...you did write a review of her, didn't you? then it's time to update that review to reflect how things have gone downhill in the sex department over time (yep, sounds like a marriage to me! and then do your homework to find a lady who *will* warrant the reward of time (and money) spent with you. Let's not continue to reward behavior that doesn't justify the reward -- move on.
When seeing the same provider multiple times are the sessions supose to get lazy and less enthusiastic?
I've been meeting with this one provider at least a few times a month and it seems like every time we meet that the session gets less fulfilling. Is she just comfortable and don't think that she still needs to show me a good time? I mean we have sex then we just kinda talk awfterwards, she is usually texting and it kinda bugs me. And she will only let me have sex for like 15 minutes even though we have the whole hour.
Maybe I should stop seeing her and see someone else. But i don't want the same to happen to the next provider. I want a mind blowing experience everytime or is that just not possible.
your time spent together should get better and better, more and more yummy and naughty and nasty and just plain delicious as times goes on. after all you are (or should be) becoming more and more comfortable with each other, getting to know one another in a very real way, and have a liking for one another (because why on earth would client or provider repeat with someone they didn't like).
if things are heading in the opposite direction, it's just not a good match. also some providers just are not cut out for long-term relationships with clients, they shine more in the one'n'done setting.
No, it's not suppose to work that way, and you need to speak up, and be more directive regarding what you want, and why you're there. If she balks, it's time to go shoppin!
...you did write a review of her, didn't you? then it's time to update that review to reflect how things have gone downhill in the sex department over time (yep, sounds like a marriage to me! and then do your homework to find a lady who *will* warrant the reward of time (and money) spent with you. Let's not continue to reward behavior that doesn't justify the reward -- move on.
You could say somthing to her like" Hey, Let"s try XYZ and I would really like some more of your undivided attention I know you are busy but, I don't feel like I am number 1 when you are talking with other. I do agree you should not have to say this to her but she may be very comfortable with you and think that you honestly do not mind. YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO TREAT YOU THE WAY THEY DO) YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE GOOD TIME YOU HAVE)
She can't read your mind.... She should treat you better maybe but, If you want to keep seeing her be honest. It's not that hard
Sometimes the excitement of someone new wears off. When I click with a lady, it is nice to see her again and again. Either she can keep up the show, or we are really into each other. Doesn't matter which.
If time with her is beginning to fade, then there is no reason to keep seeing her. No need to talk with her about it. It won't be the same if you make her perform. Either she wants to (in which case she does it willingly) or she doesn't (in which case you don't want to be there).
When I was younger and first started hobbying I was one of those guys that rarely saw the same provider twice, seeking to fulfil some "conquest fantasy" of mine, as silly as that sounds!
Over time I began to prefer establishing a rapport and comfortable friendly atmosphere over the course of multiple sessions. On the occasions when I do meet someone new, my first thoughts are, "is this someone I'd like to see again and will continue to be engaging once the usual pleasantries are out of the way.
I've had occasion to be in the same situation you describe more than once. When the rapport seems to be changing, I'd casually mention that she "seems more distant", "not into the date" and "is everything okay?" Usually this hint is enough to get things going again. But I can think of a couple of times when after the next session things still didn't improve, I just wouldn't contact her anymore.
There is one situation that I can recall that was similar to what you describe but I just couldn't stop seeing her because she was just a physical "fantasy come true" but she seemed more cavalier each time we met. I guess I was addicted to her body, LOL!
However, having said all that, I've had and continue to have some very fulfulling relationships with providers that have only gotten better with time. There is one woman I have been seeing for years but she moved away and retired. However, whenever she finds herself in my area or I in hers, we make contact and make it a point to get together. It truly is like old friends reuniting and a genuine interest in catching up. I'm flattered that even though she's retired, I'm one of only three guys that she still feels comfortable seeing.
Anyway, my point is this. Try to give her a gentle hint that you're not happy with her divided attention. Maybe she just didn't realize how mcuh it bugged you since you were being so nice about it. But if it doesn't change, I'm sure there's someone else out there that you'll click better with.
It is not realistic to expect a "mind blowing" experience every time. It is especialy unrealistic to think you'll have one each and every time you see the same provider several times a month. If things have become stale, take a break. I've had only a small # of "mind blowing" experiences.
i was about to stop seeing her after we spent an hour and a half just doing nothing in bed watching tv on my time (the wife experience), it was a bit of a let down. waited about a month and several so so sessions... and bam! she knocked my socks off for an hour and a half of just straight wild, passionate sex, sweaty sex she was down right insatiable(it was only an hour session). now i am not saying this will happen to you, but i guess girls may get a little too comfortable and complacent with a guy she really gets along with. and just an fyi, i got another little issue with this girl that i gotta watch out for now. normally i'd say move on, but that was my initial thought with the girl i am referring to, but now i am hooked on the great sex again
It sounds like you've fallen into a pattern with this lady, and it might be time for you do something to spice things up, or just accept that you're on a downhill trajectory that will just get more disappointing. Maybe seeing her less often, and you seeing other ladies, will help. Or maybe it's time to move on. Ultimately, it's your decision.
we get to explore and have more fun because we have gotten to know eachother and have more trust together..lets me get into the depths of his mind and bring out his kinky side and maybe he will want to share some of his secret secret fantasies(which is what usually happens)..
SOmething about regulars that is exciting...but the nervousness you get with seeing someone for the first time can also be intriguing and lustful...
@ summit_dude : sorry to hear about your issue. before it grows into something worse i would say try out another provider (wink wink). it's just human nature to get bored. It's like having steak every single night / 365....but if you were offered shrimp wouldn't you go with the latter??
No matter how long you've been seeing a provider it won't be amazing EVERY single time after she's showed you her skills. Like this one regular i have, he's really a sweetheart but talks me to sleep for about 15 mins before we start his half hour session...(wtf!!) anywho, i started to notice things getting a little dry after 9 months or so. After realizing that aspect i made sure everytime after that when I seen him i either dressed up in something kinky, threw in some role play, met him different places, & tried different things that he couldn't with his wife.
COMMUNICATION IS KEY!! SO SPEAK UP BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!!!
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and then do your homework to find a lady who *will* warrant the reward of time (and money) spent with you. Let's not continue to reward behavior that doesn't justify the reward -- move on.
she was down right insatiable(it was only an hour session). now i am not saying this will happen to you, but i guess girls may get a little too comfortable and complacent with a guy she really gets along with. and just an fyi, i got another little issue with this girl that i gotta watch out for now. normally i'd say move on, but that was my initial thought with the girl i am referring to, but now i am hooked on the great sex again