I see a provider who quit her job with a Fortune 100 company making $80K per year with full benefits in order to escort full time. Her husband lives in Mexico and doesn't work and she supports him and two of her four kids that are with him. Now she is struggling to survive, is sick all the time, on medicaid and is constantly taking meds of one sort or the other, all while continuing to provide full time. I am truly struggling to understand why she quit a fantastic job with all of those benefits for this. (I verified that she did have the job and she was not in imminent danger of losing it).
Sounds to me like you are getting WAY too involved in her life. This is a hobby, disengage is my advice. Checking on her previous employment just sounds creepy.
Why is it any of your business?
I suspect.. she is a bit self destructive and is in a bit of a dysfunctional relationship.. if what I suspect is true then that explains it all..
But then again, with 4 kids.. maybe she just felt as if she needed more time to be a mom and this allows her to do that... Mom guilt is a powerful thing that will make a mom do all kinds of crazy things..
Either way... Mind your business and life and let her manage hers if she ask you for help then give your opinion..
at the F100 job, is making more doing this than she lets on and you fall for it and is a nymph who enjoys doing a variety of guys so decided to make it her job.
Never know Joe !
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that afflict providers that I have known. Most have more or less normal lives, but I've gotten to know quite a few well, and believe me, there are some who would trade their problems for hers in a heartbeat.
But as their clients, it's really not anything we ought to deal with and believe me I've found that out the hard way.
several things in your post which have red flag all over the playing field. First, why are you concerned? What are the "off the clock" to "total time spent with said provider ratio, the "shots per unit pay" ratio and the "meetings with this provider" to "meetings with all providers" ratios? If the answer to the ratio questions are all "1," then you difinately need to see more providers. Period.
In short you are obsessing....
Now, if she has asked for your assistance, and for some fantasy related reason for you to provide assistance, then proceed with a high level of caution. This does not bode well. All providers I've had OTC relations with, just liked me, and none had stories like this! NONE!
As to the provider - YOU my friend are not getting the full and complete and honest story.... there is something "amiss" Recently a stripper friend of mine asked for my assistance in networking to help her new roommate get a job. The young lady sent me her resume, and I thought it looked pretty good, so I passed it to several of my business friends for their opinion - One friend found subtle inconsistencies that on a casual glance you would not notice. When I questioned her about the inconsistencies, she had an answer - so I thought ok! She then offered to buy me dinner for my help - so I agreed. We had a fairly detailed conversation, and she sort of revealed that she was fired from one job - why? An affair with her married boss, and I guess things ended badly.
Then one day - outta da blue! she threw a fit! Attacked a Rotweiller, the rotweiller's owner, threw beer cans at all the lights, started physical fits with her boyfriend, her roommate, and when they called the cops, as she left she slashed the tires of bikes outside the house..... needless to say, my stripper friend is looking for a new roomie..
Moral of the story? when there are inconsistencies in the story (sorry, but in this case, all the numbers fail to add up) there is usually something dark and sinister lurking in the shadows!
She was sick of ducking her boss for free and knew she could suck and fuck like a rock star and decided to be a provider. What wrong with that. I think it's a great choice.
All these stories —and reactions of various posters to them and to those who tell them— are fascinating stuff, all of which may ultimately be beyond our understanding. The only takeaway may be a reminder that we are all flawed, each in his or her own way —some more or less interesting, more or less destructive to self and others. An understanding and acceptance of these basic facts can't be a bad or useless thing.
Why you think we should care about this...and why you do.
In other parts of the country, that ain't anything to write home about.
I could see quitting the Fortune 100 company where she was making $80K a year to do this, if, and ONLY if, she was more successful and making more money as an escort. Or at the very least, making around the same money, but having a LOT more FUN!!!
Dude...you have been talking about this chick for months!!! You need help. Go see a shrink. She has you by the balls. You will be falling for the West African spam mail scams in a few years.
You have hit obsession at this point. Walk away...find another hooker. This hobby helps you with sex issues, but can never assist with your personality disorders.
We are now going back to September...How many times a week do you see her, and how much money have you "loaned" her?
He's had other threads yanked on this topic...
He's been crying over Senorita Ticklenutz for months...pathetic.
This isn't anyone's business but hers. If she wanted the advice of people on the board she would have posted it herself I'm not going to spectuate on someone's personal life when they didn't make their busines my business.
