if someone is whitelisted TER, what kind of effort do you put in to make yourself comfortable that theyre not uncle leo, smelly, flaky, or anything else you may wish to avoid? e.g. how much does it take to really screen when there is a community like this? especially if the screenee is respectful of your particular approach?
I am sure every lady has certain gentlemen who always call at the last minute.
I am not going to say last minute engagements are impossible, but the simple fact that they are "last minute" makes them difficult to say the least.
So yesterday I get a call from a gentleman who for a little over 3 years has been trying to see me. He almost always calls hoping to met in the next hour or so. However, my schedule has never allowed this to happen. Often I tell him "Call with more notice, and I should be able to see you." Yet, he never has.
Finally, yesterday I asked him if he knows such short notice never works with me, why does he continue to do it. I was surprised by his answer. He said "Because baby, it's exciting and makes it better. I get horny and suddenly I am with a beautiful lady doing everything she can to please me. It's just exciting to be spontaneous." I laughed, and told him to try another time. Gotta love this job.
So, I am wondering - is he alone in his feelings or is this something other guys feel or experience in reference to last minute appointments?
Kisses,
Vanica
Expecting to see someone on only a couple of hours notice is a stretch. I usually try to set things up a day or two in advance. The anticipation is kind of exciting, too. The shortest notice I've ever tried for is about 8 hours. This guy must be very used to "holding his own."
I do not post much and up to now I have only posted on the regional Los Angeles board ,however I found the OP so redicolous and out of order that I had to respond.
Well said Gambler, such patronizing OP. It's foolish to consider ones practices as the norm or the standard for doing things.Such a cookie cutter approach ignores our individuality . I do make appointments in advance however, especially when I am traveling, my circumstances and plans do change and I end up with with free time that I did not anticipate so I make calls to see who is available. I also have urges I need to address before the next appointment.
Anyone who knows anything about the K-girl/AAMP scence (which, IMHO, provides the best value for money in looks/ service , personal hygiene, clean locations and safety) knows that bookers take someday appointments sometime only hour in advance if the girl is available. I don't hear of any complaints from that quarter other than those who wish to part-take but cannot infiltrate the screening.
Folks get off your high horses and out of your ivory towers , look around and you'll learn there is a bigger world beyond yours and this industry is both diverse and flexible to accommodate the needs of its customers. it is an example
of free market forces in play and no one group can corner the industry or make the rest conform to their way of doing
things.
I always make an appt in advance... so that I can enjoy it with someone worth seeing. I'd never actually expect a girl to have any time with just 1 hour notice.
Possible yes, but rarely did I ever got to squeeze in an appt with such short notice.
much less be able to schedule an appointment with an escort days or weeks in advance. About the longest I can ever schedule in advance is maybe "lets get together tomorrow" lol
Some women can accomodate this and some can't. What bothers me is all the "holier than thou" crap that both providers and hobbyist post, implying that anyone that books last minute should "book a streetwalker" to that poster I would like to respond with a hearty "go fuck yourself" or more accuratley "get over yourself"
I hobby more than anyone I know, I've seen at least seven different women in the last week, and never booked more than a few hours with any of them, Some of you people really need to get over yourselves. There is no right or wrong way to do this, we are only talking about getting laid. I get laid virtually every day, planning it days or weeks in advance is not in the cards for me.
this dude's idea of spontaneous excitement is to call over and over for THREE FUCKING YEARS!! Damn right he should go find a streetwalker. So get your head out of your own holy ass.
I like being spontaneous, too. I wish I could make last minute appts. but I usually settle for either same day or next day. If she can do that I'll take it rather that speed dial her until 2014. Sorry, the IS a wrong way to do this.
but to unisversally condemn all mongers that book on the spur of the moment seems to be a favorite thing for many posters on this board.
There seems to be a "hobbyist elite" mentality on this board, where any guy who values his money, or doesn't want to jump through every unreasoable hoop some of these women seem to demand is looked down upon by these "hobbyist elites"
Any guy who shows the least bit of stones and remind the community that this is a board was created for guys to share information as to not get arrested or ripped off, and not just an ad venue for the ladies, seems to get labeled as a cheapskate, a misognynist, or worse.
So yes, why don't you and the other "hobbyist elite" get your heads out of "holy" asses, and grow a fucking pair?
