it seems like I've heard a lot about the subject of tipping lately. I was wondering what others have experienced, and if anyone would share your thoughts. this is NOT in reference to the practice(scam) of one collecting money just for showing up to the appointment and then negotiate that every service thereafter be for an additional cost.
my issue is with the many provider ads that state "tipping is not required but appreciated", is a tip still really being expected anyway? I have heard that many clients tip very generously or shower their lady with gifts above and beyond the regular donation. I'm afraid I just can't always afford that as this is already an expensive hobby for me. so I guess my question would be, do you ladies feel that a client is cheap or that he felt service was not exceptional if you do not receive any little extras?
best regards and play safe, mr.man
In my experience as an independent as well as knowing others, I do not think that tipping is required. The providers state their prices upfront which is agreed upon mutually by both the hobbyist and the provider. Because I have a 3 hr. min, I typically ask the gentleman what I can bring for him, such as beverages, desserts, etc. Although gentleman typically ask about my favorites, I never ever think any of my clients to be cheap and always provide them with my greatest service - whether or not there be extras or no extras.
Many times a provider has rocked my world, and I've wanted to let them know, in a small way, how much I appreciate them. It need not be extravangant; most will greatly appreciate the gesture.
any showing of appreciation seems to go a long way. Flowers, gift certs, candles, etc. There are lots of affordable ways to let providers know you care. In fact, I am often suprised by the reaction I get to bringing gifts...guess it doesn't happen that often.
I like the small gift route too.As escortaddict says it does seem to always be a surprise and is appreciated.I usually go for the longer sessions and have been sticking with one favorite lady lately,but I still like to show her that I appreciate her.
Not every session,but a little suprise every now and then never hurts.
I would like to add though,that I'm a little irritated by some escorts who have a high rate to begin with and have the audacity to say "generous executive gentlemen only".Are you guys that naive to fall for these gold diggers and give them diamonds and furs?
I follow your logic on showing how you feel by giving a small token of your appreciation. but, has anyone ever considered this gift giving to be getting too personal? additionally, would you only do this with a lady you have been with before and know well enough to know her tastes and interests?
just curious, mr.man
tipping is not required, but yes I do appreciate it.
I did have a gentlemen take back his tip because I said "thanks, but you didn't have to." So he took it back. That was wrong, but oh well.
I believe the rate you give in adiquate.
Shaye
Ladies conduct their business very differently. There are those that on top of their rate, do expect to be tipped and handsomely. They will pressure a gent once he gets there and it is common practice.
The ladies that state that tipping is not required is simply letting the gent know that this will not be the scenario with them. A tip will never be asked for or pressured for, but if a gent does feel so inclined, it will not be turned down. To simply state that Tip is not required, may lead some to believe that she will not accept them at all, but to state on the end of that it is appreciated if you do...means just that. Not rocket science.
If a gent doesn't leave a tip, he will not be frowned upon or considered cheap. There are other ways in which to show your appreciation. Letting a lady know that her services are appreciated and that you felt that they were top notch does wonders for a lady, and it isn't always expected to come in the form of dollars. It is the little things in life that bring us the most pleasures.
Lauren
...the best tip is a return trip to see her again. Repeat business is the best flattery.
BJ, Palm Beach, FL
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...it's like you read my mind BJ.
I decided to do just that with a regular I started seeing recently; save up all those tips for future repeat business. After all, I felt another hour of playtime is worth more than just a few extra bucks.
do you ladies like getting an email afterwards letting you know what a great time a guy had; or is that cluttering your inbox?
thanks for all the responses everyone, and keep them coming
mr.man
(keep them coming, hehe *grin*)
After the first visit with my favorite lady I sent her a thank you email.I won't go into what she said in her reply,but it was
obvious that she was very appreciative.I think the way you treat them is more important than any tip IMHO.
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I always look forward to the email after. My business is extremely repeat-oriented, and I try to live up to the promise that the more someone keeps coming back, the more I learn what they like, and it only gets better and better each time.
Lately, I've had a very laid-back schedule (to go with the personality), and limit myself to one longer appointment per day now, because I usually overstay anywhere from 30 minutes to 2 hours, or go grab some food afterward because I just get more hungry for either 'more' or food; whichever he feels like and has the time to do. ;^) It's one of MY perks of having just a few clients you're very comfortable with and get to know well, and I like to take my time. I'm no hardliner when it comes to rates, I never expect a tip, though it is pretty cool to get them. I just don't see the point in being inhospitable or counting minutes; rushing out the door cash in hand without a glance back is just plain rude, and my time and accessibility is my gratuity to them. I do want to know my clients better, like to play and explore, and I think it takes more than a one-time fling feeling each other out to really start having fun. I get into people, and consider myself a student of human nature, so I can't help it, I just dig 'em. I really do like lounging around in nekkid playtime, and talking and laughing while resting up. ;^) I'm lucky to have a really terrific clientele, and I really click with each and every one of them, and appreciate each and every one of them as individuals. I'm always looking forward to the next time.
Keeping on,
BJ, Palm Beach, FL
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What a great post. I never worded it that way before, but I too consider myself a student of human nature. I just love people. I love learning about them, their history, what makes them tick etc. Good for you BJ! You sound like a lot of fun.
I've seen this business from a few different sides, from working 6 one-hours/day under an agency, to being a $$$$$$$$ "courtesan." Both of these have their downfalls.
Under the agency, it was all assembly line, which I really couldn't handle. It lasted all of 6 weeks, I think. I was mush physically, and it wasn't just due to the volume; it was totally against my nature, and the mental strain of changing gears so fast... it takes a toll on you every way, and hurts my head just to think about it. It's hard to relax and enjoy yourself when you don't know the slightest thing about what this person wants and expected to fall into step inside of 15 minutes.
Swinging to the opposite extreme, being in the high category is weird, too. For one thing, you get constant flak from people on the boards about it. LOL It was much more fulfilling in all the other areas (physically, mentally, emotionally), and I met a lot of really good people (and actually got to "know" them), but the schedule was very inconsisent. Most times, it was just hard to schedule a 4-5 day absence from my life with two weeks' notice and try to do anything else that routinely has to be done in life... you just never know what 4 or 5 days someone is going to want, so I was doing absolutely nothing just so I could be available at any given time. LOL Silly, really.... But the worst part was losing contact with some good friends just because they "couldn't afford me" anymore. That really sucked, and made me feel like crap, too.
But, from all that, to where I'm at now, which is finally just enjoying it for myself, regardless of the "getting what the market will bear" BS. Hell, my rates are cheaper now than when I was at the agency, LOL, but I have a hell of a lot more fun, my income is much more consistent, my life is much more balanced, and I get to spend a lot more time with my friends. LOL Life is good, and so is business.
It's also changed a lot about how I live my life day to day, like kicking my worst vice, a caffeine habit of 4+ pots a day, along with a whole host of just simple living better and treating myself better. LOL Now, it's all good. ;^)
And now, it's time for sleep!
BJ, Palm Beach, FL
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