People :
If you know me .I'm a Chinese masseuse working in the Midwest who speaks Chinglish. I want share something happened tonight and you guys please tell me if i do the right thing.
Since I'm tall (5'10) athletic woman. I did not fit the stereotype of petite Asian . I very honest marking myself. In my website. I mentioned severed time I'm a tall woman and I lived in a small studio apartment. I make everything crystal clear , guys can decide they want come to me or not (You can go check my website )
I got a call tonight from an AZ number. He ask me if I will be avail around 11:30pm. I usually done at 10 pm but today i decide make a exception ( Bad choice ! girls, Please stick with your rules, Do not let you rule down for anyone ! ) for him.
As usual I always ask caller if they read my website and have any question. He said he did and everything is look all good for him.
At 11:30 he (He is short ,short,short guy about 5'6) show up and when he into my room ,He asked me if i'm a woman,because I'm super tall . LMAO !!!!! (Any of you who is reading my post now can go my website now,I've been doing my best job to explain how tall I'm in my personal website, and for God Sake ! I asked before he came if he read my website,He said he did .Now he is complaining I'm too tall !!!!!!! LMAO ! what can i say !!!!
I took up my dress and showed him my kitten.
then the next he asked me if he can cancel. I told him yes he can but there is a cancellation fee of $50.
He was hesitated and said he is not going to give me anything .
Well , I said in my website I clearly told people there is a cancellation fee ,if you want cancel the massage when you in my apartment ,because there is perpetration. I will asked for $50 for my time. when you set up an appointment that indicated you acknowledge and agreed.
He said in my website I said my apartment is nice ! but now he is not happy because of my apartment is too small for him LMAO !!! People please please go check my website i describe my room is small but neat..... but never use the word "Nice".
He said he read my website fully , but here we go : First he complained I'm too tall , now My apartment is not big enough for him, and then he is not willing to leave me a cancellation fee .even everything is on my website upfront !!!!!! .... LOl........ LOL
He said he just going to leave and not give me anything
I was upset. because I was honest marking myself.
I nicely explained to him I stayed up late till 11:30 pm and spent time prepaid to be ready for him and Everything is in my website well explained.
but he just unwilling to give me the $50 bucks.
I living in an apartment and I don't want make a big fuss about it. I don't want argue or have a fight . So I opened my door let this A$$hole go !
Peoples . Please give me some thoughts. Am I handled in the right way ?
Gaga said I need grow thick skin to be in this business. I guess I'm now !
(and possibly a $100 dumb-ass fee as well, but that's another debate.)
These situations are unavoidable if you do this long enough. You did your very best so shrug it off and look to the future.
The guy obviously did not read your website and started to clutch as straws. Apartment too small? What the hell does he care? Was he going to move his things in?
I love your posts and how you express yourself. I hope some day we meet.
If you are part of any screening website, put him on there as a time wasting douche-bag.
Thanks . Mr Fisher
I did reviewed him on the screening website let provider know.
I learned a new lesson today : ask a cancalltion fee only work with a gentleman. But if the guy is an a$sholw_ he is not going to leave me a cancellation fee.shurg off and sharks my head.
I like how you said it “ unavoidable.” In this business sometime asshole are unavoidable
and I honestly don't know what kind of advice to give you, short of making yourself 6 inches shorter and forty pounds smaller. lol
I have seen your website and by no means do you try to deceive anyone into thinking you are an Asian "spinner" or anything other than what you actually are.
Maybe you need to post a pic of yourself standing next to a "tiny girl" for context so it gets through the thick skulls of your prospective clients how tall you actually are? I really don't know, I am kind of grasping at straws here because to me at least, your pics make it very clear about your height and shape.
I don't know if Gemma is still around, I haven't seen her post lately, but maybe you could reach out to her for advice. She too is a very tall, rather big boned Asian provider and she seems to do just fine, maybe she could be of more help than the peanut gallery seeing how she has probably gone through much of what you have while the rest of us can only speculate.
BTW I am sure your apartment has NOTHING to do with any of this, it's just an excuse by some fucktard who was too lazy or too stupid to actually look at your pics before booking. As for the cancellation fee, yes you are entitled to it, but it's like a john trying to get his donation back after handing it over, unless you want to make a MAJOR scene over a relatively small amount of money, your chances of ever collecting are rather remote.
There is smart Gaga .
I’m going to have my new photo taken in next couple of weeks . I will use your tips
But when an idiot does not read or refuse to read , Iol is not my fault
I trust you and respect you .looking at you replied I’m confident I handled in the right way
As soon as they mention you’re too tall, fall to your knees in front of them and ask, is this better 😳
I'm sorry this happened to you. I think you handled it about as well as possible, under the circumstances.
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Worse: you block the door (5'10" versus 5'6"); yelling and screaming back and forth; "You can't leave until you give me the cancellation fee!" "Let me out! I'll call the cops!" Nothing good coming from those scenarios.
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Additional reasonable discussion: "I had to prepare. ... I stayed late, just for you. ..." still won't work on that guy. Just more wasted time.
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Better: "All right, already. Here's $50. Good night." but I didn't see that happening with the guy in your description.
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-10 (yelling, screaming, cops) ... -1 (no cancellation fee) ... +1 (cancelled, but fee) ... +10 (good session + tip).