BTW most people here would consider same day or next day appointments "last minute" so join the club. I can't count the number of posts made by women, and endorsed by the mangina contingent here, that start off, "I can't believe how many guys think they can get a same day appointment" I do same day appointments all the time, and apparently, so do you.
I can't think of another business where the sellers feel that the customers have to jump through their hoops instead of the other way around. Weak men who enable this behavior is the only thing that explains it to me.
to condemn anyone, not even streetwalkers. I could have written "If the aforementioned caller wants to be spontaneous...", but I didn't feel like being PC.
but my point stands to the "he cunt, hobbyist elite" contingent out there.
Months of preparation are not necessary to having a great liason, I think many if not most of the guys who put weeks of preparation into scheduling a session are just broke dicks who can't afford to hobby more than once a month so they convince themselves, and try to convince the rest of us that they do this by choice, and not by the necessity of having an empty wallet.
OK, maybe if you know you're coming to NY or Vegas and want to be sure you get some dream girl. Personally, I'd rather set things up for the following day. Two days in advance, max. But I have lots of time flexibility and no commitments. Everybody needs to do it their own way, I guess, and not be overly judgemental about it
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No, there isn't any other business where the customers need to go through so many "hoops." There also aren't many other businesses where the sellers face safety AND legal issues like providers do.
In the USA alone, not to mention the rest of the world, providing is a business where the sellers can get KILLED if the customers DON'T go through some of those hoops. Not just beaten up, not just robbed, but outright murdered just because they're providers. And that's if they don't get arrested first.
You already KNOW this. Just because your chicas and other ladies know you enough to accommodate you at the last minute doesn't mean the rest of the world knows the rest of the hobbyists!
So don't even go there about some ladies "making" the customers go through hoops. If the men don't like the hoops, then they can see a lady who doesn't use them.
Other than that, I agree with you about the snobbery on this board, by both hobbyists and providers alike. I used to allow for "last minute" or same day appointments all the time. I wasn't a back-to-back provider, but I would see three or four in a day if I had the appointments. I got verbally reamed for that a lot. Frankly, I don't care what others think about that aspect of providing
But, I will take you on about the safety AND legal issues if you so much as whisper again that they aren't necessary or important to us.
You mistake my point, my issue is not screening. I don't object to screening and have no issues with a woman wanting to stay safe.
Where I do have an issue is when a woman insists that her screening form be filled out "in it's entirety" before she will even bestow the humble hobbyist a return email, much less a phone call.
To those cunts I would like wish a hearty FUCK YOU!!!, now to the rest of the women out there who only wish to protect life and limb while incurring as little intrusion on the hobbyist life while at the same time gathering enough info to feel safe, my opinion is 180 degrees different.
Regardless of what anyone claims, this is still a business and businesses rarely suceed by "demanding" things from their prospective customers, not in businesses where customers have a wide range of service providers at least.
and yes I do generally book with providers that can accomodate my needs, the same as in any other business. I don't mind a little checking into whether or not I am going to kill or arrest the lady I am interested in seeing, as long as she is polite and reasonable about it. The moment I get the impression that she considers her time more valuable than mine, I am out of there. I will drop all communications in an instant at the first sign of "cuntyness", but as long as the screening is done with respect, I am probably more willing than the average guy where it comes to revealing personal information, keep in mind I have no worries about being "outted" so unless she is asking for financial information that could be used to defraud me, I have very little problem revealing my real name, address, etc.
and what's wrong with seeing three or four guys in a day? I sometimes see three or four women in a single day, and I am not even an "unrepetant whore", or maybe I am, come to think of it?
Not only must a complete form be filled out, but some here demand that every escort who is given as a reference first be contacted and told to expect a call from the princess who may be stooping to accept your money.
So, let's get this straight.....before I can ask whether our schedules will coincide, whether she's even in town during the time I'm considering or off on tour or on vacation for the week, or whether any of a number of other variables will make a session possible, I'm supposed to:
1. Call or email every reference I give--even if they've already told me I can use them anytime--and tell them to be ready for a call from the princess.
2. Wait for them to call or email me back and confirm that the princess' call will not be met with the slightest suspicion, even though my refs know they can call me anytime they have doubts.
3. Only then may I submit them as references.
Yeah, right. I'm going to make escorts who have already seen me, treated me well and been kind enough to offer to vouch for me take time out to go though all that superfluous back-and-forth nonsense for a date that may never happen just so that some diva doesn't have to be bothered to answer a civil inquiry from a prospective client? Not bloody likely.
