Okay, here is the problem. There is a client that I no longer wish to see. He is a nice guy and definitley sees me on a regular basis. However, he drives me nuts. Everytime he books, I dread our time together. Two Biggest factors- 1. He has a profuse sweating problem that literally makes me sick, and forces me to have the maids remake all of my sheets before I can use my incall again. 2. He takes up the entire hour and then some every single time, and every minute of our time together is him pounding away. LOTS of pounding in every imaginable position.

So, because of these two reasons, I refuse to see him any more. Now, how do I tell this to him? I do not want to offend him and I do not want him to turn around and slam me on the boards.

So what is a good girl to do?

You are goingto get some serious flack for comment number 2.

After all, that's the product you're putting on the market.  Comment #1, however is legitimate.  If I can think of a good answer to your question, I'll post it later.

Your first reason is understandable but the second one sort of sucks.  Don't know the circumstances of how you let him stay over the hour but since you have been letting him do it and he is a regular he probably is now accustomed to it.  As for the pounding, dayum I thought that most ladies would have enjoyed that.  Isn't that what the majority of clients are paying for.
If this is for real then you might get slammed by him anyway if he reads these boards and I hope that he does out you in here cause I bet that a lot of current and future clients will be lost by you.  
As for not wanting to see that sweaty hard pounding gymnast anymore you could try by saying ahhhh NO.  If he's a nice guy then it should be no problem.  
You could also change your alias to Givemethemoneystickitinonceanddon'tsweatonmeandleave.  Yeah kind of long but hey, the way your second comment came out it sort of fits you.

The question that comes to mind after reading this post:  Do providers prefer a client who wants multiple fast paced 10-15 minute rounds in an hour session or do providers prefer a client who does a slower,single 30-40 minute round in an hour session?

When I say he takes up the whole hour just pounding away, I mean just that. No foreplay, HARD banging that is painful after 30 or so mins. I think he gets jacked up on Viagra beforehand, because it is ridiculous. I love my job (I get really good reviews) but being with him wears me out and makes me miserable.

As to always going over the hour, he will straight pound me until the time is up, and then takes his time rinsing off and getting dressed. So if his appointment was from noon-1, he leaves around 1:20 at the earliest. Sometimes staying over an extra half hour. And I have never received a tip for the extra time. But he will see me 2 or 3 times a month, so I have been not saying anything. But I can't do it anymore and just want to know how to tell a client you no longer wish to see them without insulting them.

It's not that difficult to do, The Good Girl, especially if you have a maid to do the laundry.

As for comment #2, your description of his pounding away in every imaginable position turned me on!  

Sorry I'm not of more help tonight.

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Makes me feel accomplished and effective in my chosen profession But that's just me everyone is different

I suppose you need to sit down with him and explain an hour includes clean up time.  changing positions is one of the tricks to prolong the time to orgasm.  MAybe he can only come 1X hour and wants the pleasure of your company.  He must be a regular for a reason.

You coule always claim you are booked for the time he wants.

You are making me feel bad because I sweat, pound a bit and never come in less than 45 minutes. But I also only do overnights right now so I assume this ain't me you are talking about.  Besides my ATF would simply be upfront and tell me what the problem was.

I could visualize the pain of a straight hour of hard banging after reading your first post. You're not an inflatable doll. Why not explain that his technique is physically painful to you?

eventually he will go away. I had 2 clients that drove me nuts that I didn't want to see anymore. I just ignored them. I didn't want to hurt them, so I ran like a chicken...

Good Luck

Shaye

Dont you think he has the right to take up that complete hour thats what he pays you for
it should not matter if he is watching tv playing cards of as you say pounding you. that is the business you chose its part of the job as the sweating well thats different.

But i think you really need to re evaluate number 2
hogan

Tips should not be required especially if he is a good customer

also you posting under an alais is ok but if you break it off he will probly post here
be straight if he is a nice guy wait to call him see him tell him face to face
hogan

What? No offer of backchannel?

You are in control of your professional instrument. If you don’t want it played rough, then take it off the market for him. Never apologize about wanting to control your "product". Some lawyers chase ambulances, some write corporate forms, both are valid choices for the legal profession. Why can't you specialize? But remember to be open in your advertisement or be prepared to be versatile and take your pounding like a pro. lol

If you don't do something, you are not being fair to him, he could be out there pounding away on someone that likes that. You are ultimately not being fair to you, because you could be "playing" for someone that likes what makes you comfortable.

