….because of my mint mobile phone number that has no real history…

i sent her all of the screening information requested and she made it clear NO GOOGLE numbers, must be a real cell.

So i sent it and got no response…mind you this lady responded instantly to all ofher emails, like literally while i was checking my othet messages!  

when i checked my nimber online, i got a few bootleg chinese websites but no web history…i also don’t have a linked in (what’s the provider obsession with this site? you can make a fake profile very easily!) which she said was optional PLUS i gave a her a reference!

Reminder that no one is entitled to a booking, and providers have the right to decline or refuse to see you for ANY reason. A lot of us do not tell suitors they’ve been denied bc some get verbally abusive, vindictive, or spam us with fake inquiries to waste our time. Personally I don’t see it as ghosting.. no response IS a response. As far as LinkedIn and your mint number, we are looking for certain criteria to make sure all your info you submitted is real and a has a timeline. We screen deeper than a google search (not going to reveal our tools or how) but chances are she didn’t find what she needed, or she did screen and you failed. This has also happened and I dont tell the client for safety reasons. If you had a reference maybe she doesn’t accept them. Just move on with your search and hopefully you can find what you’re looking for!

Idk why she's not responding. I do know there are lots of other providers who appreciate your business. It should not be difficult to book. If someone sent everything I require for vetting in one email with the deposit 💸 we have a date.

I agree with all of your other points. A provider absolutely has every right to refuse service. And if you find it easier/safer to just not respond, I get it. But to see it from the client’s perspective, it’s still ghosting. Most of us have had it happen to us. I have booked over 100 ladies. I have always paid. I always show. I always follow every rule. I rarely have screening issues or have a provider simply stop communicating. But it does happen.

 
So imagine from the client’s viewpoint. He does everything he was asked. He communicates well. He has a long history of being a good client. A provider does engage and starts the process and then she just stops cold turkey. No matter her reasons, he feels ghosted. And this feeling shouldn’t be minimized. He chose her out of all his other options. He was excited when she cut communication off. That feeling sucks.

 
But yes, she owes him nothing and has every right to do it. His only option is to move on. It happens.

I've already moved on but I guess I was irritated because of her reliance on LinkedIn and clearly she was probably doing some kind of deeper background check with my phone number that has no history other than texting a few providers.

Meanwhile, the provider I used as a reference said she was able to "verify me" with just a redacted ID, selfie, and my full real name....

This provider never even asked for a selfie.

This guy has been here on TER for a year and is still crying about being ghosted by providers. He offers his opinions about the business of being an escort yet he has no reviews or credible evidence of ever meeting a girl.

Here is a specific post I found with an almost identical title from 9 months ago. My man, you are clearly the problem not the ladies you are reaching out to.
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/ive-been-ghosted-1033127

I hear what you’re saying, but every provider has a different method. I’ve had suitors send an ID that was awfully fake yet were able to get “verified” and see a provider (and provider gave them a reference). Some ladies are not verifying anything which is why many don’t accept them or don’t care if you offer them. If the provider you tried to get a booking with had a set of criteria you couldn’t meet, it’s not her job to make exceptions. Sorry you felt ghosted but you have to remember it’s not personal, it’s business.

I do see it from a suitors POV and sympathize, but temporary hurt feelings isnt above our safety. Not even by a long shot, so I’ll continue to defend “no response is a response”. Any other scenario I would call ghosting unprofessional, but it’s justified if our safety could be at risk. Let’s also not forget, we as providers put ourselves out there and deal with suitors ghosting sometimes too.. everyone should learn to charge it to the game lol

That's just part of the landscape -- different providers, or agencies, have different screening processes and levels as well as different views on communications. I think, as mentioned, most view sending some denial message is just opening up a potential headache. No one likes rejection, and I suspect many here who are paying think that willingness is suppose to make it a sure thing.

 
I tend not to even try to explain a lack of contact to myself. Just chalk it up to "shit happens" and it's a pretty low cost to me so I just move on to whoever else seems interesting to me.

 
Just as an aside, but it's all semantics so not a big deal, I'm more in the camp that cutting communications during the screening process isn't really ghosting and think elevating it to that term is something of problem inflation (mountains out of molehills type thing).

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And this is justifiable by safety?  

If a client tells the provider "your hurt feelings isn't above our safety" what your reaction will be?  

So then wouldn't this mean literally anything a provider does to a client can be justified with "safety"?

 
Overal I feel like "hurt feelings aren't above" is a good concept, it should always apply to reviews where the providers catch a lot of hurt feelings.  

 
Id say in case of scheduling, it's more of an annoying thing where you just don't know what to do and how to plan. Feel like a simple message that would indicate a providers decline to see the guy and then a ghosting would be more appropriate.  