You are exactly right, one has to wonder what these people do for living. As you, I don't have control over my schedule from morning to evening much less days in advance.
All of mine are spur of the moment and has worked thus far. When a provider appears to be hard to get, I don't even try.
You must fill out the form at least 3 days ahead of time –– No thank you.
The trick is to know more than 1 or 2 providers, 5 to 6 is usually a good number and it ain't that hard to have 5 to 6 equal in every aspect: Looks, Performance, Boobs, ass, etc.
and since i am a two hour drive away from the action, planning is a must. your client may be popping his V or cialis before getting the shut down from SO, and he does not want to waste a boner....LOL
with a tip of the hat to Bev for that one.
I do this fairly often, due to the unpredictability of my schedule.
Understand, I have already pre-screened with the girl.
The appointment booking made from a cellphone in my car, with the understanding that her availability will determine the actual time of the appointment in 10 minutes, or an hour or two...or not at all.
I used to do last minute appointments fairly regularly, in the first few months of entering the hobby. I couldn't stand the waiting, and I also liked variety, so if my first choice was busy I would have several more options. But usually my first choice was available.
In addition, I savored the moment when I would decide that that evening I would see a provider. It was typically like impulse buying, spurred by seeing a hot 'civilian' and deciding I would have to have someone equally hot in the next several hours.
I also hadn't yet resigned myself to spending a certain portion of my budget on the hobby, so it always had to be an impulsive, emotional decision. Hence last minute.
Everyday of my life is different from the next. Yes, I have a personal life, family obligations, etc. so I DO appreciate booking in advance which is also common. But if a gent calls and I am available and already ready for my day, yes this is possible for me.
I know some women have their policies, but I can be very spontaneous and would love to accommodate a gent, as long as he is respectful and I can verify him in adequate time, and not busy with my own life. And this doesn't mean that I am on another date meeting a gent for this same purpose, I may be in the middle of cooking or eating dinner, watching a movie, or running errands, etc.
Lol, one memorable moment of mine is a gent called while I was in the middle of curling my hair, which took me an extra 45 minutes and I was in fact late, but I let him know the entire time, and I apologized when I got there. I told him the truth, sweetie it took me forever to curl my hair. He said, well I wouldn't have minded if you left it down straight ( my hair is incredibly long) I told him, I had already started curling it so I couldn't just stop! I strive to look my best every day no matter what I'm doing.
Most days, I stay ready for anything, and it is no problem for me to take a last minute session. If I am not ready or busy with any other obligations, I will politely say so, and more often than not a gent will patiently ( or anxiously =) ) wait for me, otherwise if he is pressed for time he may just move on to another gal.
To answer your question, Vanica, I think many men act on impulse, just the same as many men schedule in advance.
i plan in advance. i need to schedule and then defend that schedule from other pressures. i will only cancel or reschedule an apointment due to illness or genuine emergency.
fortunately the ladies i currently see are similarly responsible and have good business ethics. so i don't have to worry about someone else's last minute itch and/or bid over and above rate disrupting my plans. it was not always so. i used to be very accomodating, but it seemed to encourage being taken for granted. it's much less stressful to not have to worry about getting bumped.
so bottom line: it's not just a problem with client behavior. some ladies will use a kinder gentleman's appointment as a foil to accomodate a last minute request at a much higher rate.
i think the earliest i have ever tried to book someone is for a next day appointment, i usually do last minute appointments with a few hours notice and have had excellent luck. on the times when i use to try to book a few days in advanced, things came up, either for me or the girl, and we would do last minute cancellations. like Gambler said, some guys can only do last minute appointments as that is all they can do.
I am not going to say last minute engagements are impossible, but the simple fact that they are "last minute" makes them difficult to say the least.
So yesterday I get a call from a gentleman who for a little over 3 years has been trying to see me. He almost always calls hoping to met in the next hour or so. However, my schedule has never allowed this to happen. Often I tell him "Call with more notice, and I should be able to see you." Yet, he never has.
Finally, yesterday I asked him if he knows such short notice never works with me, why does he continue to do it. I was surprised by his answer. He said "Because baby, it's exciting and makes it better. I get horny and suddenly I am with a beautiful lady doing everything she can to please me. It's just exciting to be spontaneous." I laughed, and told him to try another time. Gotta love this job.
So, I am wondering - is he alone in his feelings or is this something other guys feel or experience in reference to last minute appointments?