Be safe about it. Shaye's advice of ignoring him will protect you from drama. You will last longer in your chosen profession if you can stay true to what you believe in. Just my $.02

Hi, GoodGirl-

You need to think about your comfort first. I can understand your feelings, for I actually had to tell a client "goodbye", after he would not listen to my cries of pain. No man should ever continue on with the constant banging, knowing that you are in pain. Unless, you never spoken up with him before and told him? If you haven't, then now is the time that you need to do so. Maybe that might make him go at a slower pace. As one of the posters stated: you are not a barbie doll. No matter how much money is being flashed, it does not mean that you are not human, and should be treated less than that. I can feel your discomfort for I had a client who use to come and see me, and I would literally be sore that I couldn't see anyone else that same day. I got to the point where it was either my sanity or his pounding away, which was more important? My sanity. He wrote me an email to see me again, and although I knew that it was going to hurt his feelings, I had to lay it out there, as best as I could. You have to think about your comfort levels first.

If it has to do mostly with the sweat issue, then stop what you 2 are doing and make him take a shower. I have no issues in doing that for I hate it when it becomes more of a rain fall, than light sweat. I have been in that situation before, too. You need to do what you need to do for yourself first.

Raise the Rent, maybe he'll move.

and then tell them that you only offer one release. You would certainly not be the only provider cutting a guys time short. I can understand you feeling he is too much work compared to your other clients, however he is only asking for what he is paying for an hour of good clean passionate sex. If you can get away with providing less so much the better for you.

Don't all you guys do layering? Peal off the bed coverings layer by layer as each hobbyist  is finished.  it's like tree rings--we get to know how many have "come" before us that day.

The guy "pounds" for over an hour straight, anf you dont think this gal has a right to gripe? Pounding connotes a  more than merely fucking and i can imagine it can become more than tiresome. How many guys woulkd like to be jerked off for an hour straight by someone who thinks she's pulling roots out of thew ground the whole time. Give the gal a break. After all, as Grouch March said " I like my cigar, but sometimes I take it out ouf my mouth.

Gal,

Tell the guy his avid pounding causes him to sweat and--no offense sir!-- but the smell is hard to take: He should calm down a bit, and use a better anti-perpirant. Af that doesn't work, tell him times are bad and you've got to raise your rates--A LOT!

..one helluva endorsement for Viagara!!  Now, before you write him off, might I suggest you try it "one more time!", but hand him some Mennen Speed Stick before he opens his tool case and gets out the ol' hammer.

Then video tape it..."if" it works, you might have one helluva pay per view event!  

If the heat of the meat is no longer a treat, stay off the sheet!

 

INDY that was some funny shit. LOL.

Goodgirl, I think you want someone like me, small, fast and non sweaty.

and if he doesn't move, you can now afford some lube oil and new sheets.

If I were the client, I would want you to tell me that you are not enjoying the sessions and would prefer that I either alter my style or perhaps not see each other anymore.  I personally would prefer to know how you feel, as that is an important part of the overall experience for me.

Good post. I am a overweight and tend to sweat during the action worse in the summer. By the way even when I was in shape I still would sweat a lot. This is uncomfortable to me if I am making the provider uneasy. However I might add my hygiene is impeccable.I have actaully asked one of my regular providers if that was an issue as I feel bad sweating all over the women.(I even tend to use positions that I won't be face to face with the provider.) She said no problem for her some guys sweat more than others. As far as the second part within reason for him to be pounding away. Any ways this is a free country if you don't want to see him then don't.

Oh Puhleeze...
you might be in the wrong bizness based on your reasoning

Boy OH Boy... your # 2 reason

IMPO he paid for an hour & if he has the bullets to go a full hour he should be able too! I envy his stamina

sweating : just ask him to shower & use gold bond powder (all over) after he dries off ! Tell him it will enhance the experience for both of you or just add the powder rub down into your routine before you are off to the races.

my 2 cents worth

The "pounding" is part of the occupation I suppose, up to a point. But if the guy is a greasy, sweaty, ugly pig of a man(another occupational hazard of the hobby)and he revolts you, simply tell him you've decided not to see him anymore because of his sweating problem...............be honest. MfSD>>>>

Not to the point where it is painful. Consenting pounding is one thing (she is screaming more and more). But there is such thing as pounding where it can hurt. Yes, he is enjoying it and she is not. She should speak up at once, and maybe he can slow the pounding down some, to where it's more comfortable for her. I am pretty sure that he doesn't want to hurt her.

