...what do you do when you have a date,meet them, and instantly know there's no chemistry-there's no way-Guys,do you go forward/do the deed/pay your fee/go home and shiver?-Gals,do you close your eyes/open your legs/take your fee/SHOWER???.....is it ok 4 Guys to take their cash and go home...do Gals ever say "keep ur cash" go home?....i understand its a biz...how do we work out personal/intimate parts of this biz so that most of us feel ok...

unless you walk into a Bait & Switch situation, you can just walk away, but if the provider clearly show accurate picture of herself, and if you find there is no chemistry, just go through with it.

I've been on few situation myself where i don't find good chemistry with certain provider, it happens.  I'm sure it goes both way.

You suck it up and complete the mission. Jeez.

These are one and the same to some people, but to me they are not.  I've had amazing chemistry with men whose appearance didn't have me immediately soaking my panties.

Not once have I ever determined that there was "no chemistry" in the blink of an eye.  

However, there have been a couple occasions where someone opened his mouth and instantly revealed himself to be someone who I do not want in my space, face, or embrace.   I've asked them to leave.   If she is as represented, photos were accurate, no bait-and-switch but you're just "not feeling it"?   No.    
Give her a chance, you might be very pleasurably surprised.   There is no one-size-fits-all answer.  
I know what works for ME, but that might not work at all for someone else.  

the right attitude about hobbying.  How can you say there is no chemistry when you just got there?  Chemistry develops from interaction and you haven't interacted yet.  For me, if there is chemistry, I will repeat, if not, I won't, but I usually don't know until near the end of the first session.  

Are you confusing looks with chemistry?  Sometimes the girl is not what you expected, but I have often developed chemistry with a girl that I initially wasn't attracted to in a big way when I first got there, but after the INTERACTION, the chemistry developed, and in some cases, I became a regular.

...thanx- u said what i meant.. i had a date,and the second she opened her mouth and started talking-i knew that i didnt what to be inside that...made small talk/gave donation/left...just wanted to know how other people handled that...how do ur girls handle that same situation?...is it always just about the donation?...

This shouldn't be an issue if you've done your research and read lots of reviews, and if the reviews where mostly good, you should atleast get a sense of what her attitude is and what to expect. If she is has a good attitude, then go for it, after all this is P4P, not match.com

 

I already answered that.  

If someone is truly offensive, intoxicated/under-the-influence, verbally abusive, or something along those lines: I ask him to leave and take his envelope with him.  

I'm not going to dignify your second question with a real response. :smh:

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Once you make the deal you most go threw, and then i would say give a 100% accurate review so one can decide what turned you off might not do much for them.

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You only have to keep your nipples hard.

You go fuck a fat, ugly and unpleasant women because you "made a deal' if you want, but if I don't like what I see when I get there, I walk. I don't give gas money, I don't give a cancellation fee, I don't offer an apology, if I have been misled, I am outta there.

I guarantee you, if you show up at an incall, drunk, obnoxious and stinking to high heaven, she won't be seeing you, or giving you a "cancellation fee" so when that kind of crap happens to be, I walk.

BTW, rewarding bad behavior does us all a disservice.

If I'm not a slippery wet mess, I got lots of 'splainin' to do!

I've done this multiple times. Why pay for something you know you're not going to enjoy?? If you went to a provider rated 9 for appearance and when she opens the door and shes nothing more than a solid 6 you would hand her some over priced rate of $800? Any provider that makes you pay some kind of fee for leaving is just a broken down hooker.

This sounds like something other than "chemistry" although I suppose, in fairness, it will be difficult to describe this particular consideration you are sharing here.

I prefer to have a reasonable conversation on the phone before agreeing to a meeting so I usually (not always) have a handle on what kind of personality I am dealing with and have managed to avoid that. If I am not feeling it, it is at that point that I will refuse the appointment because (as I tell them), we aren't going to be a good match and I would rather send you to someone else than have you come over, have an awkward or worse, awful, experience and then we both have wasted perfectly good time we could have spent doing anything else that would have made us happier. Of course, I am also a very low volume provider and not walking around in expensive shoes and buying stock options either. I would rather have my peace of mind and feel good about who I am with rather than the extra money if I have the ability to make a choice.

This isn't foolproof and there have been a few times when someone so mightily offensive has shown up that I couldn't enjoy their presence if you had drowned me in a bottle of whiskey first. Cheap, condescending, manipulative, or vulgar in a sleazy pornographic way will not get you a second appointment here or the best time I could offer you during the first appointment.  

Will I go through with the appointment? In most cases, if the client is not asking to be excused from the appointment, then it is the professional thing to do. But if the client over-steps the boundaries of decency and goes too far, then he can go and take his money with him. Everyone has their limits and I can live without the money in those cases. Dignity has no selling price.

