I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong today.  

There are many of us who are low volume providers who schedule their entire day around appointments where last minute changes and cancellations have a major impact....BUT you said you would still keep your original appointment, so in that case, I don't think there is anything wrong in merely asking if earlier is possible.

but unless your request came across more like a demand It's my opinion that she was completely out of line and that you dodged a bullet.

I've done this a couple times. Just asked if earlier was possible for an appointment made some days in advance. Some hours before the appointment. One girl who I'd seen before was available and moved up the time. One I hadn't seen before wasn't available and we kept the scheduled time (and had a great session). Another I hadn't seen before was clearly annoyed with me asking, but I apologized and we went through with scheduled time. I don't remember that one as being particularly good or bad.
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From the other perspective, I've had girls  or agencies contact me asking to move sessions earlier and I've changed the time when I could accommodate them, and said no when I couldn't.  
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Some people are just easily annoyed by things that aren't a big deal to other people.

That was my thought as well. I supposed I should have gone the extra mile to let her know it was just a request.

Except for the name redaction.

I've read similar accounts where a simple question or request turns into a BSC response. She likely would have been forgettable.

This is not something you do on a first appointment, EVER.  The first thing that goes through her mind is that the hooker task force has been assembled a few blocks away by LE and they don't want to sit around until 6:00p to make the bust.  You have to see it from their POV.  They are in an illegal profession, and so it sounds suspicious when a new guy wants to screw around with the schedule you already both agreed on.  

You silver tongue devil you. You must be in sales..🥃🥃

I don't see where you did anything unacceptable. You clearly stated that the initial appointment time was still fine, but that you'd be available earlier....if she was.  
Was she a BP refugee? Just sounds like the overly paranoid antics of some of the girls that used to advertise there. I read the convo... " verbatim", you did nothing out of bounds. I think you would have to be too tightly wound to take offense to that.  
On the other hand...BSC tend to be the ride of your life. Lol

I was really enjoying a session so much with a gal (first time, so only did one hour) that I asked half-way through if I could buy a second hour.

... we all might be more understanding of each other, and not fly off the handle because of a respectful request to change the time, IF it's convenient to do so.

I went to a Catholic grade school. You got to learn that a certain high percentage of the nuns were there  because they were failures in regular society. Unfortunately such is the case of this particular field as well due to the social stigma. I'm not saying most, just a higher than normal percentage are wacky. Considering that a high percentage of mist chicks are wacky, well you can imagine the odds. Take it in stride.

My parents put me in Our Lady of Perpetual Sorrow school, but after two days, I got into it with Sister Mary Goliath and they threw me out.  Probably a blessing in disguise or I would be wracked with guilt over how may hookers I've seen.  I'm not saying you don't get a good education, but it comes with a Master's Degree in guilt.  

OTOH, your post is giving me flashbacks of my formative years.

I know we want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, even when it comes to rudeness, but would you be so quick to chalk it up to a "bad day" if it were to turn out that the OP had written her and said something more along the lines of "Hey, I got free earlier, I am going to head your way a few hours early"???

Until you hit the wall at 100 MPH 0:

Like other ladies in thread have said, the whole day was planned around the original time of the appt. You had a 6pm pre-arranged. Then because your schedule has left you more free time you request she be ready anytime earlier than the original appt time. Any time is a range of 5 and half hours. So maybe she could have been ready for 530pm say, but you left it so open she would have to spend time, back and forth, to suss out what time you meant and what would work. She already went through that when you made the original appt and now you want her to do it again (this is my thinking because this is exactly how it went for me).

P.S. the reason I felt obligated: when he wanted to start earlier and fill up his now discovered free time, I immediately thought "Now he's on the prowl looking for someone to fill that free time with". So if I don't fill it he will get someone else who will do it and that will mean out pre-arranged meeting will be off.

This is also excellent advice )

Thanks for the insight! I really appreciate it

A real gentleman wouldn't start looking for another avenue. I book with ladies who appeal to me. I'm wanting to meet them! Not " any port in a storm". I don't remember ever asking to bump up an appointment, but if I ever did... I would be clear that the original time is still fine, just that I would be available for an earlier rendezvous, from this time forward...if it were beneficial to her scheduling. I would also make clear that I didn't want her to have to go through any extra hassles. But, like I said... I Just book a time I know will work for me and stick with it.

you don't count "income" until its in your hand, and there are no "receivables' for services yet to be rendered unless you signed a contract.  This fact should be one of the things you take into consideration when modifying your schedule to accommodate a customer request.  