You have decided to cut down on the number of hours that you work.

Then whenever he calls, already be booked up.  

That or the whole truth thing.  "I am sorry, but sessions with you are very physically demanding.  More so than I can really accomodate any more.  However, If you like I can recommend some other women who can accomodate you."  Luscious Laurel comes to mind.  

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I know what you mean..luckily not all clients are like that..we have the hard ones and the easy ones...I usually stay about 1 hour and 15-20 minutes for every apt..but one client in particular makes me stay almost an extra 45 minutes but will only compensate for an hour..so I understand..you need to either say you are booked at his regular time..that you had a change in schedule...or if he is always able to see you when ever..then say you need a vacation and you will let him know whne you are ready to see clients again..or tell him you need to go up..way up in your rates..then that way if you do still see him..charge him more..so you can have a brake after him and then it will be more worth it..although there are some clients that no amount of donation makes it worth seeing them...I feel for you..especially about the sweating stuff..I know its supposed to happen but it can get to you sometimes and thats why I like multiple pops..its not as hard on your body to do it 3 times as it is for one long consecutive time...my 2 cents

I stay on top of the comforter and just change those between appointments, but this client soaks through the comforter to the sheets and the whole room smells musty afterwards.

I agree there is flack...

However.. forget that noise. I am not a machine or a mechanical bull. You paid for my time not to abuse my body. If what you are doing is not comfortable starting to hurt or in any way causing my body to bruise ache or cramp .. I will politely suggest once we try another technique if not listened to, I have the priviledge and right to end our session for whatever reason I deem fit. I will not be rude and will strive to please you. I will not allow any part of my being to be uncomfortable at any time.

Now the question how to tell a regular client no.

Mr X I really have appreciated our time together. I need to make some changes and I would like to discuss them with you. During our play you often work up quite a sweat. It is something that unfortunately causes me to have to change linens taking up time from my next session.  Time is also a problem. Our schedule has our time booked for 12:00 - 1:00 . While I expect and give 10 minutes on either side I can not go any longer than this as it is interupting time with my other appointments.
At this time I can not make any future appointments with you
OR
I really need to make sure I hold to the guidelines I set out for all my clients.
Thank you

Either way its not going to make him happy in the least. Tact is a great tool but for such PERSONAL issues its hard to put something like that out there .. especially for a regular

Thanks to those that offered constructive advice and sympathy.

To the guys that think that "he paid for the hour, therefore he gets to do whatever he wants" You are dorks, you don't respect women, and this is why you have to pay for it. Some guys play for fun, others play out of necessity- which guy do you want to be?

Very tactfully said!

Good Girl,

You have every right to select your clientele.  If I was your client, I would not want to be in the unfortunate position of seeing you after Mr. X.

I personally find Shaye's approach, simplying ignoring him until he goes away, as the single biggest problem women have in ending relationships with men.  Rather than deal with the problem and the risk of unpleasant confrontation, women practice avoidance and move on (guys can do it too, but it is IMO far more characteristic of women).

So, tell Mr. X that you have appreciated his patronage, but you have gotten to the point where the "Chemistry" is wrong and you need to stop seeing him.  He may not be happy, but you have explained your position and ended the relationship, which has been strictly business.  How he reacts is his problem.  If he asks what is wrong - tell him you'd rather not hurt his feelings.  If he insists on knowing, tell him the truth.

I would respect any lady who had the guts to tell me that I'm treating her wrong.  How else would I correct my behavior?

best Wishes...
Silk

Wish my ATF would let me go longer than she does, But then I am a slow and easy kind of guy, not what you described. Thats my only problem with her she only alows one pop per hour, which I think sucks, but never would I bang her like a jackhammer for an hour straight. He must have put something one to numb it and wacked off three time before he showed up to do that.

I wanted to add..that hopefully he will take it ok..I hesitated to add this coment then thought I should..if you do end it..please note if you have any changes in your daily calls and emails..if he is nice he wont..but I and a few other providers that I know had this situation happen..not for the same reasons as you..but just wanted to stop seeing a regular..then he ended up stalking..it happens..it fucked up my life for a while and was a BIG reason I left Boston..to get away..other providers I have known have had the client email there work.. follow them home to get more info..go through garbage for discarded hotel invoice (never throw them away) and do various things..hopefully you did not make the mistake of letting your gaurd down and giving the client personal info...we all do it.. I have even caught a client going through my poketbook while I was in the bathroom..and I had hidden it in a draw under a pillow...I take precautions so that people cant find out personal info..because I like to be open with my clients..talk about life and other things...some people dont like hearing no..especially when the know another provider would not allow them to get away with  the same things or charge them up the ass to do the same thing we dont think twice about doing for free..good luck..and if you do start having alot of crank  calls after you let him go..confront him..say you know its him he forgot to block the call one time and you saw his # and hopefully that will be enough to make him stop...

something more direct is in order her.

