Not only is your grammar pitiful-----

so is your whining !!

Mods, how did you let this blubbering mess get through ?!

Whenever I feel like: "Im so freaking tired of getting beaten down walked on," I stay away from those who beat down or walk on others. Simple enough strategy. But, it sounds like you want something from others, and don't have what they want, to get them to give to you. A sure sign of depression. If so, time to get help. You're talking to the wrong people when you're addressing this problem here.

Ya, people are just out for themselves - this is news to you?

There was some blah blah blah in the middle - mi no comprende - you have worse grammer than a short bus 2nd grader.

If you're tired of being 'beaten down' then learn how to administer the beatings. If you don't want to be walked on, stop laying down like a doormat. Throwing yourself a pity party won't make anyone feel sorry for you or give a flying 747 fuck. If anything, it gives people reason to keep their distance...the rest of the world has their own problems, nobody wants to share your misery with you. Grow up, ya fucking cry baby.

Sorry about the assholes, but this board isn't known to be nice.

If your having a bad day many on this board would like nothing better then to make it worse. Posting your problems here is much like jumping in a shark tank covered in blood with a dead tuna tied to your back, you're going to get attacked.

I have some empathy for what you're saying, but unless you have a thick skin this is not the place to say it.

Now I will address your post. Yes this is a cruel word with many out for just themselves, especially in this hobby, but there is many kind people out there. You just have to look a bit harder to find them.

Hope things get better for you.

Here's a chipper post for ya!

First off, I'm not going to lie to you: anytime you engage in a lifestyle outside of established social norms, you will find people who go against social norms in OTHER ways as well. Sometimes, that's a good thing; but sometimes it isn't.

There is a well-established correlation between psychopathic traits and corporate success; meaning that in any endeavor whose primary selection criteria is money; you will disproportionately include psychopathic people or, at a bare minimum, narcissistic people.

When you combine these two factors, do not be shocked to find some people in the hobby who are not very nice people.

HOWEVER -- these things are just odds, and you CAN stack the deck in your favor.

I have never had a provider harm me in any way. Providers I have seen have always been honest with me as best I can tell, they have never betrayed my trust, taken undue advantage of any vulnerabilities they might discover or anything else untoward. If anything, I have gained positively from providers in myriad ways far more valuable than the money I have paid them.

So ... is that because I am somehow special or live a charmed life? No. Not at all.

It is ENTIRELY POSSIBLE within the hobby to surround yourself with good, decent, admirable and respectable people. It is simply a matter of prioritizing this, rather than superficialities, in your choices.

Just because someone has sex with you doesn't mean they can be trusted; though the hormonal effect can be to lead to that trust. Rather, you should ascertain whether someone is trustworthy BEFORE you have sex with them, so you can make that assessment in a rational way devoid of infatuations and stuff.

The issue, therefore, is not hobbying, hobbyists, or providers -- but rather, the choice within that arena of those with whom you will spend your time. Read that sentence again.

Sometimes there is wisdom in old sayings. Here is one: “If you continue to think what you have always thought, you will continue to do what you have always done.  If you continue to do what you have always done, you will continue to get what you have always gotten.”

Bad things can happen to anyone. We ALL make mistakes, or can fall victim to duplicity. But when a pattern of horribleness emerges; that isn't an accident. Rather, it is a result of wrong actions caused by wrong thoughts.

And THAT means that your destiny is within YOUR control. YOU have the power -- real power -- to change things.

So, to quote another cliché, today is the first day of the rest of your life. Change things. Make it happen.

and I'm not just saying that for purposes of cheering you up, I'm being dead serious.  I agree 100%, most people suck and are selfish pieces of shit with hardly anything positive to contribute to humanity. The key is, just realize and come to accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world, and once you do that, you'll come to some sort of peace if that makes sense...once you learn not to expect much out of people, take people/life with a grain of salt and realize "it is what it is", it immunes you from the negativity.  People are people and they are not going to change...it's been this way throughout the ages of time.  Don't take life too seriously, really.  Just learn to take more of a firm stance with people and let it be known you're not anyone's doormat.  You'll get there, we were all once there, until we realized what the world's really all about and learned how to take a stance against it.  Hang in there bro, you'll make it, we all have.    

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