Fell victim to being bumped over the weekend, by my  ATF. It's happened several times now, enough that I've decided to move on...
Disappointing....especially with such limited options in the current climate, but necessary at this point.

no I can not change Can we maintain the 6 pm meeting ?
PLease   ?
or i need cancel i can not see 12 ;30 pm  but be happy see 6 pm if can manage that  
unless u gave her 10 minutes notice  that is annoying  
i do not think u are disrespectful  I have seen way much worse lol
just do not overthink!!!!  
next.. lol

I like posts like these.  There have been several of a similar theme (seemingly innocent actions derailing encounters) lately.  They are good learning experiences for us newbies, thank you.

the problem was the way  she responded, not the time of the date. Maybe she had a bad day. Sometimes happen.
There're guys who drive me crazy changing time many times and I need to keep calm and smile with a diplomatic response. That's happen when you work with people, doesn't matter the type of work you do.

About this being his first appointment with this provider?  I agree it's perfectly acceptable to request a time change when you're repeating with a girl you have seen before, but try doing it with the next 20 NEW girls you see and tell us about their reaction.

Sounds like the "lady" has a short fuse and could be a MHB, lol.  

... in my story about the provider I was seeing for the first time who asked for three different changes of day or time.  

but in this world, toast is always going to hit the floor buttered side down, so we have to adjust our expectations and take comfort in what ever good we get.

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to make an issue of your lack of experience, but since you don't seem to get it, I will explain.  

While it is true that the OP said he could still make the 6 PM appointment, he didn't LEAD with that statement, he only told her that AFTER she reminded him that their session was scheduled for 6 PM. If he had led with "I know our appointment is at 6 and that still works for me" that would have diffused the situation before it ever became a "situation" lol

I agree ... with the toast part Always happens

... all are entitled.  Entitled to be treated as human beings, with consideration and respect.

You look even more naïve.   I'm not assuming anything.  I'm speaking from ten years of experience with over 600 providers.  Whatever the reason she TOLD you for rescheduling, in my experience, 90% of the time its really about bumping you to another time to accommodate a more important regular customer.  But yes, the ONE day you are talking about, you COULD have been bumped for another reason, but it looks like you don't know for sure either, or you would have said so by now.  I'll stand on my own experience that 90% of the time its about moving you in deference to a more valuable customer.  I know that goes against your kumbaya sensibilities, but its the reality of this business, so get used to it.   If you are going to be in this hobby (just denying you're not a newbie doesn't change your obvious newbie Pollyanna perspective. . . . you are thinking like a newbie), you cannot reshape how the business works singlehandedly.   Nobody is going to disagree how everyone should treat everyone else with respect, but your refusal to acknowledge the reality of how this illegal business works makes you a newbie, or at the very least, such a low-volume hobbyist that you still don't understand how it works.  You still don't have a clue, so I'm giving up on you.  Go ahead and have the last word, its what Newbies live for.  How long would it take you to compile a list of the last 20 providers you have seen and how you found them?  It would take me about ten minutes, because I only have to go back about 10-12 weeks, and its all still fresh in my memory.  

In your case, dealing mainly with K-girls who are "at work" all day, every day, you might have a point, but Indy's who don't keep 10 AM to 10 PM "office hours" have all sorts of things come up that necessitate a scheduling change.

makes me a newbie, then I guess I'm a Newbie in that particular market, I would venture to say there are some guys you would call "veterans" here that have not seen that many independent providers, but I don't mind being held to a higher standard.  Granted, I have seen many more Kgirls, but I don't see how that diminishes the experience I have had over a ten-year period with the indies I have seen.  You, of all people, should know they are not mutually exclusive, just different.  

and for the record I do not live in an area where TER carries much weight to begin with.