Of all the previous commentators I agree with Shaye. Ignore the bastard and as long as you did your best when you DID see him, you have nothing to worry about with regard to him outing you on the boards.

Failing that ask the guy flat out "What part of NO don't you understand"?

I mean what is he gonna do, go to the police? I seriously doubt it.

I always try to be tackfull in anything I do. There comes a time though where one needs to get rough.

Good Luck!

This guy must be huge, pushing 350lbs? How small are you Good Girl? I have a buddy who is about 350, big guy, but the nicest guy i know and he sweats like a pig if we are drinking or even outside playing golf. They cant help it and I do feel bad for bigger guys.

Hmm, maybe this is my buddy, if it is I can break the news to him if you want. I'll take care of it....

The best and kindest way to get rid of him is to raise your rates. If he still continues slow him down a bit and turn up the AC.  You might also bring some toys too.

Etienne, I hope that you took the time to reread her passage. She is saying that he pounding into her, like someone would pound hamburger to make a pattie LOL Also, he is sweating very bad.... I hope that is not considered good clean sex???????? LOL

I'm a little frugal...so my definition of an hour is 60 minutes of pounding!  Not a second less!  For the money requested, I feel its fair!

Now I don't get kinky and I realize a woman can only stand upside down on her head for a short period of time so I stick with the more common positions... however I go nonstop until the buzzer sounds!

Why don't you explain to him that the hour of pounding hurts you, but instead of refusing to see him again offer to see him on your conditions.  For example you could insist on CG only so that you can pound on him and since you are then doing most of the work he might not sweat so much.  Unless he is a complete jerk, it seems to me once he understands that he is hurting you, he might be open to suggestions.

Personally, I can't imagine NOT using fresh sheets with each client.  I thought that was something we all did. The fact that he sweats and you have to change the sheets is such a major problem?

I don't understand what you have against this guy, but obviously you don't enjoy your time with him and you should very nicely let him know.  Do you think he would want to see you if he knew you really didn't like "being pounded for an hour"?  Tell him that just isn't your thing and I'm sure he will have no problems finding someone who likes it that way.

I don't want to be mean, but with an attitude like yours, I understand why some men dont believe there are providers who enjoy what we do.  You make us all look bad.

Sorry Shaye, but I really must disagree with this, completely ignoring someone. Open and honest communication is always needed to truly resovle a situation of conflict for both parties to benefit positively.
On a personal note, the way I came to form this point of view and/or opinion; I had a lady toy with my emotions and then ignore my request for a repeat visit, and I must say it kind of hurts not knowing why she declined to see me. If I am that bad, telling me would make me change my ways, if not for you but for the next lady I see. Regardless of whether we saw one another again, I would want to know the truth.

Since he is such a good repeat client for you, I would hope a compromise could be reached. Above all else, I encourage open and honest communication. I too get rather vigorous at times and can be quite a sweater; so I am familiar with this situation.

My suggestion is to, be direct and to the point, tell him that this type of activity is uncomfortable for you. (he may not even realize this) See if he will allow you to perform on him a little more; BJ and/or CG should hopefully allow you to set the pace and decrease the amount of his sweating while still getting pleasure and his money's worth. If he is any gentleman at all, he will change his ways; if not you don't need him as a client anyway. Clearly explain your policy on what exactly one hour of time means, and make sure he knows that he must leave promptly when his time is over to be fair to you and other clients. Then be assertive in ending activity early enough for clean up afterwards. (this also cuts down on the "pounding time" that would be available or allowed)If approached reasonably and this guy cannot or will not change, simply be honest and tell him to find someone else that will be able to serve his needs better. After all business is business.
hope this helps, goodgirl, please update us and let us know how it works out. I have a feeling this is a more commmon problem than the ladies here are willing to admit. best regards, mr.man

Although I agree with you Good Girl that just paying for the hour doesn't mean he can do whatever he wants, your statement "you don't respect women, and this is why you have to pay for it" is incredibly insensitive and just plain wrong.  Yup, I pay for it, but I ALWAYS respect the ladies I see.

