Just you writing such a thoughtful thread makes you far from a dingbat...

On occasion I am picked up from the airport or the hotel or whatever so that we may start our date. I think it'd be quite hypocritical of me to make comments, or even think negatively of a lady's ride.

Shit, you ain't seen mine.  

Second, I understand the desire to want to be able to carry on a conversation with someone on their level. But the way I look at it is, they picked you for some reason. Maybe you're hotter than hell. Sweet as candy. Or really know how to show a guy a damn good time.

My point is, though you're there for them, they felt comfortable enough with you already to make a date with you just the way you are. Know what I mean?

You don't have to be the quintessential Miss America brainiac sex fiend to get a date.

Just be you. Nothing's sexier than a lady comfortable in her own skin. When you know you're sure of yourself and you project that unto others, they'll appreciate who you are and will make for a wonderful experience!

a client should not be cridical of your choice in vehicles.  There should be enough room for the client & his lugage.  
The only thing I'd say is the car should be reasonably clean, especially inside, to make a good impression.  
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A provider picking me up in her own car? That would be a royal treatment for me. All I would be expect is the car is reasonably clean and not reeking with cigarette odor.

Where are you honey? Are you in DC area by any chance? If yes, I want to see you.

The car won't matter to me. Clean and dependable is the only issue. There are two of you. A big fancy car is not necessary.

Yes, I like for the lady to be able to carry on an intelligent conversation.

"Anyway, do guys care about what kind of car they are picked up in or is it irrelevant?"  

I could not care less about your car you I drive a over 20 year old truck. Yes it is heavily costumed but it still is an old work truck. If you don't mind my ride trust me I wont mind yours. As long as it is clean I would be happy.

"Guys, do you expect a provider to be bright?"

Yes, I do. I expect any professional to be intelligent and educated in their profession. Providers are no exception. Now as far as current events go, that is not a deal breaker, but I do expect a certain level of mental competence. If not I move on.

"If she wasn't, would it turn you off?"

Yes. I don't require her to be well educated. I am looking for her to be able to smart enough to keep us both safe and carry a basic conversation. If not I will not be back.

"How important is it that she be able to carry on a conversation?"

Vital. I spend about half my session talking to the lady. She must be able to carry a conversation or else, I well get bored. If I get bored I will not re-book.

"Would you continue to see a girl, even if she was an airhead?"

Depends on what you mean by an airhead. If you mean unwise or unintelligent, no, I would not continue to see her. If you mean uneducated, or not up to date on current events, maybe depending on the rest of the package. The things I look for in provider in order of importance is integrity, professionalism, personality, skills, looks, basic intelligence, communication skills, and then education. If everything else is in order I would be fine if her knowledge base was bit limited in so areas.

just do your job.  sometimes the short answer is the best one.   Now I know a lot of others like a lot of conversation but after 26 years of marriage I am talked out.

I expect the girl to drive a Bugati and know how to derive 4vector tensors all from memory.

 

If a lady advertises as upscale... then the car shouldn't look like it's falling apart. That would be my only 'request' lol. No need to be a bugati, benz, lexus, bmw, etc...  I'm really not much of a car guy. I don't know much about cars either and don't care. As long as the car is SAFE, as in, has minimum safety requirements... and the lady is driving safely without talking on the cell phone or DUI, I would be fine.

As for 'intellectual' discussions: It would really turn me off if the discussion turned into some strong opinion about politics... or blurting out psychobabble with lingos. I'm MORE interested in knowing more about the girl herself not her vast knowledge in various topics that I'm not even interested in discussing.

But that's just me. I think, to generalize it, the most important point would be to keep the conversation "fun" rather than just talking about things for the heck of it in order to kill time.

Actually, there was one lady who really impressed me by showing her true intelligence in something else that I have zero knowledge or talent in.  One of my favorite ladies from a while ago, was able to recall every topic we discussed in reverse chronological order. How I found out was when a waitress interrupted our conversation and I forgot. I asked the provider, "Hmm, what were we talking about?". She responds "First we were talking about A, then B, then C, then D, and then we drifted to X, then went back to D, and now E... ". etc. ...   Heck I have trouble remembering what I was talking about the last 5 minutes, let alone the last 3 hours. This showed me that she 1) has a very exceptional memory and that 2) she was paying close attention to what I was saying to the point where she could intelligently summarize it in her own words.