I allow extra drive time as well, and sometimes there is no traffic.  As soon as I realize I am going to be 15 or 30 minutes early, I will text the girl or the booker and say if she isn't busy, meaning she did not have a customer in the slot before me, I can start earlier if SHE WANTS TO, and it works about a third of the  time.  I say if she is busy, I will just hang out and relax at Starbucks until my scheduled time.  So I think we are on the same page except that I still contend that its sketchy to do this on the FIRST appointment with a new girl or new booker.  I have known guys that did this and then couldn't get an appointment after that because the girl or booker felt something wasn't right about a guy they HAVEN'T met wanting to change the time right out of the box.  ATFER you have had your first session, I AGREE it is perfectly acceptable, and I too, do it whenever the opportunity presents itself, mostly in a similar way to what you suggest. Some providers (and bookers) are not as paranoid about LE as others, but why take the chance of getting BL'd just because you made good time getting there?  For me, the reward does not justify the risk.  That's why I would NEVER request a time change on the first appointment with a new girl.  Even if she goes for it, she's going to be nervous the first 15-20 minutes wondering if she was set up.  I want a great session right from the very beginning.  lol

If that was me I would have said...  Yes, you are probably right it's best I just cancel as it will probably not be a very fun time based off
 of your poor attitude.  I would and have said those exact words when similar situations have happened to me.

and as I stated, I let her know even BEFORE I arrive early that I "might" be early so she won't think it's odd when I do, and she won't feel obligated or irritated by my text telling her I am 15 minutes early as she is already expecting it and I've already told her to feel free to ignore it if she's busy getting ready. Or busy with another customer, but of course I would NEVER say such a thing. lol

I'm talking ONLY about the FIRST APPOINTMENT with a new provider or a new booker with whom you have NO history.  I'm close friends with enough bookers to know how they think about new guys, and I'm in the most prolific Kgirl scene on the planet.  I agree with 100% of what you say ONCE you are past the first appointment.  You are not making a distinction between the FIRST SESSION with someone new, and repeat sessions, and you have now conveniently added that you already told her that you "might" be early, which I would also not recommend on a first session.  Once they get to know what a great guy you are, then all of the things we have been discussing are okay.  

You think the entire hooker world runs like it does in your limited So Cal K-Girl world and the fact of the matter is that it does NOT.  

against mine?  Really?!!   Your last gasp is to play the my-dick-is-bigger-than-yours card?  LMAO  That's usually a sign that someone knows they have painted themselves into a corner, and a misdirection that has no bearing on the relative merits of their arguments.  

Or do you deny constantly reminding anyone you think is a newb about your vast experience fucking hookers?

By the time you've done 5.... haven't depleted your life savings, or professed your love for one of them, I would think the rookie stigma is past. It's not rocket science... just sayin.

at least small in my understanding way of seeing this, omg in light if the recent events I make every effort to makes things work out. I might have inwardly had a little eyeroll, but since he followed up with the fact that the original date time was fine too, I think the response with kinda BSC and rude.  

I'm just laffing about adding links that are to posts on this very thread, and yes, I know...he started it, lol.

I always ask when I can come earlier but I make sure she knows for sure I am fine either way like you suggested.
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The OP was not in the wrong but his first line can trigger some people, especially someone under stress or a stickler to schedule. Her response to the OP would also make me think I won't have an enjoyable time because she won't be happy. Of course I would not say it to her and pour gas on smoldering ember. Still, I don't think she deserved even one GFY, but that's just me

DID get it right on how you would word a request, but how many newbies can do it like that?  You're just out to lunch making it advice for newbies like the OP.   I'm still waiting for any provider (except your wing-man Steph) to go on record that its perfectly acceptable to ask to change the time on the SAME day for a FIRST meeting by a NEW customer that you don't know, and how comfortable they are with that in the way the OP describes how HE did it.  Its pretty clear that is what I said in my first post on this thread, and the second paragraph goes on to say that once you have seen her, subsequent requests for schedule changes are okay, and I agree with everything you said in regard to subsequent meetings.  My post was clearly from the POV of a provider's security and safety, and I would assume that the "likes" I got were from providers, not Newbie hobbyists.  

but like I said, I've been on both sides, so I have come to accept that its part of the business.  In life, some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statute.  Lol

GaG and I are friends and agree 90% of the time.  This was one of the times we didn't agree, but we argue the subject matter and try not to make it personal (I'm giving him a pass on the "bigger-dick" contest - he can't help himself - lol).  However, you have shown you're a good sport with a great sense of humor, so thanks for adding another two cents along with your wisdom and experience on the subject, which I agree is correct.  He's probably going to call me a BSU now, but I can take it.  It won't be the first time.  LOL