I have noticed that nearly all my clients are married men.

Along with noticing a majority of clients are married I would imagine the ladies would also take notice that most are also over 40. Maybe even more over 50?

... but I wasn't; so I did.  And I do.  And in reference to the comment above this  one, though I'm someone between younger and older, tilting a bit toward older, my preference, with an exception or two, is for escorts in their late 30s and 40s - ie much closer to my age

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... We're t-r-o-u-b-l-e!!!

I'm 35 and single, so no qualms for me if I see someone.  I couldn't see myself seeing a provider if I was married but that's just me.  But I do have many friends that hate their wives, but they don't communicate so that's their own issue.  Just make sure that if you do ever want to get married that you don't say that phrase just before lol.  My one friend did, and she was divorced a year later.  Was so awkward, when 2 months before her wedding she was like, how do you really know if you're in love?

then most males will turn elsewhere to have their needs met. I haven't "gotten any" at home in over 20 years.

I  was married for 32 years. I discovered that there are a lot more forces pulling a relationship apart than keeping it together.  The old saying "familiarity breeds contempt" is very true. Somewhere along the line one party or the other will develop a feeling of resentfulness. Once that is in a relationship it's over. Intimacy is done. Which starts a feedback loop. So IMO thats why you see a lot of married older guys. Plus we are horny bastards.

I'm single and have no desire of getting married ...I'm too far gone. LOL  I also got tired of playing the dating game with civvies, so the hobby has fitted nicely into my lifestyle.

I'm married but at no time in my life has the desire for variety ever ebbed even slightly.

And if you do marry and you catch him fucking another hooker behind your back, would that bother you? Would that be cheating, from your persepective? These are all things you should consider but I cant tell you how much consideration you should give it before saying I do.

I'm married.  My wife never had any interest in sex... or any other intamicy (touching, kissing hugging, cuddling).  Then it went from once a year to zero (4 years).  
If my wife had any interest in sex, I would never have hobbied.  I had a choice of celibasy or going outside.  I'm not ready to be celibate.

Why the hell did you get married.  At least I  had 10 years of fun.

Im 39, my wife and I are going through very tough times  
Young kids , work issues and problems , she pisses me off  
On every other day bases ( I'm sure it works both ways ) so I go out and fuck on the side I
Guess to retaliate.  I would fuck much more often but im on the  
Budget lol .  Bottom line is once that spark in the relationship is gone  
I am not sure if people can last together .  
For example the only thing keeping me around is  
Really my kids other wise I would have gotten the hell
Out of this crazy relationship.  I feel really bad leaving my kids  
They are such innocent souls 5&6 , my father dumped me when I was  
1 so I would hate to do the same to them cause I know how much I was hurt growing up
With no dad .  

If I was happily married, I would have nothing to do with the Hobby (except maybe post here). Of course I am not attached, and I am going to be honest here, I like the freedom I have.  

Well maybe not ZERO chance, but if I got the cash, why not increase my odds to 100%!

No sex at home from the wife. Isn't that the reason for nearly all the married guys?

The fact that most of my clients are married.. even better. I don't have to worry about them getting in my personal life. They want discretion and that's exactly what I like and Im willing to offer.  

She’s ill, and doesn’t have the energy anymore.

I was married and stayed faithful, other than a few HJs in strip clubs. After getting separated and then divorced, I jumped into the P4P party with both feet and had a great time. Now I have a civvie girlfriend and I'm not seeing escorts any more. I used to look down on men who were unfaithful, but after a marriage that became sexless, I'm a lot more sympathetic. You live, you learn.

I hope you keep it civil in front of the kids. Otherwise, divorce and share custody. Some people are capable of  better parenting when they're fulfilled and happy. You don't have to be there every day for your children to be happy, healthy souls...and if you and the wife are constantly at each other it's damaging them anyway.