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I would feel intimidated if you picked me up in a jaguar. I think it would be a priviledge just to get picked up by the lady. The car doesn't matter. But a simple car would be better for me. She doesn't need to impress me. In fact I just recently had a date where the provider did pick me up in her car. It was a 90 something Toyota camry  She was a down to earth girl next door type personalilty and the car fit. We had been together several times before so we know each other well. She obviously didn't have to impress me, and I felt totally comfortable. On a previous date where I picked her up, I actually borrowed a car, because I was embarrassed to pick her up in mine. Next time I won't feel bad picking her up in my work van

As for brains, yes I like smart ladies, with some education, who can communicate, but they don't need to be college graduates or have an extensive knowledge of current events. Hell I don't like to discuss politics, and I don't know shit about the stock market. But I do longer dates,and we spend a lot of time hanging out and talking, so we do need to have something we can talk about, so we don't get bored. Of course every guy is different in what they look for so my answers don't fit everyone, but they fit me

Beauty than brains

"The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think." Men responds to visuals while women to words is well recognised.

However, on cars, yes, men care, a lot. But a clean car would do gnerally for me.

I'd be less concerned with the year, make and model of a car than the quality and condition of it.  I'm neither turned on by beamers nor turned off by station wagons.  However I don't want to step on Mickey D's bags or sit on Doritos and M & M's when I get in.  I also don't want it to break down on our way to her place.  Clean and safe is all I ask for.

I'm a fairly smart guy but I like light hearted discussions with providers.  In fact I like light hearted discussions with people in general.  I do read the paper and follow politics but I'm not going to kick a lady out of bed if she doesn't know who Robert Mugabe is.  It may sound a bit crass but the primary reason I'm there is not for the conversation.  Conversation is like soup and salad whereas the session is the main course.

I guess the main thing is for the lady to be flexible.  Get a good read of what kind of guy you're seeing at the time and adjust the conversation accordingly.  Or better yet just ask general questions, let him talk and then take his lead.  With some guys the convo will be about hockey, with others it will be Lady Gaga and others the war in Iraq.  Just go with the flow and if a conversation comes up that you know little about just say you don't know much about it and ask him more about it.  But don't spend too much time asking him because, as I said, conversation ain't the number one reason we're there.

To answer your question, if she was an airhead who never shut up and said all sorts of dumb things it would turn me off.  If she was an airhead who didn't say much but otherwise provided an excellent session I'd never know one way or the other.  What's the old saying:  it's better to close your mouth and have people think you're an idiot than to open it and prove you're one.

OK where are all the superficial people??

Only one guy has said that the car matters.

I will admit that conversely, men's cars do matter to women.

If a guy picked me up in a 1995 Toyota Camry, I would wonder whats going on with his finances.  
I am very impressed when a client drives up in a nice, immaculate  Jag or Beemer to pick me up.

Not that it's any kind of deal breaker, but it is a plus.  A bigger plus is when she lets me take it for a spin.

My car is a big old American roadhog, so when I get my hands of the wheel of something sporty, I love it.

I have met at least three gals with the new Ford Mustang.  That seems to be very popular with them.

A long time ago one favorite told me she'd have a big surpirse for me when I came over.  She showed off her brand new Beamer.  She gave me a ride all over town, and it was one of the most fun times I ever had with a gal.

And yes, brains are very sexy.  A good mind fuck is always very much appreciated.

The car doesn't matter as long as the outside is in good shape, and the inside is clean... it doesn't have to be high-end but it does have to say you take car of it which in turn leads to the impression you take care of yourself well too...

As for the intelligence level, I really prefer an intelligent woman though I would almost never talk about politics anyway since it's such a divisive issue and I would not want to risk turning someone off with a comment that bothered them in some way.  So it's good to make the effort to be informed, just try and also think about things outside of the realm of news.

I just read this last night from a book (The 2548 best Things Anybody Ever Said) By Robert Byrne " Better that a girl has beauty than brains because boys see better than they think". Not that I subscribe to that. I just thought it was funny that I read that last night and then this questions is asked.