voice gentle, and your posture relaxed. Keep the lights up. Stay where she can see you, don't approach her or touch her from behind. If you have good hands, touch her gently at first, stroking her shoulders and arms at first.

It's good that you thought of this. Going alone to a hotel room to meet a new client has to be one of the scariest things about the business I could think of.

HAVE CASH READY.  Fork it over with no discussion.  Leave it in envelope where she can pick up.  Cash does the trick.

did u want to send me a pic of yours ?

about 20 minutes after i get the pic,  i'll be able to tell you all the other ways to make a girl feel comfortable.  

Zinaval, it's nice to see someone actually answer my question.  I appreciate it.

hoo-hoo

do not send pics of your wiener to providers. they do not like it.

UNLESS

one of the them wakes up at 5am feeling a lil frisky and doesnt have an appoitment scheduled to noon AND specifically asks you to.

otherwise, just whip it out and wag it at them AFTER they show up at the hotel.

I do not think it makes a difference whether its an outcall or an incall appointment...the provider will be apprehensive and nervous about meeting any new client whether its on your turf or hers.

Just act professionally and mature throughout the intial process. A nice hug is a good icebreaker. Have the donation in plain view from the start. Sit down on the couch and talk to the provider. If its an outcall session, offer her  a beverage (doesnt have to be alcoholic). Most importantly, look her in the eye as you engage in your initial banter. Make her glad to be there to the best of your ability. She will prob. remain nervous until you both decide to take the action to the next level.

Be yourself, be confident and NEVER put the provider in any situation where she would question her safety and security.


 

 

There is a certain kind of "charge" when I walk up to that door...and as it opens...you never know what is going to be on the other side...but neither does he.
Most often I come right out and ask if they are le, then ask them to prove it...

Whenever I'm travelling, I always have my music with me. Nice soft, sensual music, Asian or Indian works nicely. I also make a point of asking the lady what she likes beforehand for a snack or beverage. I enjoy hosting, and these have made for some memorable evenings.

Yes, keep the envelope where it's visible.

FYI: Just so you know, LE doesn't have to tell you that they're LE if you ask, nor would it be very hard for them to "prove" that they aren't LE.

Hotels don't scare me really, but I just thought I'd let you know that little bit of information.

But to answer the original poster's question, the easiest way to make her comfortable is to have $$ in an envelope out in the open (usually wherever she stated on her site that she'd like it placed).

Just relax and don't try to discuss sex & $$ because the two together in the same sentence may be a trip behind bars for both of you.

I found that helped immensely.

Courts have ruled that deception and trickery are part and parcel of police work.

...but they can't partake of the charms of a provider then arrest her (legally, not to say it isn't done). So no money talk or sex talk until a sex act has been performed.

b-

And speaking only for SELF here...Before I even agree to an Out Visit to someone's hotel I have collected enough knowledge about him and had a conversation or two with him to get a feel for his personality.

Even the slightest amount of discomfort or concern on my part is reason enough for me to excuse myself from the agreement.

Champagne and Candles are ALWAY a great touch and help set the mood of a good relaxing visit...and the Chocolates don't hurt things either

Just my thought on it....

Lol, At least that is the one tip I got from my favorite out call lady a while back.
I ask the lady while booking the appointment if she has a preferred beverage. I don't drink much though I will sip a little wine with a lady if that is her preference.
Most important and I do mean MOST IMPORTANT! Do not make the lady wonder for even one second about the donation. Leave an envelope in plain site and do not  mention it unless she does. Don't try to be cute about hiding it until she asks for it or thinking that you can hold it until the end of the session for leverage or some sort of warped sense of decorum. The lady is there for one reason: Your money! Yes, she is a professional and, if you have done your research properly, she loves sex and can't wait to get it on with a nice and respectful gentleman but she is there for the envelope. Don't make her wonder about it.

Any guys who think that ladies who don't mention the donation are not thinking about it are fooling themselves. The priorities are 1:Am I safe here? 2:Where is that envelope??? 3: Cool, now let's get crazy! The longer you keep her wondering and waiting about number one and number two, the longer YOU will be waiting for number 3 to happen...

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Very true...They don't have to admit to being LE if asked.

I don't worry to much about it (although there is always nerves before).  I do not get to see many providers, so I start at least 2 weeks before I know I will be there to contact and set up appointments.  Usually by then we have emailed several times and have talked on the phone at least one or two times.  I give them all my information including my cell number and tell them to feel free to call it anytime, on my first e-mail contact.  I also offer to meet them for drinks.  I only see well reviewed woman, and 15 min before they get there I put out the envelope in a plan place.  I am always nervous but this helps calm the who process down.  anyway just my 2 cents.....

thank you, just the white envelope, in plain sight