...and ditto on your second statement "Some guys play for fun, others play out of necessity- which guy do you want to be?"----is very egotistical.  Are we digressing back to a high school structure where there's "cool" people and "dorks" ??  So what if someone has to pay out of necessity ??

Why do things have to get to the point where something dramatic has to happen?  This should have been taken care of as soon as the problem started, just by talking or even just grunting "ouch."

Your description of "pounding" is vague, but I get the impression that it involves physical discomfort for you.  When you feel uncomfortable, SAY SO!!  Nobody wants to hurt you, and IF THEY KNOW they're hurting you, they'll ease up.  (And if they don't, then you can immediately dump them with a very clear conscience.)  Seriously, I get the impression that this guy has no idea that you are unhappy about the hour-of-pounding.  If he did, then it wouldn't be happening.

Same for the overtime.  Does he KNOW you're unhappy about this?  Did you ever tell him?  In some ways, this IS a rather informal and flexible business, so he really might not know that you mind.

It might be too late for this guy, but if you have any other chronic overstayers, perhaps the next time you schedule one, you could ask if they want the usual hour-and-a-half and its corresponding rate.

I sent this message to a friend of mine that has this trouble and  she sent me this to post    (I can understand where she is coming from, but that really isn't my problem.  I have one guy imparticular right now that I see once a week and have been for the last two months.  He books me for an hour and expects me to stay for about two.  He asked me the last time that he saw me if we could get together and drink a bottle of champagne and then stated that he thought that I would need to stay a little longer because he would hate for me to get into an accident.  Well, f#ck every time he books me he pushes for a little more time and I have a hard time getting out.  Almost every time, two hours.  What the f#ck does he expect?  I told him that I thought that I would be fine and could drive home with no problem within two hours.  He made it very clear that he didn't think that would be a good idea.  He doesn't give a f#ck about me, he just wants a free evening for an hours rate.  And then he asked, do people that I see on a regular basis get special treatment.  I ask him what did he mean by that and he ask about Greek and CIM and you no my answer to that, no f#cking way.  Anyway, he is a huge annoyance and I don't know what to do.  He ask me if I considered him a friend and I said of course and then he went on to say that he was going to be here an awful lot and could use one.  He needs someone to go the movies with and to dinner with and to talk to.  I don't have enough time for my self .   I don't know what to do about this asswipe.  Any suggestions?  I just have about five other clients like this and they take up way to much of my down time and want to take up even more time.  

Back to the girls comment, I am fine with someone wanting me for an hour and doing things within reason.  I just hate all of these guys that think they are my best friend and want me to stay for two hours and f**ck for that length of time and pay me for one.

...and other great ideas to drum up business???!!!
Funny though...

YLB
you hit the nail on the head with this last post by this lady.

With each response the more GoodGirl reveals her views, personality ,rigid insights & views on clients. Yikes.

Not to appealing.

All we have is her words & it Looks like she has an preferred in-crowd client profile in mind and those that should not bother with her.

I don't believe anyone responding to her original post advocated a client hurting her or in someway making the sesion actvity painfull. Yet she responds to some posters by name calling and negativley profiling them.

Why ask for advice if all you want is good news.

Well, I don't know that I've ever seen a thread this long, and I haven't read all of these responses, but suspect what I have to say will duplicate some of the others.

I thought about this issue and some of the early  responses quite a bit last night and was conflicted for a while, until the answer seemed clear:

Why should providers be different from any other type of service provider?  If I go to a lawyer, I may want a pit bull, a good ol' boy (or girl), a distinguished patrician who speaks in golden tones or a brilliant thinker.  If I walk into the patrician's office and tell him I want him to eat the other side alive, it's entirely fair for him to say, "That's not my style -- let me give you a referral."  If I go to a seafood restaurant and ask for a 32 oz Porterhouse, should I be offended if they say, "Sorry, we're not a steak house."

To say that a provider is obligated to take a pounding because "that's what [the hobbyist]pays for" is a bit like saying Burger King should serve Chateaubriande (you're paying for beef, aren't you?).  What we pay for with a provider is far more than the sex -- it's the companionship, the entertainment, the excitement, the intimacy, the fantasy.  We should all be adult enough to recognize that.