Because otherwise what is client to do? If I know provider a isn't gonna see me I'll go and trey to see provider b.  

 
I believe providers call guys like this "time wasters".

If a provider doesn’t want to see you there is nothing you can do. It doesn’t matter what her reasons are either. Providers have a right to decline business from anyone for any reason. Brielle has explained this well enough. Unfortunately there are a lot of crazy clients out there and it is usually better to just ignore them and ghost them. Crazy people are easily provoked.
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By the way, you do something similar all the time on this board. Providers will explain something on this board and you will question everything and argue with them endlessly. You’re not a threat to their safety. However they’re usually better off ignoring you because they don’t want to waste time arguing with someone who refuses to accept an answer they don’t like. So it’s not just safety (even though it is a completely valid reason). They also don’t want to waste their time on pointless arguments with annoying people.

We are talking about ghosting -  a sudden unforeseen abrupt break in all communication where you don't know if the provider will respond back or not so you're in a limbo.  

I didn't say she needs to provide a reason. Just make it clear she won't communicate with  you again instead of uncertainty. A negative response is still a response. No response is uncertainty.  

He will start scheduling with someone else and now she suddenly responds back. Awkward.  

 
Also, I'm not the one who pulled the tongue of the person who I've replied to.

She herself claimed that in ALL other instances ghosting would be a show of unprofessionalism.

So my question was, if clients do that under guise of safety, will she consider them unprofessional or not?

It's a very simple question. In this case I see safety as a blanket shield of excuse that a seller can use to defend any of her action while simultaneously not allow anyone else to use this excuse.  

 
Or in other words, double standards and separate set of rules.

 
I don't get your example at all. They don't have to reply to me. They can just tell me they won't reply to me.

 
It's very very simple. In a two way business both sellers and buyers need to be subjected to the same set of rules. If a seller can use safety as excuse to ghost someone, so should a client. Why is this so difficult to process?  

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You’re being a bit dramatic and playing the “what if” olympics. I usually don’t entertain that, but I’ll humor you. Theres a difference between a suitor contacting us then ghosting us bc he didn’t bother to read our page which listed hours/location/rates/screening and decided not to comply, than a provider ghosting the suitor bc she found out he was lying about his age and profession OR was convicted of ch*ld m*lestation during screening (and yes those are real examples I’ve dealt with). One is ghosting as a time waster yet the other is ghosting for safety purposes. So yes.. justified. Providers find the 1st guy annoying but we move on. Clients need to learn to do the same.

Now that we’ve established the difference - if you as a suitor realize the provider you contacted is a scammer, blackmailer, reviews of a lingering p*mp.. you also have the right to ghost during booking to protect yourself. Hope that clears things up.

This has already been explained to you. No response is not uncertainty. No response means the provider won’t see you. Negative responses are likely to get a bad reaction. Providers have decided, based on their experience, that it is better to ignore/ghost certain clients because engaging with them will just make things worse for them. Ironically you’re engaging in the exact pattern of behavior I described in my last post. You got a clear answer. However you don’t like it, so you continue to argue about it.

It could mean anything. It could be that messages are not getting through. Or something else.

 
One time I was texting a po and they wouldnt reply back. I had to text five times and then call and then turned out the po fell asleep.

So, no. No response is no response, not necessarily that she won't see them. We have to put our own internal timeout value at which we consider that she wont see us.

 
Much more convenient to get their negative response back.

 
Another example. Sent a screening request to po. No response back at all. They have no rules as to how contact them. So I wait a good amount then text again. No response. Then I send my refs along. They reply right away and I was able to get verified.

According to you both of my examples would mean they wouldn't see me. But that wasn't the case.

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But thank you for the answer. That is fair enough.

 
To get where I come from, I see red cloth when someone conjures up a policy that applies to everyone besides themselves because of some weird reason. So to me it read because of safety reasons you can do something that no one else can without being considered unprofessional.

Once you are willing to put qualifiers on it, we're good.

Cheers!
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Lol this brokeloser is a joke. In a different thread he was trying to psychoanalyze providers mindsets in the business even though he hasn't met one before. That thread is now deleted though so too bad you can't see his lunacy. If he is reaching out to providers I bet he is saying weird stuff and that's why he is being ghosted.

Given the history unearthed by InspectorP and others, maybe your failure is really self-sabotage. An honest reckoning with yourself might reveal--again, as others have suggested--that the fault lies not in your stars but in yourself. You may even find that your self-sabotage is a symptom of the fact that you really ought to be doing something else, and that some part of your brain is signaling you really don't want to be here.  

At the very least, recognize that all this whining is a bad look and will only impede any chance of getting laid.