there are risks in everyday life, such as walking across a busy street, riding in a car, taking an airplane or even climbing a stepladder. And foods ... heck, some people are deathly alergic to goober peas!

I believe there has never been a case of a man becoming HIV+ from receiving oral sex, though not sure of any other STDs.

that you are seeking to completion before the act happens. Some girls do allow in the mouth but spits. Some swallows.

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My situation is similar to yours, early forties, good shape, long term marriage, and the draw of a good BBBJTC is one that's hard to resist. However, there is a risk that could potentially prove devastating to your relationship.

A couple of years ago I saw a provider who is very low volume to the point of not even advertising, and has awesome oral skills. A few days after our encounter I noticed a slight burning during urination and a little discharge. This obviously totally freaked me out, but thankfully I hadn't had sex at home since the encounter. I went straight down to the public clinic because of the anonymity, and got every test they had for STD's. I gotta say it was really humiliating and then after I had to wait a week and go back in for the results. Obviously in the meantime making any excuse to not get intimate with wifey.

All tests came back negative and the nurse told me it was probably some kind of minor urinary infection, but BBBJ's can easily transfer bacterial infections like Chlamidia, Ghonorea (sp?), and syph. All easily treatable but try explaining to the little woman. HIV, she explained, is almost impossible to transfer in this method, but she didn't normally tell "customers" this to discourage risky behavior.

Conclusions? First, it scared the shit out me and I stopped seeing providers for over a year. Second, if you do, then make sure you abstain from any sex at home for a couple of weeks to make sure you don't give wifey a gift that you'll absolutely regret.

Life is full of risks and this activity, like any other, requires precautions.

condition after about 10 or 12 years of marriage (at least mine did).  But I've had many girfriends in their 40's that never seem to develop the problem.  Go figure.

this week ($450) to hopefully stop the headaches from waking me up at night.
Does that stop me from enjoying BBJ - hell no! If you enjoy something, you usually find a way to keep doing it anyway.(whether that's a good thing or a bad thing)..
The only thing is, I'll pay the price later..