And then, of course, there's the obvious point:  lots of providers have those famous "rules" such as no DFK, no DATY, etc.  Why is "no sweaty pounders" any different?

Hey, I don't want to be mean but it is a little tacky to use discussion threads to promote yourself.

Also, I do like my job and I get excellent reviews as a result. If you are trying to say that you have never had ONE client that just rubbed you the wrong way, then you are a liar. We all run into negative situations, I just wanted a little help dealing with mine. Also, the whole point of this thread is that I don't want to hurt this guy's feelings, so where is the "attitude" in that?

And as I stated above, I change the comforters after each client, but I have never had a reason to completely change the sheets except for this one.

I know exactly what you are talking about. I have had several clients that use such "tricks" for extra time. Mine was the other way around- the client brought wine over to my place and then afterwards he didn't want to leave right away because he was a little tipsy. I also hate the guys that show up 15 mins early and then go an hour and 15 mins and then take their sweet ass time leaving, so there is another 15 mins. Hello! You just got a free half hour. My website clearly states 1.5 hr rates, so I consider this stealing time.

I know some guys will take this the wrong way, but I am just being honest. It feels good to vent a little. Most girls are scared to do so because they don't want to lose buisiness, which is understandable. However, some of these "I love every single client no matter what and I up for anything and everything to make him happy" girls are so full of shit that it is pathetic.

If a man says that once he pays for my time, then he has the right to do whatever he wants, even if it is painful and completely unappealing to me, then that man has NO RESPECT for me as a woman, and therefore I consider him a DORK.

Yes, you are a dork. Hate to break it to you, but you are being way oversensitive about my honesty. Just to reiterate for you...I love men, I love my job, I have some of the best reviews on this site. I see men of all colors, ages, and physical appearences. Tall ones, fat ones, bald ones, black ones....I do not discriminate and give 100% to each client. But for about 10% of you, I absolutely have to use every ounce of acting ability I have just to be around you. And it is because of how you respect women and how you respect yourself that makes me not want to see you for any amount of $.

The way some of you express your views on this site is disgusting. And when I said some guys play for fun and some guys play out of necessity, I was also referring only to your lack of respect for women, or more specifially providers. We are not blow-up dolls with a pulse. We are not all uneducated dirty drug addicts either. I would like to help some of you get a clue. But any honesty or assertiveness in providers is frowned upon.

GG,

I apologize if I was too harsh with you and if I found your attitude offensive.  I shouldn't have been that way.

NOSC has an excellent point.  I've had others take advantage of me in the past until I finally realized that they can only do what I allow them to do.  Even though I don't understand your views on this one client of yours, I do understand how you got to the point of posting the problem here.

One of the most valuable lessons I've learned in business is to stand up for myself politely. There is nothing wronf with that. Sometimes I'm caught off guard by a new situation, but I learn from it and trynot to ever let it happen again.  You may have to let this client go when you start to communicate with him, but if the same situation happens in the future, you will probably nip it in the bud.  

you guys are killing me on this board, lol, but I try to see just one client a day at the most 2 and i have 2 identical blankets that i change for each client
as far as the taking up the hour comment i think that's ridiculous, he's paying for your time, he's suppose to take up the hour

I like multiple pops too, makes me feel sexy and powerful

Ok I also have a problem telling people things straight up that could be embarrasing for them so my way is a bit passive aggressive but has worked for the most part,
I have a website where i post things like LIKES and DISLIKES so for instance I hate those DFK where their tongue hits the back of my throat and they kiss too hard, so I just put under likes "soft kisses"
I also have a journal on my website that my clients take a look at and I sometimes will drop "hints" nothing bad or nothing where a person could tell I'm talking about him specifically, like a had a guy who wanted to see me on a regular exclusive basis and i didn't know how to tell him I wasn't interested so I just said a few things in my journal like "it's so fun and exciting for me to see new and different people every week, i love it"

I dunno if those are options for you though

the other thing is to write him a email just explaining the truth.
that would be my last resort

you protest too much my dear.

you obviously did not want feedback that did not match up to your
post and position about this matter.

I'm glad you have great reviews & clients that means you are doing something right.

maybe next time you will bring thicker skin to the board and less pulpit preaching for us Dorks when posting.

Mr. Dork signing off this thread.

Merry Xmas  

That is why you must always be direct and firm, and stand your ground! If you never speak up, then that is on you. If you speak up, and the situation changes, then good for you. But, allowing anyone to dictact on how your business should be run is shame on them.