Is more important to most reputable ladies regardless of size. I would imagine a lady would make it known if she does not see larger gentlemen. Prepare yourself by pampering yourself however you see fit and allowing yourself to be excited for what's to come. Hope this helps!

Could be your weight, ethnicity, ugly face, body hair, bad teeth...
It's their job to fake it when they need to.

My honest thoughts are that being overweight and having a belly simply isn’t an issue as long as the following holds true:

- You are squeaky clean.  Too often if men are on the bigger side they might have trouble with grooming. Take the time to trim as best you can and ensure everything is scrubbed thoroughly and rinsed well.  

- You are a decent and respectful. Here’s where being a nice guy will get you everywhere. I truly forget about body types when I really enjoy a gentleman’s company. I am very much turned on by my brain and when I really like someone that just works for me sexually.  

- You have realistic expectations. Some men who are carrying extra weight also suffer from ED. If you can’t get hard enough for penetration, especially if you struggle with condoms as well, intercourse may be off the table. (Female condoms can help sometimes when offered.). Struggling will just make it worse and make you feel bad, so relax and enjoy other activities. If no problems in that area, great but keep in mind that sometimes cowgirl position is a challenge with a large bellied gent.  

Everyone ages and changes and a few extra pounds simply isn’t a big deal. Absolutely do not let that get in the way of allowing yourself to have enjoyable experiences. Go out there and have some fun!

I’m body positive & know how to ride cowgirl!🤠

I have disabled friends who have limited mobility. If your dick doesn’t work I can always ride your face! 💧  
😝 Smile for me! Proudly perverted here, so excuse the giggles. 🤭 After having two babies with this incredible body I respect anyone has had to deal with being overweight.  

I’m a natural caregiver. I have empathy. I sympathize with all humans. It’s nice to be nice. Not all providers will be, so kind. Hopefully 🤞 you picked someone who will enjoy your company. If not I m available upon request…

First, props to you for keeping your date - it already shows you're respectful, dependable, and considerate. Spoiler alert, most women in this industry would argue that means more to us than abs.  

 
I was in the military and here's what I know after reconnecting with some buddies a couple months ago: bodies change, life happens. Confidence doesn't come from perfection - it comes from presence. If you show up with good hygiene, a good attitude, and genuine respect, you're already miles ahead of most. Speaking personally, I'd take a kind, self-aware gent with a "dad-bod" or a belly over a shredded narcissist any day. Side note: not all shredded men are narcissists - many of you are very sweet, love some curves/softness and are some of my favorite regulars. I digress.  

 
There's something rather sexy about a person who owns where they're at in life and still makes space for their pleasure. Go, enjoy, and don't overthink it - if she's reputable, she's likely seen and appreciated all kinds of bodies. What she'll remember is how you made her feel, not your waistline. So walk in like you belong there - because you do!

You will be fine and have a good time. It’s just business. I had a regular who would tell me all the time it’s just work to her.

Maybe in some cultures.. But here in America, people have abided by the whole theory of "Round is a shape too" when even the slightest doubt of their health creeps up in their mind.. I suggest you join the club...

 
OK.. Jokes aside. You are by no means overweight if you can see the tip of your erect penis without bending over. ..    

 
Don't worry about it.. Have fun..

As was mentioned previously, be confident.  Not cocky.  Not conceited.  But, quietly confident.  Whatever happens, relax, be in the moment and Enjoy Yourself!  If you do, she will as well.

 
I wish that I was 230 lbs.  And, I've had some great times.

Go for it without hesitation!

If you take hygiene seriously, are friendly and kind, you'll do just fine. Enjoy your time and most of all have fun.

My largest guy in the body department was 6'4" and weighed about 340 the first time we met. I saw him many times over 2024.At one point he lost 20 more ponds. He treated me like a queen. Right now, he's in a personal relationship with a "civvie" and not seeing ladies in the biz.

Who knows for how long, so...  

Steph XOXO

I hear how much this weighs on you—gaining that weight and feeling your confidence dip is tough, especially at 50 when you’re reflecting on changes. But let me say, you’re showing real guts by booking with a reputable provider and sticking to it, even with those nerves. That’s not just commitment; it’s a sign you’re ready to reclaim some joy and connection.  

As someone who thrives on making people feel at ease, I can tell you: your worry about your belly is bigger in your mind than it will be to her. Good Providers will focus on you—your energy, your respect, your excitement to share a moment—not a number on the scale.  

She’s likely thrilled you chose her and will make you feel valued for who you are. Don’t let overthinking steal this chance for fun. You deserve to feel those butterflies and walk away smiling. Try focusing on what you’re excited about in this meet—maybe her vibe or just the thrill of it. You’ve got this! If you’re still jittery, want some tips to prep or just chat it out? I’m here. 💖