Kisses,
Vanica
For those providers who insist on advance notice, would you prefer a couple of minutes of of your life from time to time from guys who ask about last minute availability? Or would you prefer we book in advance knowing full well we might have to be on an airplane by the time our "advanced booking" comes to pass, and be forced to cancel on you?
I don't like to cancel appointments of any kind, and I abhor NCNS, so what do you suggest for guys like us who may need to be anywhere in the world on a moments notice?
Looking back at the eight times I can recall making apppointments more than a day in advance (I'm new enough at this that I remember all of them), only one or two worked out as planned. In all cases, it was the provider who required lead time--either for being on tour, or being a local low-volume type--and each time she was the one who cancelled/re-scheduled/NCNS'd on me. And wouldn't you know, one who did keep her appt. wound up being alarmingly horse-faced.
My success rate with same day appts. has been close to 100%. It's as though the more advance notice I give them, the better chance they have to screw it up.
So, say all you want about the advantages of long-range planning, there's no guarantee that it won't waste either party's time. Like Jerry Seinfeld told the clerk at the car rental, anybody can take a reservation....
The OP must have something that keeps him trying.
The client has a routine He likes, that works for him and does not seem ready to break it for someone else’s rules.
I wonder how many times he would have repeated over the 3 years, putting that much more $$$ in the OP purse.
I have not made an appointment further than 1 day out as I never know what tomorrow will bring. Most of my meetings are call in the morning and take the next slot available. Slot not slut.
The client has a list that he goes down till he scores. The OP must be very busy or she seems to not like the last minute pressure.
I have got to look as last minute bookings as a bonus income not a "difficult at least" situation.
If someone is touring and/or working in a house, no notice may work great - after all, the lady is either working or sitting there ready for work. Many "appointment only" ladies have other things they are juggling around their work. So if I'm out with my personal trainer, doing yard work, getting groceries, having coffee with my mother, in the middle of writing a 5-page paper characterizing the work of Wilhelm Reich, or doing any "other" activity... it is impossible to be ready to meet someone in an hours notice. (Typically I give myself 1 1/2 hours to prepare for guests, so even two hours is quite a stretch.) And that's assuming that my dance card was not already booked that day by another friend. (Some of us structure our lives and business so that we do not work all day.) Now imagine how much more complicated that is for ladies who have to find a babysitter?
For some, yes, the short notice bookings are great "bonus income."
For others, the short notice requests are near impossible. Though as I tell my returning friends - "feel free to ask, and don't take it personally when I say no."
At the beginning I asked for 24hr notice for appointments for new friends.Now,I have adjusted that requirement if I can verify a gentleman in a short period of time then I will accept a same day appointment.I just ask the gentleman to email to inquire on availability for that day.If a gentleman is planning a trip to Vegas but has sent his info ahead of time he is verified so if he has to reschedule to a different time at least he is already verified.I think some gents do not know their schedule way in advance so when they do have some free time they want to see who is available.The only requests I cannot take are the ones are you available in an hour but have not provided any info.I have found that most of the requests like this are from gents that do not have references.Now,if the gents have a board presence,reviews,whitelisting from reputable providers and wants to see me in a few hours I can accept his request as long as I am free at the timeframe he is requesting.
there are gazillions of providers and mongers. i'm on here a lot, but there seems to be a rotation of about 50 people. how does "board presence" help me get verified quickly?
perhaps someone who reads much but posts little likes what you have to say... it resonates somehow. for one reason or another 
you seem to be a client they'd like to have.
you also don't have to be a "big time" reviewer or poster. some of those clients are a bit of a turn off to the ladies.
as in "real life" just being yourself works best. it makes it easier to see those who would want to see you.
have seen quite a few well reviewed ladies, TER reviewed, who say they don't really follow the boards. most recently, i'm trying to get screened by a well known lady, with an assistant, who can't seem to get it together. to bring it back to the OP, with the amount of screening i see, and the random schedules of the ladies that i've seen, how does anyone SAFELY go on short notice?
doesn't exist. scheduling is safer for her and for you. some folks (clients and providers) have a higher tolerance for risk and so schedule quickly for a first time visit.
i think it is _safer_ to be spontaneous with someone you have already seen. but there are no guarantees....
