hot sexy young (or older if you prefer) provider, gave you all the free sex you ever wanted. She fucked you daily and sometimes multiple times in one day.

Would you still hobby?

If not, then yes I would probably still hobby.

Hobbying isn't just about getting laid, I like variety, finding one woman to have sex with bores me unless she is "the" one. If I am head over heels in love with a woman than I am not interested in any other woman. If not, monogamy is not in the cards for me.

No I would stop hobbying

no she would offer to stop working to be with you and never ask you to support her.

Seriously, DO NOT continue!! Sounds like she really loves you, and if you love her you should quit this.

Or at least that's my two cents.

Oh this post is from a former provider. Just curious as to why my 50 year old boyfriend still feels the need to see other providers when he's got everything he needs at home.

And TRUST ME-- it's not boring sex. I dress up, role play, do everything he asks, etc.

Its built into the male psychological profile to seek out sex partners.  I once saw a theory that males who seek out multiple sex partners have a greater chance of producing offspring.  So that trait is more likely to be passed on.

The reason I ask is that I married a stripper and quickly discovered that addage to be true.

Now to address your initial question. I believe in absolute monogamy. I'm not emotionally vacant such that I could require anyone other than who is presently in my life.

First off, if a woman was jumping my bones once a day, I probably wouldn't have the energy or the drive to even consider any other options!

But more importantly, if the rest of our relationship was working, then I wouldn't even want to look for outside partners.  I have enjoyed many of the women that I have met as providers, but no sex is as good as the sex you can have with an intimate partner.  The thrill of a new thing can't match the nuances and depths that can be explored through many multiple repetitions and variations with one person.  At least, this seems to be true for me.  Then again, I am a relatively private person and I only truly start to open up after I have known someone a while.

I have never strayed in a relationship when everything was clicking well.  Even after the sex starts to decline, I can still stay monogamous, to a point.  It is when other things start to break down that my eyes start to wander.  Of course, there is a direct feedback loop between relationship strife and sexual distancing.  The more of one, the more of the other.

So, I guess what I am saying is, if you are sure that everything else in the relationship is strong, and you are also f*cking his brains out nightly, then he is crazy to continue to hobby.  But that is just my opinion.

By the way, what's your phone number?

I would arrange to do doubles with her and any friends she has when available, though...

because for me it is not the amount of sex - all of my various SOs and housemates have been highly sexed.

For me it used to be about the variety.

Now it is about maintaining a few special relationships with provider friends

And yes, my current SO wears me the fuck out lol

I don't believe a man and woman were meant to be together and exclusive for life. I don't think we are wired to do it.

With that said....I also don't buy into the concept that if a man is getting his brains fucked out at home he will not stray. Nor do I believe if a woman has everything she needs she will not see other lovers.

Marriages are not based on sex. Sex aint never kept a man or a woman home....a person stays home because that is where their heart is...the heart and the sexual organs are not always connected.

Although we would love to believe it...there is no pussy so grand until a man is really never going to see other lovers. None of our twots are lined in gold... There is no cock so grand until it will stop a woman from seeing other lovers.

No.  Not if the lady in question was one of my ATFs.

they love their wife and would never leave her. She offers him a hell of a lot more than the hour he gets with a provider.

Kisses Haley

I like variety, so it  would be hard to stop entirely. I probably would just hobby a lot less!

Unless she was on out of town on tour ..

that was what I was missing and why I started to hobby

Human sexuality is complex; and male sexuality is as complex as that of women -- but in different ways.

While lack of sex is SOMETIMES a cause for straying, it is not the ONLY cause.

Women have a hypergamous sex drive. Men have a polygamous sex drive. And that's just the overall averages -- there are men who tend toward hypergamy and women toward polygamy.

We are not genetically monogamous. The strength differential in upper body strength between men and women only arises in species that have been polygamous for evolutionarily significant expanses of time.

We are SOCIALLY monogamous. That is, monogamous by social convention.

10% of children born to married couples are not the genetic children of the husband. Women cheat as often as men.

Social monogamy was adopted for important and valuable reasons -- primarily the increasing need for high-investment parenting as technology advanced; but also to minimize the adverse impact of resource competition among males in polygamous environments where many males get left sans mates altogether.

Think of social monogamy as a human invention intended to deal with the problems of rapid technological advancement in terms of skills needed to be economically useful and the amount of damage one person can do to others once we graduated beyond sticks and stones.

It is a sort of social convention intended to adapt our behaviors to suit an environment created by our technology in a circumstances where our genetically predisposed behaviors (i.e. polygamy) had proven either inadequate (high investment parenting) or too dangerous in an increasingly technological time (resource competition among males.)

Wholesale abandonment of social monogamy would likely have unintended adverse repercussions of epic scope.

However, because social monogamy is NOT native to human behavior; its degree of success (i.e. fidelity) depends on a number of factors.

First among these is explicit beliefs. Humans have the ability to allow explicit beliefs to override implicit tendencies. That's how acts of heroism -- in which a person contradicts the most powerful of survival instincts in pursuit of a higher purpose -- occur.

Explicit beliefs that support social monogamy; based in religion, social responsibility or whatever; can serve to preserve the institution. Such beliefs, to be effective, have to be bigger than any one individual. It is not enough to simply believe that infidelity might have a *personal* consequence or hurt someone else's feelings. Rather, the explicit beliefs that support social monogamy would have to believe that infidelity revealed a deep and profound character flaw suitable for burning in hell, public flogging, etc. In the modern era, few people hold such beliefs.

