Last year I was grieving a death and dealing with another large life expense. During the 12 months I was dealing with those things, I stopped working out and turned to food for comfort. I ate what ever made me feel good LOL. I gained 35 pounds and went up 3 pant sizes. I've lost over 30 pounds 5 times in my life. It will take me 4 months of clean eating and exercising twice a week to get back to my old self. I actually haven't booked an appointment in almost 6 months because I don't feel sexual. I feel fat and unappealing.

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So why would I stop having sex?

Unless I got so fucking fat I could no longer find my dick I can't for the life of me imagine going a year without sex. I know how fucking grumpy I get if I don't get any for even a week, my bad mood starts at about three days and on the rare occasions I have had to go a week by the end of that week I can literally chew fucking nails.

I keep it in a jar on my desk.

That figures!  

Well, maybe only about 7 years.  But ask your pal GaGa how long I've been trotting out the exact same headline and picture.  It's a LOOOOOOOOONG time.
Thanks for finally noticing, Rip! LOL!
Your Pal,
Dionysius

enjoy P4P more if you loose the extra pounds. Try portion control (eat correct amounts of good food, cut out desserts, breads, fatty stuff, etc.  

If it weren’t for hideous guys, there would be no TER.  

You sound like an infomercial.

To prove to yourself that you are not unattractive, even if you put on some weight.  We all know the benefits of taking it off so this is no place to preach, but you seem like a really nice guy to even think such a thing and in this little town we call hobbyland being a decent, warm hearted, fun loving guy is what is what defines an attractive man. Sounds like you're a ten - now lose 30 and enjoy lol.

she saw a dude with a gigantic boil in the middle of his forehead. Why anyone would go to a M&G looking like that is beyond me.  Good thing most of the girls there no longer have a gag reflex.
So a fat guy is hardly the most disgusting thing a girl might see.

If you have ENOUGH sex, you will not gain weight.  If you put on a few pounds, have more sex and you will lose it again.   Some weeks when I hobby 8 hours, I need to eat a little more just to stay the same.  

Who knew eating less calories and working out more would lead to weight loss? I think an Oprah book club deal is in the offing for him. LOL

I always just thought I was nothing special but not repulsive. If I go to a M&G and look around and decide I'm one of the best looking bastards there, I'd walk out with a little swagger. LoL

...there wouldn't be a rrasha88 either. LOL

As usual.  That's two in a row where you've embarrassed yourself, Rip.  And that's just tonight.
Better go to bed before you totally wet yourself.  Oh, and change your Depends.

At least that is what the wife told me.  She stopped giving BJ's due to an extra 30 lbs I had gained over 25 years, so I just started outsourcing.  Had not touched any woman other than my wife for over 25 years before because I was so happy with her service.  Oh well, still outsourcing and still have the same weight as when I started hobbying.

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You got a little mushy there tho lol

I haven't seen my cock, other than in a mirror, for quite some time.  
Having the ladies take it for a regular workout and draining is a medical and mental must do.  

Do not let a little bit of weight mess up your game or your fun. In fact this is a time when you should indulge more!  I have a very odd feeling that by not partaking in this world, it's only messing with your confidence even more. I say this to you because hell, I was a true BBW when I started as a provider. I wanted to lose weight to begin with and upon entering the industry it only helped motivate me further to be healthy, not necessarily thin (there are some unhealthy thin people out there). Now, I'm 80 pounds down and plus size and confident as ever. Oh, and people pay me.  

Was that the large life expense? Didn't the person have life insurance? Sorry if that was the case. I am horny all the time no matter what I eat or weight gain.
I never thought of myself in a sexual way in the manner you describe.
Can you double the exercise to shorten the time until you get back in the saddle? If you are not in great shape now just get a hummer as that will be less taxing.  
Sometimes that is less money too as it is less work for the ladies. Keep your spirits up and your dick will follow.

Sorry for your loss.  

he wanted to loose the weight (35 lbs) so that he felt better about hobbying. All I did was offer him a quicker way to reach HIS goal.

from Steven King, no less.

It's purely mental, but feeling shitty about myself and the weight gain makes it harder for me to see a lady. Should be motivation to lose the extra weight again but...

... and damn near panicked.  When I first saw the title, my interpretation was :

As I recall, a load only has 10-20 calories, so most likely the gal will burn that up giving a BJ, so the net effect should be minimal.

This article claims one calorie. I'm not sure how academic it is, but there's something in there about a fifty year study.

I seem to recall an average load (not the second in an hour, in any case) is more like 30-40 ml.

I guess I was just saying here's this. I probably wasn't clear in that regard.

I have always had issues controlling my weight but as I approached my 50th birthday I was in a seriously life threatening condition...I weighed over 400 pounds (I'm 5-8), had run away high blood pressure, diabetes, joint damage, severe acid reflux, sleep apnea, and worst of all I was functionally impotent...even without the impotence sex was pretty much out of the question due to the fact that junior was hidden inside rolls of fat and only an inch or so was exposed...

I lost 160 lbs of ugly fat one year ... I got divorced.   --rimshot--

In porn scenes maybe, but those are camera tricks. The average load is 3.7 ml which is about 3/4 tsp as fearghas stated.

The over 60 crowd probably has more orgasms than the under 60 crowd...they have more  time for fun I'm guessing.  Or maybe the survey just captured more older guys.

One ml = one cc, so 3.4 is more correct.

You sound real! Good to here on aboard.  
My bet is on you, that you will be amazing when your ready to go.  
Not that your not now, just a feeling that will pass.

I agree with you 100%.

There is no reason to stop having sex just because you gained weight, however much that may be.  

I think in this case it's more a matter of self confidence that needs to be rebuild once again. I knew for me when I dropped the 30 lbs, i noticed my confidence skyrockeketed and so did the women in bed