I've had a far far greater rate of cancellations, reschedulings, and NCNS from escorts who required advance bookings than with same day appointments. No guarantees indeed.
i've had 1 cancellation, 0 reschedulings, 0 NCNS from ladies who book in advance.
i've had 3 cancellations, 2 reschedulings, 0 NCNS from ladies who are more spontaneous. 4 of these 5 events were driven by another gentleman offering more money for the time slot. i don't do bidding wars.
perhaps the difference is that i screen to get an idea of business ethics not just menu and attractiveness.. i absolutely do not tolerate NCNS.
than impeccable ethics, although I steer clear of outright unscrupulous reps. Thing is, some of the escorts who've flaked on me were among the most reputable I've contacted, the NCNS babe included. However, my options are somewhat limited by the fact that I'm living in a pretty sparsely populated area on the edge of the Appalachians.
And hey, Gambler, you could well find reason to give me a GFY again sometime, so don't use em up. lol
common sense would dictate that there is less to go wrong when scheduling a few hours in advance or even sooner. My experiences seem to mirror yours. while I have had NCNS and cancellations even when scheduling on short notice, those instances have been rather rare, and I am willing to bet that my "sample size" is larger than most, I have probably had somewhere in the neighborhood of two thousand "sessions" lol
OTOH when scheduling far in advance the chances of something going wrong increase dramatically.
I am not knocking those who like to schedule in advance, hey even timeshare works for some people, just not for me.
and FWIW I have no desire to spend more time screening, researching, reading reviews etc than I do actually having sex. Some guys get off on the "hunt", I enjoy actually spending time with these women, not researching them. but that's just my opinion, I could be wrong. lol
i get that you travel a lot and it seems easy to find accessible quality in a place like Rio, Hong Kong, or Prague. being new, and sitting still in LA, anyone other than gals that i "know" that would take the appt that fast, seems a little sketch. here, even if they know you, you might not hear back from them for days. and if they don't know you, the firewall can seem pretty hard to get through. hence, the reason i brought up screening, and the earlier comment about "board presence".
Which translates into 50-100 new providers every year, I have little if any problems getting screened by most providers in a very short length of time.
I will confess to never seeing any of the provdiders that insist on their clients fill out one of those ridiculous online forms before even speaking to or responding to a potential clients emails. There are thousands of women in this business trying to make a living in a tough economy, I have plenty of money, don't disrespect the women I see, and have no problems supplying the information that 99% of the providers out there need in order to feel comfortable.
I would say that I don't run into any screening problems 99 times out of a hundred, but I purposely avoid women that give off the aura of "being a bitch", the moment they get demanding, I am done. but I don't consider things like my "real name" phone, etc to be "demanding" as long as it's done in a polite and respectful tone. These cunts that insist on an online form be filled out before even gracing me with a return email immediately go in the "must miss" pile, most women who make an honest effort can do all the screening they need to do in less than an hour if they choose to.
I have no idea if my "board presence" has anything to do with it, but I don't find myself having any of the screening problems many of you guys seem to experience.
it doesn't take me very long to know who i want to see. maybe i ask to be screened too many days in advance. but even some of the ladies that i've seen more than once don't appear to be too readily available -- some will respond a couple of days after a request, saying that they are working the following week. do you put out several requests at once and take the first that comes back?
I'm extremely picky as to whom I want to see. I've made dates weeks in advance, and some the day before. The thing is, the ones the day before weren't a shot in the dark.
I knew this one lady's reputation and I called her up. Told her 'Hey. This is MP.' She said, 'I know who you are.' We chatted a little and made a date for the next day. She didn't ask for references, and I didn't give her any. But I was told after the fact she called some other 'high profile' ladies I've seen and asked if I was cool.
Not a problem, and actually a smart thing to do.
Now, by no means do I have the experience and bottomless pockets that Gambler has. We both abuse alcohol and love the ladies, or at least the idea of being with the ladies, we can agree on that.
Gambler's more realistic, whereas I'm a romantic. I know what's going on. I just choose to look at it in a different light. I've always embraced the fantasy of things and situations.
Yeah....I'm gonna STFU now. Got shit to do and I know you don't want to hear my ramblings... lol!
I have used my hadle alone to pass screening on many an ocassion, but keep in mind some of us have been here for years and have thousands of posts to our credit, anyone who reads the boards regularly knoww waay more about me than they probably ever wanted to. lol
One surprising fact though, as big an asshole as I can be here, I have never been refused an appointment because of my board personna, well not that I know of at least. lol
I fully expect that I am on several DNS lists due to my big mouth here, but I don't lose much sleep over it.
