Ladies lets suppose you meet a client the first time, the chemistry is great and the guy is attractive and wealthy.

You know sometimes you can have love at first fuck.

How do you keep yourself from getting attached to the guy ?

Do you refuse to see him for a 2nd visit ?

or

Do you go with the flow and hope he falls in love with you to get into a relationship that leads to engagement/marriage ?

Until you can't pay any more is the short answer.

We are going to have an Awesome time...and if I am attracted to the guy and we had an amazing time...why would I be foolish enough to refuse a 2nd visit...I would Never refuse a Great time with someone...lol...it's a mind set..it is what it is...I am here to be used and to use You for Pleasure...and the bonus package isn't bad either

First of all, I am a hobbyist and I have learned that this hobby must be kept in perspective.  I think men, in general, have a harder time doing that then providers.  After all, providers do this for money first and foremost (in the majority of cases) and they already have the perspective straight.

Hobbyists do this for lust, sexual satisfaction, companionship, etc. and they often confuse those things for love.

It's a lot less likely that a provider will lose perspective than a hobbyist.

In my opinion, of course.

I have met one man whom I could see having a serious relationship with and yes I did put him on freebie status.  So yes it can happen but VERY selectively!  

But at the same time, I've had many offers of the same that I have respectfully said no thank you to.  

Sounds like just another day in paradise and sure do hope it's in my bed. What a tease you are getting me thinking about things like this

No gentleman calls an escort looking for love. He's looking for an escape from reality for a short time and then back to his living, breathing complicated life. Even the single gentlemen you see are looking for convenience not a relationship.

I have many friends that I have been seeing for a long time. I listen to their wants and needs and try my best to give them exactly that...I have feelings for many but never get too involved. I am a respite stop not a permanent destination. I will not say I don't fall in love but try to put things into perspective. I open myself to those I see, some are interested in being close and others just in the physical aspects of our time. I live by do no harm..I am there to comfort and give enjoyment.

I'm not here to break up a marriage nor would I ever consider such a thing. It is hard to offer intimacy and yet not carry it too far. To care about someone but not lead them astray.

We ladies are human too and many of our friends are very kind and comforting to us. Sex is the very basic part of the hobby and is offered by every provider. The intimate part, when you peel back any pretence and open your emotions, is something that can be very problematic for some.

Many new gentlemen to the hobby have never felt this before and be quite confused by their emotions. They are searching for answers and relief from a less than perfect marriage.  

Sometimes it is hard on both the provider and the gentlemen, but is best to walk away.

I for one have learned through trial and error that dating or being in a relationship and being an escort don't work for me..This is my chosen lifestyle and my gentlemen friends are very special to me.

Kisses Haley

... and when the girl decides my appointments are free, I know I've done it again -- and I freakin' RUN because I am NOT playing love games with providers.

Again? Oh yeah. Anybody who thinks there aren't providers out there who will try to turn a hobbyist into a boyfriend hasn't walked a mile in this hobbyist's shoes.

one year anniversary in March...and Yes there have been a couple guys that I thought...another sitution and another time....I could see myself with this guy...however when I decided to start doing this...I put it in my mind...that there is a reason why men are seeking woman out this way...and it's Not to find a long term relationship...lol...so I would never give it away for free...however could it happen...I am sure it could...but then I guess I would be questioning in my mind the sincerity of it all...You know what I mean???

I'd think there would be exceptions.  Yes, there are reasons us guys seek out escorts, but it's not all bad.  Personally, I'm between relationships.  Long between, lol.  I know what I'm looking for and won't be settling for or wasting my time with less.  So, in the mean time, the hobbying takes care of the need for intamacy and closeness, without the complications of sleeping with a civie woman I'm really not all that into just to sleep with her, and all the accompanying headaches.  I don't feel like wasting time and going through all that just for a piece of ass.  If the connection and personality isn't there, then I move on, and have no desire to jump through the hoops and put on a front just to get laid.

I am seeing an escort that under different circumstances, I'd pursue and consider excellent relationship material.  Not quite the body type I prefer, but man, what a personality!  After two years, we still have a genuine blast.  But I do believe that virtually nobody wants to meet a real love interest like this, both escorts and hobbyists, so that keeps things in perspective. Plus, while I'm not the especially jealous type, I'm realistically not sure if I could handle her profession.  Not that I judge it, but don't think I could realistically deal with it, and have not much desire of destroying a good, mutually beneficial thing by trying.  If I could find her in a civie woman who'd have me, I'd be all set, and my hobbying days would be over!

Why buy the chicken when you get the eggs for free?

Or, in this case, you get paid for taking the eggs?

understand the fact of confussing Lust for Love in the moment...however I always thought the envelop had the same meaning for both...paying me to leave...to keep the perspective straight...because I know for myself...I escape reality the minute I enter the door...and I give myself 100% because I too Enjoy the sexual satisfaction and companionship and everything else that cums along with it...and I stay in that fantasy until I touch the envelop...and then poof..I am back to reality....it's almost like a dream...with sooo many wonderful memories

don't think any of this is bad...truth be told...I wish I had known this exsisted 10 years ago...lol...I have met the Greatest Guys and have developed many friendships (yes..I hang out with some of the guys off the clock...so to say) and I don't think anyone should ever settle. I would much rather be single and Happy rather than married and miserable...everyone has there story and everyone has there reasons for doing what they do...and I for one don't judge anyone...I just listen...and once in awhile give my opinion...for whatever it is worth

This brings to mind an old saying:  "If it floats, flies or fucks...rent it".

No chance of getting attached to anyone provider or civie. Being true to the hobby.

I can agree with most of what is said here. It's fantasy, escape and such by large. All in all it's probably best if left that way also.

My logic is if you ever run across the girl that is smart, attractive, and someone that hits every note you have been looking for both intellectually and physically then don't call her, don't write, just unplug the computer and bash yourself on the head with a 5lbs copy of "The Guide to Getting it On". In the end you will be better off mentally & financially and might actually learn something via osmosis.

Seeing a provider of that nature is just asking for trouble and best case scenario she is the smarter of the two and ends it first fast & cold. Worst case she is in it for herself, the money and has no business sense and pain only follows.

How can a guy ever compete with a part time job that pays 50k+ to a woman anyway? If she can get past the negatives the positives reinforce themselves. The only way I can see a provider would fall for a guy is if his disposable income got close to matching that revenue source.

In the end it's still about money not love.

How can you have a relationship honestly in this world? The smart ones know they cant and avoid the stupid guys that don't think far enough down the road.

The better question to ask is how many girls here would contact that guy in your black book ( the one everyone knows you keep no mater what is said) years down the road once you retire?

Honestly few would I think, most women (and this is a rare moment that I generalize) can't take the ego hits guys suffer daily when it come to pursuing someone you want knowing there is a high % that they will tell you to take a hike or worse just laugh you off.

So in the end he can never really be with her and she will never come to him. Leave fiction like this to Hollywood no mater what your heart tells you.

iCoitus
"Love is the Discovery of ourselves in others, & the delight in the recognition."
-Alexander Smith

i dont believe in love.

I am also one who likes to pay my own way..and not depend on anyone.

i havent the time for love and all the mind games...i have too much to do in my life.

and if anyone gets any ideas....i just send them an email with my list of faults..and explain things...

i provide a fantasy, one hour at a time. Outside of that hour...you dont exist to me.

Being friends is fine though..but when i feel things are getting out of hand..i cut them off. *POOF*

And they never see or hear from me again.

Would I string someone along if he is wealthy? No. why? it's not fair to him and i havent the time for mind games.

i am lazy. lol

just my 1.2 cents.