I am always appreciative of the lovely women who allow us momentary enjoyment of their charms, and I recognize they're all human and subject to ill humor. However, if a lady is choosing to project a negative vibe, it's usually a turnoff for me. There was a thread recently about whether a lady's writing on this board is likely to reflect her IRL attitude. Whether it does or not, it may well influence perception of her and whether a player is willing to call. Writing ad copy is as much art as science, and if the lady in question chose this tone, it suggests to me that she has had enough bad experiences that they're negatively coloring her approach and may negatively affect our time together. Understandable, but unattractive. And with lots of of attractive ladies NOT projecting this vibe, it's an easy choice to go elsewhere.
I came across this ad and was instantly turned off by the aggressive tone. I couldn't help but wonder if this actually works for some people. Here's the half that turned me off.
If you text me and I reply, but you don’t reply again = BLOCK !!
When I ask for deposit, and you don’t respond back = BLOCK !!
Trying to negotiate my price = BLOCK !!
IDGAF if you’ve been scammed before , not my problem ! NO DEPOSIT = NO BOOKING!!
Now, I don't mind someone who blocks clients for these reasons or that she is firm on a deposit. The tone just feels like she's mad/in a bad mood. But maybe some guys feel she's direct and like it?
Well, my first thought is:
IGNORE and BLOCK.
I get the idea, but bad energy.
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Setting firm rules for engagement? Yeah. I assume she's an active, working pro. Which means there are desperate, horny men who have inquired, arranged sessions, and have even gone through with such sessions. So I would assume, yeah. It works.
Look. This is their world. We're just living in it. They make the rules. If you don't like the rules, or how they've phrased the rules, then you move along. This is and always has been a risky business for both parties involved. Is it necessary for her to phrase it like that? For her to come across as a raging cunt of epic proportions? No. But that's her choice. Therefore it's your choice whether or not to make arrangements with her.
Do it. Don't do it. As always: at your own risk.
Anytime I see this shit I’m a nope. But I appreciate her being upfront so saves me the time to text or email.
Perhaps she’s experiencing burnout, maybe struggling with anger management issues or simply lacking the appropriate business skills, but tbh, any of which would make me consider looking elsewhere.
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Not everyone is suited to running a small business, and not everyone excels at marketing themselves effectively. That said, there are far more professional and construtive ways to communicate those concerns without coming across as unprofessional as she did by your example.
I am always appreciative of the lovely women who allow us momentary enjoyment of their charms, and I recognize they're all human and subject to ill humor. However, if a lady is choosing to project a negative vibe, it's usually a turnoff for me. There was a thread recently about whether a lady's writing on this board is likely to reflect her IRL attitude. Whether it does or not, it may well influence perception of her and whether a player is willing to call. Writing ad copy is as much art as science, and if the lady in question chose this tone, it suggests to me that she has had enough bad experiences that they're negatively coloring her approach and may negatively affect our time together. Understandable, but unattractive. And with lots of of attractive ladies NOT projecting this vibe, it's an easy choice to go elsewhere.
I have been fortunate to have several very close RW friendships with amazing women who were providers. In those conversations, when it gets real, they will tell you about the negatives of the lifestyle from their perspective. These are relationships where we are long past the point of trying to impress each other, as a high level of trust and mutual admiration has been built, so a certain frankness can enter into the discussion.
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But through those experiences, smart businesswomen know not to project every pet peeve, every annoying thing a client does or says, publicly. Even when they are having a very trying day where someone really crossed a line with them, they still manage to be profesional on their social media, on their etiquette page on their website, etc, etcc. I hope it is clear I am not talking about any heinous acts done to them, because those need to be shouted from every rooftop, but more the everyday annoyances and hardships.
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That does not mean they do not make necessary changes to their policies. They do quite often, especially earlier in their p4p career. But they do it with grace, dignity, and a level of professionallism that is quite admirable, all while knowing there is a potential client considering them who is reading what they choose to put out in the public domain.
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Everyone has a bad day, and I am sure most women have a post or two, or a tweet or two, they would prefer to take back ifthey could every now and then. That is just human. But a woman who runs to her social media day in and day out to complain constantly about relatively innocuos client behavior is someone I can feel sorry for on one hand, bc God only knows what she has been through, but someone who will not be getting my hard earned money on the other.
On one hand, yes it’s a bit extreme. Not exactly good marketing. On the other hand, we do deal with a lot of games when dealing with clients just as you guys do sometimes with providers and I think some providers just get fed up and end up posting stuff like this. It’s unfortunate because it inadvertently punishes the potential new good clients. I used to never take deposits but in the past few years there has been a lot more last minute cancellations, more game playing and especially when you are a low volume provider or you travel and have to pay for an incall in advance or have expenses, that is a huge problem. My guess is she’s been burned a lot recently and is frustrated. Doesn’t make it ok and certainly not the way I would go about, it but that is what I see. I totally see why this would turn you off though.
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There is an unfortunate learning process in this industry. As a client, many of us go through one as well. When I first ventured, I had no idea about places like TER, what was TGTBT, and how not to get scammed. I have had providers look nothing like their pics, been scammed, no show me, and even had a dude jump out of a closet during a session so they could shake me down. Over time, I got wise and learned how to better navigate seeing providers.
And, whatever I went through as a client is a mere fraction of what I am sure most providers go through. I can only imagine some of the horror stories. I get the safety measures, assurances needed, and the frustration it may cause. I imagine her tone is exactly what you're saying, coming from frustration over a-hole clients. And, unfortunately for her, it will turn off some guys. While I understand and emphasize what she is going through, I do not want to get on that ride.
The best path forward is to factor in these challenges. You need to be able to take some licks along the way. Certain things, like deposits, are easier if you earn a good reputation. For example, you have a great track record of reviews over a fair amount of time. I would be comfortable giving you a deposit. But because I took my licks and learned some lessons the hard way, I don't feel comfortable giving a deposit to someone without a reputation I can somehow verify. So, before you have a reputation, you need to decide if you will put up walls to both block the problem clients and miss out on some good ones, or you will factor in the bumps and build your reputation to the point where you can more easily create safeguards.
Curious if she’s branding herself as a high end escort or if she’s simply getting burned out from this business. Is she reviewed here at TER?
Here you go.
From my standpoint, a few red flags just by a quick look.
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This is the ONLY time that I can remember agreeing with you. But thanks for asking for the ad so that we can go through this together!
Ok. One red flag is that the "ass" is not the same across the photos. Sometimes it's tatted. Sometimes it's muscular. Sometimes it looks soft. This could mean several things... The ages of the photos vary GREATLY, or they're AI.
So, my judgment is that this is a scam. But maybe she'll show up on this post and tell me off? Who knows? 🤷🏽♀️
But I do not think that any provider who planned to stay in the biz would be this off-putting on purpose. If she posted it when moody or under the influence, then she would remove it ASAP. But that's just MY .02.
-K
Is she posting as a Domina with a BDSM ad?
This may work. 🤔
Share a link, so we know whom you're referring too. Please and thank you!
… This is a pretty common way for ads to be written on STG, LC/MP, etc. It’s very common for men looking for less expensive providers to not read ads at all. I hear from providers who use those sites that it can take 100 inquiries to get one serious booking. So I think this tone develops in response. I would bet she just transplanted the text of her other ad onto Tryst.