I hope some young innocent never made a date with some scumbag using one of our names just because of our board presence.....?
I mean, it would suck ass if Suzy-rottencrotch who just posted her pix on BP yesterday decided to post an ad on TER in the Bumfuck, Texas board. THEN, some asswipe from the backwoods of GA said, 'Oh hell yeah! I'm GaGambler! I'ma mod and as long as you fuck the taste outta ma mouth I'll do ya up real good on the boards!
I'd like to think the seasoned veterans, guy and girl alike, could see beyond this scenario.
and most of my inquiries are done via phone, not email. Most reviewed providers have phone numbers listed, if not I may on ocassion make contact via email first, but as I said before I don't wait long before trying someone else.
One thing about seeing at least a couple of different provdiders a week is that if a provider doesn't get back to me for a couple of days, it's no big deal. I may have already seen someone else, but I do get horny virtually every day, and I might book with her when she calls me in a day or two. If not, no big loss in time or energy for either of us.
IMO, some people put waaaay too much time and thought into the simple act of booking an hour or two of a ladies time to get laid. We aren't planning out a life together, we are simply having NSA sex, it's not a matter of life and death.
oh to answer your question, if a lady responds to let me know she won't have availability for several days, I thank her for her time and if I am really interested I ask her if she would mind if I contact her when she expects to have availability. I don't make appointments that I am not relatively certain I can keep. I expect people to respect my time and I owe them the same courtesy.
What I meant is someone who participates regularly in the forums here.Participating on a board alone will not verify a gentleman that is why I said his board presence along with his reviews,whitelisting,and references from reputable providers all of those things together help with being verified hope that clears it up for you.
Board presence, or as I like to call it - Bored presence = when you've wasted enough of your own time posting jibberish on this board to make the top 10 list, you suddenly become more important to the other 9 people on that list who think that what you say on here makes a difference in the real world.
Seems to me we have come to the conclusion that everybody has to do what works for them. Some ladies are available for short notice appointments, some are not. Some Gents can and do schedule ahead of time, some can't and don't. Surely as large as this community is there is someone for everyone. Usually people do things the way they do because it's what pleases them. Yes, there are constraints that may force them to choose their method but the issue comes when someone else thinks, "that's no way to do it!" Yes, we may change when given an option we hadn't considered but why blow a gasket if someone doesn't do what we think they should.
When you ask why does someone do something there will always be at least as many answers as there are people involved.
one of the reasons i need to schedule is that i am a busy guy but also a bit older, not as healthy as when younger. keeping a schedule is a means of staying healthy. i control my stress level to the best of my ability. occasionally i make compromises.
it seems that those who do not schedule fall into two camps: the guys who are constantly jumping though "interrupt driven" hoops and those who suddenly feel "in the mood" for play.
certainly there is no harm in the latter. i've done it with special favorites.... scheduling with just a couple hours notice if things lined up OK.
for the "interrupt driven" guys, you're welcome to it. i hope you stay fit and healthy enough to live that way as long as you like. may the wake up call in the form of a cardio event or stroke never come or be small enough that it is easily recoverable.
I get spontaneously horny sometimes and have an extreme desire to have something at that moment, the urge that goes away even in the next couple hours. But business is business and I realize that notice in advance is essential .
if he really wanted to see you he would have made plans in advance. Good thing you didnt follow through becuase he probably would have canceled. On the other hand, its better than having made plans in advance then having the other person cancel you on the last minute.
Tell him to go to BP. I go there all the time for last minute requests. Really good for a Sunday afternoon with 1/2 to 1 hour notice.
It cuts down on the drama and time dragouts with references.
...although I gather you mean it in the sense of suspense/waiting, not bait & switchers and wild goose chases, etcl. Actually, when I first read about the M.O. of the guy in the OP, the very first thing I thought about was this thread from the Newbie board a few weeks back about dealing with BP fast track types.
We have a lot of problems with in the DC area. Many providers are jealous of each other taking others business. Some providers will give out 10 reference request for every reference they are asked for. Other providers are ex-lovers and things get nasty when you ask for references not knowing they had a relationship that ended bad. It causes a delay in trying a new provider.
get aired in sham BP posts posing as ripped off customers. The few here (W. Carolinas) who exchange references tend to be better mannered than that, with some exceptions.