There also needs to be widespread social support for social monogamy to be successful. In an environment in which people see infidelity as incredibly horrendous at a social -- and not merely individual level -- and where social sanctions for infidelity (e.g. ritual shunning, loss of resources, loss of status) are stiff; people can -- and do -- control their urges.

There can also be cases in which the perceived differential in attractiveness of the members of a couple would inspire fidelity -- but only in the partner who perceives hisself/herself to be the least desirable of the pair.

The bottom line is that adequate sex is not, in and of itself, a guarantor of fidelity because lack of sex is not (generally) why people cheat.

... in relationships where we established to be "exclusive." "God's" honest truth.  I've been in both open relationships & traditional relationships.  Each have their pluses and minuses, but in every traditional relationship I've been in, I have never cheated once.

Then again, I've never been married so take that what you will.  LOL.

I have also had some rather serious relationships with providers. All I can tell you is that if he continues to fuck around there is nothing you can do.

Trying to change a man is like trying to change a woman, it just flat doesn't happen. I am not saying that people don't change, it's just that "YOU" can't change them. They have to want to change.

Chances are your boyfriend either has feelings for you that are much less strong than your feeling for him or he is just not a monagomous type of guy. Either way, if this really bothers you, you have no choice but to dump him. No matter how hard "you" try he will remain the same guy unless and until "he" wants to change. You unfortunately my dear are fighting a losing battle, one that women (and men) have been fighting since the beginning of time.

I'm not in that situation, so I honestly don't know. Had I been in that situation, I may have never found my way here in the first place. From your second post, it seems to extend a bit beyond just all the sex he could want. If there's still something missing, it may be the emotional attachment, or detachment.

The answer to your question is right in front of your face, in your assumption that:
"he's got everything he needs at home".

And yet you are telling us that he's "leaving home" to get something.

You assume that what he needs is lots of sex.

Sounds to me like what he needs is sex with different partners. The thrill of the first time, Meeting someone new. The "danger" of hiring an escort. Some, or all of the above - to a degree that role play (even if you are a great actress) can't satisfy.

Being in love is one thing, asking a woman to give up her livelihood is another.  I would say that if one can't handle the fact that the lady is a provider then one needs to rethink any sort of personal relationship with her.

1983?

This kinder, gentler Gambler is nonsense.

LOL

BBBJTCIMNQNS and Greek, AND cooks & cleans up my house, as well, ...why would I still want to hobby?!?!  That's fucking Nirvana!  

However, it is the proverbial rhetorical question as I have yet to find a woman out there who was hot, sexy, young (or older even), who gave me all the free sex I ever wanted (and I always want more!), would fuck me daily and sometimes mutiple times in one day, too. I don't think she exists, but I will keep looking for her!

but that is where it all ends as to your hypothetical proposal.... but while married, I did not hobby (did before the marriage and after the marriage was over).  Knowing what I know now and having lived a little more... would I hobby.... probably not... but hey, I know a whole lot more now.... than I did then.

I think the Love Goddess somehow got a hold of GaGambler's password.  Someone call TER Admin!

GG, between this and your detente with MacDaddy over the birth-control post, I am starting to wonder.  What happened to the GaGambler that we knew and ... um ... well, had a definite opinion about??

hang up my hobby spurs in half a heartbeart.

but the lack of sex is generally why people hobby. I've never had a client say "Oh I have this hot young wife, we fuck all the time, but I'd still rather risk everything with her to see you for an hour."

A hot young woman giving me great sex all the time? Why would anyone need to go see providers then? I can see how some guys have/need variety, but I certainly don't. Keep it fun, and throw variety into the relationship to keep it "new" would certainly be the key.

b-

I went 4 years without sex before hobbying.

Dear Ally:
That is a good question considering the business that you are in because one might start to wonder how stable are the relationships at home and also what emotional,psychological and libidinal deficits is he currently experiencing and why would he request relationships with compensatory stipulations to satisfy the connotative and denotative reasons for why he would see you. Also you have to wonder if there is a mechanism that he is using because it seems that he would have a fear of being emotionally involved with someone else. This is a question that I am sure that you ask yourself especially of some of your frequent patrons who might see you a number of times in a given month.  Although you might appreciate their business, you have got to think if all other things are equal then why. Also if so how come would they have this stagnation in their life and an addiction to female company. Not that it is bad but evidently there a question of how much they would want to deal with at this time and would they ever consider being involved romantically with any one else.

I think the serendipitous inability to hobby would preclude any want or need.

This question is, of course, too complicated for a simple yes or no.

When I got married, I stopped hobbying because..., well because it seemed the right thing to do; especially as I was getting enough in the first few years.

As time moved on and my supply of sex got under the all important once per week mark, I decided (with a heavy heart and unclear conscence) to go back to the hobbying life.  First I did hobby-lite at local MPs, but soon I was going for the harder stuff and once I did, there was no turning back.

If my wife and I had kept a decent sexual relationship, then I don't know.  I don't suppose there are too many guys on this board who can speak on that issue.

Save  your fucking pschobabble for someone else. I just like to fuck, and life is too short to fuck ugly women or the same woman for the rest of my life. Does  that answer your fucking lameass question?

What a load of fucking crap!!!

Hey Ally, is that better? lol

all of my gf have been young and hot, and i still cant stop myself from hobbying!  why try!!!

First I'd check to see if I was dreaming and then check to see if I was still on Earth & had not died & gone to Heaven.  My hobby days would be over, at least as long as it continued.  

If this is an offer, PM me at once.
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