are starting to piss me off greatly. And this is coming from a guy like me who is easy going, very very patient, tolerant of people's mistakes, and friendly to most people.  

I waited 3 fucking hours for this girl who was in my town on extended stay. It started out as "Running a bit late. I'll be there in 30 minutes"... then suddenly nothing for an hour. 3 hour later she calls apologizes,  claims her phone died and felt sick.  The problem is, this isn't the first time she's done that. The last 4 times I met her, she was at least 25~60 minutes late. Now the time extents to 3? lol

OMG, felt like throwing my phone against the wall when she pulled that last stunt... again.

Probably won't see her again but it would be nice if these ladies start respecting other people's time...

I've said it before.....women(not all)seem to think chivalry means they can do whatever the hell they want to.

Why isn't my time as valueable as hers?


Why did you give her so many chances?

'The last 4 times I met her, she was at least 25~60 minutes late...' What did you do about those 4 times ??? just let her off easy???  Not out of line to ask for something extra on a future date - if she's classy she will make amends.

I've been milked for whatever many times myself - you are doing the right thing not seeing her again.

Do your homework - not hard to find wonderful ladies that do respect your time.

There was not enough info to establish a pattern the first few times. Plus like I said, I don't mind if a lady takes her time to a certain extent.

This latest one is what blew my lid though. Yes, I did go off at her. I mean, I really went off at her (while still being a gentlemen) explaining that she needs to respect other peoples time. Surprisingly, she took it well and apologized profusely.

Too little too late though. Plenty of young and good looking porn stars out there. However, I might see her again when my anger subsides in a few months. She's really hot and worth all the wait, honestly. Maybe not 3 god damn hours though but I'll let her know in advance that I'm walking away after waiting 20 minutes.

One of my favorites who treated me well many  times over a few years. Saw her 2 or 3  times a month, occasionally twice a week.
Last time I saw her, almost there, she asks why I haven't come yet, dismounts, starts a HJ.
 I said No HJ, BJ please at least five times. Then it was too late. Haven't been back in over a year.  If I allow her to jerk me around once, it usually never ends.

I'm not rewarding her for bad service when I am paying.

 15 minutes late without a call I'm gone.
  With a call before appt. time, maximum 30 minutes late OK.{ except for extreme circumstances} losing shoes not included.

Contrary to some beliefs, too many  cheap date civvies available to play games when paying.

three weeks ago.  Was I Mad?  A little bummed out.  But ended up being totally worth it.

PSaddict:   if a provider is 10-15 minutes late once in a while,  I've been guilty of that myself.  But from the history you've given, this provider is constantly 30-60 minutes late every time now.  Your last appt spilled over to a 3 hour wait.  It's clear what's happening here:  she pushes you aside to bang another guy while you wait.  She knows that she can kick you to the back of the line.  

As Dbara mentions, you set a precedent by putting up with this in the past.  My guess is you like this girl more than you're willing to admit.  I'm not waiting 3 hours for anyone, not even a pornstar (I've seen a few). Cancel on her the next time she's late.   Don't let anyone play you like that.  --z

You continually reward their bad behavior by giving them your business over and over. There are a lot of reasons why someone may be late...once!  If it happens over and over again they simply don't care.  It is, however, up to you to stop the cycle.

I hear ya! I would not treat one of my customers that way, or I would be out of business! Depends what you are selling I guess?

And that's nothing new.  Some can be avoided by reading reviews but not all.  But you set yourself up with past behavior and learned the lession too late.  I guess she was really  hot, so I understand.  I guess I've been lucky (or good) but have yet to be screwed in this way.

ok, I am sure all of the advice you have been given seems to make sense, so I will solidify the advice.
You seem to be a nice guy, and I am sure by now that you know not everyone has your patients or good manners. Now, you must also understand that their are providers and people in general that will take advantage of your good nature. That is something that you must understand & make aware of. Your first encounter, 30 mins late, okay, nothing new, as long as she made up for it. The 2nd, 3rd, 4th time, it became ridiculous. She has abuse her behavior towards you knowing that you will tolerate it. It is your decision to correct her behavior.

My advice for future appointments. For the first appointments with any provider, 15 minutes late is the max, then move on. They will realize their error and will correct their business in the future to prevent any future losses. The second appointment, 10 minutes late is maximum, then move on. If she calls you, simply say, you know I was coming at this specific time, and who do you think is at fault. They will recover.

You have tolerated her behavior and she has abuse her privileges with you, and look at the extent to which she has taken it. 3 entire hours, that is absolutely disgusting. Your next appointment if you chose to have one, will probably delayed a couple of days with some BS excuse.

Remember, treat the business like a restaurant. If the food or service is lacking, then go somewhere else. If the timing is off, demand something that is free or a discount. They are running the service, and you don't need their business if it sucks. Go to a different restaurant. That is why some restaurants succeed while others fail.

I know they have excuses, but come on, what guy does not automatically think that the girl just ran late with clients, or even took a qq/hh/hr that overlaps a little with your booked time. I have little tolerance for a girl being more the 15 minutes late. I dropped one of my favorites cause she took advantage of my kindness and would push me back. I told her the reason, she apologized, was ok once or twice, then back to her old ways. I told her why I stopped seeing her, she called me an asshole and told me to fuck off. I took her advice

Quadseasonal, I hope I have simply misinterpreted the way your post reads cuz I took it to be very insulting, pig-like, and rude.  If I misunerstood your intented tone than my bad.  However, if I read you loud and clear - you did her a HUGE FAVOR in never returning.  Just sayin

xoxo

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