Each for 16 years.  I was monogamous in the first and actually had no desire to go outside.  The sex was great and often, even when the rest of our relationship was falling apart. Grudge sex can be awesome.  
In the second marriage, we started out hot and heavy.  I'd fly to visit her and she'd blow me while I was driving from the airport.  
But, eventually things changed.  She lost her desire through menopause and I had an injury that changed what I needed to enjoy sex.  She wasn't willing to help me.  
Eventually, I lost my desire to be around her and even she said she really didn't want to give me a birthday blow job, or any sex at all.  Didn't have sex for two years.  

I'm either 100% in a relationship or I'm not. There is no grey area.

Church girls did indeed put out! Actually one time during service the girl that I went with (she was a senior in high school. I was a fresh man) disappeared with her boyfriend during the service. When it was about over she came back. Church was dismissed and we got in the car. Immediately I noticed the strong smell of pussy! OMG I was gagging. I looked at the girl and she had a very guilty look on her face. I asked, can you please put the windows down please??? They did. The girl looked shamed but was smiling at the same time. She had sex with her boyfriend while service was going on.  

I like that most men are over 40.  Being a typical girl who did not have a true father figure, I can really appreciate and admire an older man who knows how to treat a woman correctly.

lol...I have already had that but only 2x

I am getting  a lot of PM stating the same. I wonder if women plan to become that way, or it is just nature taking it's course?

That is another thing I've heard.  It is much easier to break up than stay together.
How weird is it that we as human's spend so much energy trying to profess our love and devotion, only to get it and get sick and tired of each other

Thanks for that Daniel son

Of course it would bother me, that is why I ask the question.

who has --more than a decade ago-- lost all interest in sex. She is 60 and still attractive, he is 75, still horny in good health working full time, physically very active.
What is he to do?  
He can meet lovely bright women who are skilled in seduction and who seem passionate.  Some are in their thirties some in their 50s, all are great company and provider greats sex.  
Little mystery here.
He can live a life of frustration and resentment, he can break up a happy marriage to a woman he loves, he can insist his wife "does her duty" with no interest on her part (in my case he really can't because he can't even get excited in such a setting.) or he can enjoy the company of some exceptional woman from time to time.

I'm happily married in my mid 60's and still have fairly frequent satisfying sex with my wife of 30+ years. I visit escorts about once or twice a month for 2 or 3 hours a visit.  

it could be because,

In my first marriage, I went back to the hobby because my wife lost interest in sex.  I soon found that the hobby was more satisfying than monogamous sex anyways.  My first wife divorced me partly on account of my hobbying, which in hindsight was no big loss, (except for the money), and it allowed me to meet my second wife, who was an escort I met (now retired) and approves of my hobbying, especially as we live far apart and only get together a few times a year.

all things that can change over a lifetime spent with one person. I hold that these things are essential for everyone, and should they fade, people will seek them out with others.

Yeah, an old atf, who was in the same repressive religion, spoke of getting laid behind the pulpit after church with the pastor’s son. Just didn’t happen in my area.

I have the thrill gene.  I knew my wife was not sexually charged nor adventurous when I married her and I needed her calming influence. I hobby to find the sexual excitement and pleasure in sex.

Why in the world did you marry her? I get that some people are "A Sexual", but most people consider sex to be a very important part of a healthy relationship. Did you expect her to change and turn into a nymphomaniac?

Hey-Hold up a minute !  You don't have to "Hate" your wife to want to see an escort !!!!

For every absolutely gorgeous woman in the world, there is a man that is tired of her shit.  Marriage sex can become stale, that's just how it is.  Unless you're in an open marriage things become stagnant.  Providers afford married men the opportunity to see and feel something different without the hassle or risk of meeting someone new at a bar, club, etc.

You found your mate then you stop courting. Stop being lovers and become parents and business partners. Some figure it out but in an increasingly crazy world with much more access to distractions outside your home it gets harder to stay together.

