TER General Board
Three little words...
No, not the ones you are thinking 
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening. I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes. Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person. I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right? And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people. My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc. I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening. I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes. Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person. I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right? And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people. My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc. I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
But you catch my drift I guess it sounds like 3 to me: D'you like this? LOL!
Back_In_Black
posted
4 / 49
I was thinking this morning about the difference between an "okay" appointment and a "great" one, I mean from my end of it. There are so many variables that play into it. But if I had to pick maybe one difference, I think it would be three little words.
No, not the ones you are thinking
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening.
I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes.
Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person.
I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right? And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people.
My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc.
I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
No, not the ones you are thinking
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening.
I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes.
Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person.
I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right?
And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people. My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc.
I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
Back_In_Black
posted
8 / 49
Back_In_Black
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10 / 49
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12 / 49
Back_In_Black
posted
16 / 49
69EType
posted
23 / 49
ihateuga
posted
25 / 49
I was thinking this morning about the difference between an "okay" appointment and a "great" one, I mean from my end of it. There are so many variables that play into it. But if I had to pick maybe one difference, I think it would be three little words.
No, not the ones you are thinking
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening.
I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes.
Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person.
I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right? And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people.
My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc.
I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
No, not the ones you are thinking
What I would love to hear more often is "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" Not a dozen times in a session. But once or twice as we are getting started, it can make a big difference in how the appointment goes. So much boils down to communication and really listening.
I guess-timate that I am asked that simple question in a context of an appointment about half the time. I would love to hear it 100% of the time. To be fair, I forget to say it too, sometimes.
Here's the thing: when a guy says that to me -- and really pauses and listens to my response -- that does a lot for me. It makes me feel like what I feel matters. It makes me look at the guy in a whole different light. It reminds me to check in with him, too! And be more communicative. Because not all men and women are made the same, and sometimes what feels good can vary from appointment to appointment, even with the same person.
I recall once having a review some years ago and it was mentioned that I liked a certain position. And my next five clients, sure enough, went right for that position! First of all, you guys know that not everything that is stated in reviews is gospel, right?
And although that was true for that client, that one time, men are different. You are taller, shorter, built differently, you have different styles. There are a million ways to feel good, but not all ways work with all people. My thinking is if you make a session good for the provider, and show a little bit of caring in that dept., it could pay off in good dividends -- I'm thinking speedy and sterling references, whitelisting, extended time, etc. etc.
I know I need to take responsibility for making sure that what happens in a session works for me, too. I'm working on that. But it's just so nice to hear those three little words! Your thoughts?
HookerWithAHeartOfTinFoil
posted
27 / 49
Dr Who revived
posted
29 / 49
Assume you're not doing "it right" 
Her moves and moans will clearly give this away! Hey esc...when they play "Sweet Caroline" do you do the "duh duh duh" part? Does she? Try it...I'll bet that will get her going LOL
Her moves and moans will clearly give this away! Hey esc...when they play "Sweet Caroline" do you do the "duh duh duh" part? Does she? Try it...I'll bet that will get her going LOL I will try it tonight as I am seeing somebody for the 2nd time.
I feel many first dates can be intimidating to both and they may actually
say, that it feels great well, when maybe i'm doing it wrong.
I try to get a sense from her moves and moans but as I said will try it out tonight.
Thanks
I feel many first dates can be intimidating to both and they may actually
say, that it feels great well, when maybe i'm doing it wrong.
I try to get a sense from her moves and moans but as I said will try it out tonight.
Thanks
Dr Who revived
posted
30 / 49
BTW...my friends at CID want to know why you haven't reported the spif money. That's a no no...better go and file those returns quickly as CID is not nearly as nice as an IRS field auditor LOL I find it more entertaining to see moleys squirm...don't you?
69EType
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31 / 49
69EType
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32 / 49
WondersOfTheWrld
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33 / 49
WondersOfTheWrld
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WondersOfTheWrld
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35 / 49
justanillusion
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36 / 49
Dr Who revived
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37 / 49
It's called sploshing...look it up LOL I tried it a couple of times too...it's a blast
It is up to me to let you know if something is uncomfortable. The session is NOT about me and my satisfaction. My satisfaction comes from doing a really great job within the boundaries of my abilities.
If the stars align and what he is doing works for me, then it's like icing on the cake.
If the stars align and what he is doing works for me, then it's like icing on the cake.
justanillusion
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38 / 49
justanillusion
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39 / 49
HookerWithAHeartOfTinFoil
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justanillusion
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justanillusion
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justanillusion
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Dr Who revived
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