Many of the providers work so hard to try and create a positive and pleasant experience for their clients. I will never understand why someone would show up for an appointment and decide to be someone that even they wouldn't like if they were on the receiving end of themselves. But that's not a question of chemistry. That's a matter of character, I suppose.

I don't know if this helps. I am sorry you had that experience. Did you not have a chance to talk to her before the appointment

if she is "as advertised," not a bait and switch, and not a mean-spirited person, I would;

1)  pay her the agreed upon amount for our session

2)  try to get as much out of the session as I could  

3)  politely tell her good-bye

4)  make a point to remove her from my TER favorites list

Once had a "gifted" appointment from a provider for a number of "favors" I did for her.  Prior to this session I wrote an amazing (totally justified) review from a previous visit.  Learned during this session, she was going through some personal issues (not financial).  When I arrived at her upscale incall I placed the donation on the desk and began our session.  Only to be extremely disappointed at the lack of anything even remotely resembling an appointment.  We all, hobbyists and providers, alike can have a bad day and deserve some degree of consideration.

Completely understand ur point   GG but he said no chemistry, not a fat ugly stincky & rude provider. If it's a bait n switch the rules are off because she missed lead you.  

...find an old fat ugly woman?  

I can honestly say that it has never happened to me. Now, I have shown up and the beautiful woman before me starts talking and I have to move things along...planting a sensual kiss on her lips usually works, followed by a good tongue lashing. Then after she catches her breath, she knows what to do next...😎

and it even happens with "well reviewed TER providers" as many reviewers need either glasses or standards. Maybe my idea of "old fat and ugly" is different that others, but I am NOT fucking any woman I am not attracted to, and if I am attracted to her by her pics, yet not attracted to her in person, it's because her pics were fake, old or photo shopped, IOW an attempt to get me in the door with the hopes that I will act like the other lame johns and just "go through with it" because I was already there.

BTW, a woman doesn't have to be "old fat and ugly" for me to take a pass on her, any of the three is enough for me. As I say when south of the border "no Viejas, no Gordas, y no feas"

If someone I'm going to see isn't on P411 then I screen them through emailing past providers they've seen. If they're dangerous, rude, etc I can find out that way. Otherwise, the experience really isn't about me. It's about providing (ha!) an experience for someone else. Im my opinion, it's important for a professional provider to be able to adapt to a plethora of personalties, types, situations, and so forth continuing to be cordial throughout.  

If a provider isn't fun or interesting to be around beside fooling around.. Well I guess that's the difference between an professional escort and a prostitute? Just a theory.. :p

If I meet with someone, and I really hate being with them, I would go through with the date. As long as they're not overly aggressive, rude, or mean. Then, obviously I wouldn't see them again or vouch for them.  

There was one guy I had met with a couple times. I liked his personality and we got along really well. He was a bit aggressive though. The last time I saw him I told him multiple times what I didn't like. Of course he would stop and then eventually do someone else I didn't like. I finished the session, but next time he messaged me to meet up I told him we weren't a good fit and explained why. I almost left the session early, but it wasn't anything dangerous, mostly annoying.  

As long as your nice to me and be respectful everything is all good. All providers are different though. I actually enjoy what I do, some people don't

I have met a couple of guys that I was just not feeling it or them, something about their personalities just turned me off like if they are rude or too cocky and demanding,  if we are already in the middle of doing the deed, I'll just try to finish it up and get as far away from this human being as possible hahaha if we haven't started yet, I'll just not go thru with it. I've had many times when I just walk away but it wasn't necessarily because of chemistry, it was because they were so drunk and aggressive.. you should expect to not have chemistry with every single provider.

First if the reason I am not feeling it is there has been bad behavior on her part (bait and switch, rude behavior, being high, drunk or stoned, extreme tartiness, or the like) I don't feel I owe her shit and will not pay and just leave. I do not pay any bussiness for bad or deceptive business practices. I have done so more then once and if needed will do so again.

But it isn't always on the lady. Sometimes it is on me. I have booked appointments in advance and on the day of I just wasn't in the mood. Of course I paid for her time even though no one undressed, the fault was on me. Once I booked a date and her personality and mine clashed horribly. I couldn't bring myself to want to bed her. I paid and excused myself as politely as possible. Again she was willing, and her behavior wasn't bad, we just clashed personally so she was entitled to her cash.

I have a gift when it comes to creating chemistry with and for someone. I'm lucky that way, and that's probably why I love what I do.  

But I've also never had someone elect to leave early or want to get out of our engagement once we've met, so I flatter myself into thinking that maybe they think I'm good at what I do, too.

the first meeting didn't go well.. She looked like her pics and was pleasant and it wasn't a disaster but I didn't think she felt comfortable with me. Something was off.

Things changed on the 2nd and 3rd visit.