Never been married,glad of that. Always got tons of girls back in the day. Even loved a couple. If I wanted one I just went around the corner and there were always several to choose from. Now I go looking and no one`s there anymore except old ladies. I`m now deep in "Senior Land" but still lookin` good. Been lonely and hurtin` for a long time but not anymore.  
I Recently discovered hobby world and I`m lovin` it! This game has done wonders for my self esteem and confidence which then permeates through the rest of me. I feel like I`m emitting some kind of pheromones. My providers never say no and the young checkout girls and cocktail waitresses flirt like hell with me. I smile now all the time. Niiice!
I`m seeing a 30 yr old blonde high rated provider this afternoon in Philly and I can`t wait!
Thank you to all the providers out there in "Hobby World" You are all sex healers and angels from heaven and we love and need you badly!

Kim if you are bi, maybe you and your husband (when you get one) can have an open agreement that you will have threesomes. There shouldn't be a reason for him to do something behind your back then.  

My statement was a bit "Strong"

as soon as I got in the car it just screamed VAGINA!!! I knew I smelled it, put two and two together then looked at her, looked at him and then remembered she disappeared for a long while. Right in the car during church. Wow! Come to Florida lol and avoid eternal damnation!!!!

+1 on the don't feel like you have to do it because everyone else is getting married.  
Marriage is appropriate for some at certain stages of life. And so is monogamy. But, when it has lost it's usefulness and thrill, it is no longer worthwhile .

If you fuck someone today, or even three people today, but then you die tomorrow, that least person was the person you fucked for the "rest of your life" lol

But someday your life will end.  

I am still madly in love with my wife. She turns me on still and she puts out. I consider the marriage a happy one. I think my wife is by far the best thing that ever happened to me and marrying her the smartest thing I ever did by far. I would marry her again in a heart beat.

Before marriage most desks up for their SO, go on dates, talk as often as possible about life, desires, goals and more. The court there parter. Many are adventurous in bed. But after marriage the prise is won so to speak and life pulls both in different directions. Some people hold grudges and living with someone exaggerates flaws. Resentments can build if the work isn't put in.

while married without telling my spouse/granting her permission to do the same -- but even then, I doubt that it would be a good thing for the relationship, especially if we're living together under the same roof everyday (as most married couples have to do.)    

I travel extensively and spend a lot of time on the road alone. P4P is just something I do fend off boredom. If it were feasible for my wife to travel with me I would be just as happy with her.

Whose wife are you? Or better yet why are you on this type of board? Some guys are how you said but others are unhappy. A guy's wife loses her interest in sex and refuses to give him some, that means that he should retire his dick? That's not fair! He talks to her and she says hell no no way! You ain't getting no more. Then what shall he do? Just go on in life not getting any heat? I do not think it's right or fair. My opinion.

The woman just doesn't want sex, normal nor oral, nor give oral except on certain occasions.  Then escorts become a guy's only release other than self stimulus.  He'll, if my wife pleased me even once more per month, I probably wouldn't see providers!  But once a month (if that) is too little for me.I want more.  Hell, I wanna make her cum til she begs me to stop!  She just doesn't have the drive.

If you keep him Cumming every day at least once, preferably more, he won't want to cheat.  Be his fantasy.  Be his whole, be what he wants and desires.  Age is inescapable, sometimes body shape slumps too, but keep his willy wet and he will be too tired for other women.  I would be.  (Maybe this is all just my own wants/fantasy  marriage...)

There was considerable lack of honesty...  

I think we both said "some guys" so we can both be right.

I couldn't have said it better myself

You can save me from hell with your new philosophical religion? I’ve heard of Feng Shui, but I’ve never heard of Feng Shai. If you have a big boob baptism, I’m in.  

My wife was absolutely gorgeous and we had a great sex life. Then, for reasons I've never really understood, she completely lost all interest in sex despite our getting along well in every other arena. After several years of celibacy (and with much trepidation) I ventured into the hobby.  Over the next several years my wife completely let herself go physically and went from being Playboy model material to substantially overweight. This bothered me but, by then, I was not as effected by that as I would have been absent the hobby as an outlet.