I have been thinking alot on this issue lately, Why do sessions commonly end up where its all about money or about getting out right when you are done with clients? I have more often than not heard that clients wont see sps because they arent truely Gfe material. When I see a client there are no clocks in my head I block them out, and money isnt an issue, I know I am getting my donation so I leave it at that. Think about this People see sps for something they can find anywhere else so lets be a little more thoughtful when we see people.

xoxo

rai lynn

Pardon my stupidity but wtf is an sps? I think I agree with you.

Thanks

M'Lady,

The great meetings are exactly that, when both sides "forget it is service" and truly enjoy pleasing each other in a divercity of ways.  That IS what this is supposed to be all about, isn't it?

I have to agree with the spirit of your post (how could one disagree?)

However, I've only had two sessions that fit your question "Why do sessions commonly end up where its all about money or about getting out right when you are done with clients?"

The vast majority of sessions in my experience have ended when it is time to end the session. Sometimes it is less than the time paid for (when the lady and I don't really have much in common.) More often it is past the time paid for (when the lady and I are enjoying each other's company.)

Everyone is different including a gent.
Some simply desire the pleasure and are able to pay for it there for do and do not want the drama attention or even the affections of any form of attachment. They may have greatly enjoyed the service provided.. but lets face it - dont want the hassles they would have to deal with - when picking someone up at a bar. When its done its done.. let him get back to the game. This is why they pay. To have a quiet discreet hot encounter and not go hang somewhere trying to get cooter with out the all the other *issues*

On the other foot. This is an occupation and while our friends maybe fuggin hot in the sack and the type of guy we would personally love to roll on for endless hours there are other life responsibilities, appointments or classes to get to.
Exceptions often are made and clocks indeed go unwatched. More than likely the situation is romantic and very satisfying.

When its done its done

xo
mo

...aren't you really just talking about enjoying your work?!  This is true in no matter what one does...but it is still nice to get paid too!  Believe me, if there was a market for reversing the roles, I would have done this in my 20's...

I will be very blunt here so be prepared to gasp or re-adjust the camel sacks..
I like getting laid. I like getting treated better by an attractive older man that wants to bang me 'til I yoddle or peel the paint.
No offense to all the absolutely great ( yea right ) guys i have dated, but I get treated better in the industry than I did while working the dating circuit.
Starting as a domme 11 years ago - having a man at my feet changed my confidence. Recently becoming a Provider I am suddenly drawing a complete circle around my sexuaity. I do what I want and the best part is.. it pays the light bill.

For me, the issue isn't just about orgasms.   Some lotion, the privacy of my home office and a good high speed internet hook up are all I need if all I want is an orgasm.  

"Being" with someone else is more than just friction and clean-up.  When I decide to involve someone else, pro or amatuer, it is because I feel a need to share; to be a giver as well as a receiver.  There are times when I really do need to feel connected to someone, even if for only a little while, on an intellectual, emotional as well as physical sense.  To be in the moment WITH someone else.

I am by no means an expert on this, because I'm still really new to this hobby, but the reason I was attracted to it is because the processes and outcomes of the Real World are too unpredictable, time consuming, often as or more monetarily expensive and very often extremely emotionally expensive.  How do you stop caring about her kids because she changed her mind?  How do you deal with the fact that the reason she changed her mind had absolutely nothing to do with you or anything you did or didn't do and that there was nothing you could have done to prevent it or change it.  

Am I silly enough to ever confuse a GFE experience with the real thing.  Haven't had the opportunity to put it to the test yet, but it seems to me that that would be like confusing the emotion of a great, thrilling, tear-jerking movie with real life or expecting it to last past the credits.  I paid my money and in those few hours I lived experiences and went places I could never have lived or gone on my own.  I'm grateful for the experience.  I'll come back and see it again. I value and admire the director's and actors that brought it to me for the sensitivity and passion they brought to the experience.  Then the lights come up and I go home.    

JMO, ICBW

RjaGoodWitch

Apparently you have been doing this for sometime now, and btw, you are very eliquent in your messages. How often would you estimate that the provider actually has a pleasurable experience as the client does? I recently had my first experience with a provider and I for some unknown reason felt that she was not really into receiving as much as giving. I consider myself a fairly good lover and have been able to please most of the women in my life. However during my first experience with a provider I felt as though she just wanted to get down to business and satisfy me pronto! I would also add that I am not homely or anything and in my early 40's. Although I am not unhappy with this first outcome, just a little confused.

Any insight would be appreciated.