The outcome (-1) wasn't good for you, that's for sure. But you avoided escalating the situation into something worse. A small pain (-1) instead of a big pain (-10).
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Another scenario tries to get to +5 or better. "You seem too nervous and uncertain. Do me a favor. Just hop up on the table. (Do you use a massage table or a mattress?) Keep your clothes on. No fee. Just see if you like it." Try to get him comfortable, get him to bite and then reel him in. After just a couple of minutes of massage, "How's that? Would you like to keep going? Does it feel good? If you want to keep going, then you can pay the fee. I'm sure you will enjoy the experience." ... An hour later, "Wow. I'm sorry I said those things. That was great! Can I come back tomorrow?"
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It is much easier to type such scenarios than to think of them and DO them, under pressure, in the moment!
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And I agree with the suggestion to get some pictures so guys can tell how tall you really are. Maybe even outdoor pictures against a US mail box (standard size) or parking meter and cars (but all different sizes). Standing next to standard objects: a kitchen table, a chair, a yard stick (or meter stick), ...
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Good luck!
You again . I love your reply
Totally agree and appreciated you confirm I did the right movement didn’t turn it to worse case.
A small pain instead of big pain +1
But I won’t waste my time trying to get him comfortable.once he made up he’s mind is unlikely to changed !
Posted By: MckenzieGold
But I won’t waste my time trying to get him comfortable.once he made up he’s mind is unlikely to changed !
In the case you described, it might have already gone too far. If you can sense it better in the future (well, let's hope it does not ever happen again!, but ...), maybe try that tactic earlier: "You're disappointed because I'm so tall? [Do not say, "What kind of idiot are you? Did you read my ad and look at the pics? What were you expecting, a tiny spinner which I say I am not? Stupid dumbass!"] Please. Hop up on the table. Clothes on. Face down. 5 minutes. No charge. I think you'll see that my height isn't a problem when you're lying down and you'll want to stay (for the fee, of course)."
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People have such a wide range of "salesmanship" skills. "She can sell snow to an Eskimo." or "He can sell water to a drowning man." I don't know if you can learn those skills. You have to have a really good sense of where you and the customer are and where you want you and the customer to be.
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I was going add "She can sell sex to a Catholic Priest." but that doesn't take much sales skill at all.
"She" might have very hard time selling sex to a Catholic Priest, but change the she to a "he" and then I would have agreed with you completely. lmao
Agree with you Gaga
Lmao too
Maybe it means she was pimping out her brother to the priest. In exchange for the contents of the Sunday collection plate. Same thing: not much sales skill needed either way.
Posted By: GaGambler
Re: Sorry Impy, but you are WAY off base here
"She" might have very hard time selling sex to a Catholic Priest, but change the she to a "he" and then I would have agreed with you completely. lmao
Sounds too complicated for me . I’m a simple person. I honest marking myself and attractive those people who likes me. For those who are not comfortable with my high. I rather they do not come to me in the first place.
If someone is hesitant, just try: "Turn around, let me massage your shoulders for you." Standing massage. That's simple. It could get, "Get your hands off of me!!! Let me out! Aaaahh!" or maybe, "Hmm, not bad. A little lower, to the left." Then you could say, "Lie down." Then, after 2 minutes, "Do you want to stay?" You could get, "That was nice, but I think I'd rather leave. Thank you." or "OK. You SOLD me on a massage!"
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Don't be a bad actress and try to do what you can't do. People can tell. Just try it if the right opportunity comes up and you feel comfortable offering 2-5 minutes of a preview massage. The guy is there but reluctant. Don't let the opportunity slip away.
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In your photos, your hair appears to be "easy maintenance." Just plain, straight hair and bangs. Wake up, shower, comb hair straight down in 1 minute: easy maintenance. Have you tried fancier hairdos? That could make you look a lot sexier. Sexier outfits, too! We can''t see your blurred face, but "glamor" makeup, even in a blurred pic, can change the way people see you. You can't change your height or your weight, but you can change your hair and your makeup and your outfits. (A beach volleyball outfit can be kind of sexy!)
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Many guys here know strippers / exotic dancers. In full work uniform, they are super sexy models! When they leave to go home, they are plain Janes.
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Below are two pics of Chelsea Clinton. She changed her hair and makeup and looks very different. Ask the guys on TER who they would rather see for a massage. (Same girl! Same massage! Different look!)
Posted By: MckenzieGold
Re: Disappointing but not worse than disappointing
Sounds too complicated for me . I’m a simple person. I honest marking myself and attractive those people who likes me. For those who are not comfortable with my high. I rather they do not come to me in the first place.
One step a time . I’m not good at changing guys mind if they don’t want my massage . It will save me much stress just let them go .
What I need is to make sure they read .......
Honestly just ask “do you checked my website? “ is not enough.
I’m going to ask a security question such as “ tell me how tall I’m? “ or “ What kind of pet I have in my apartment?” to verify they DO paid attention to my website fully and carefully
the photo on the right was taken AFTER she got her $700,000+ per year board seat on the Clinton foundation, so I don't think she even gives massages anymore.
but then again I have issues regarding hair.
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obvious that I just made up a number. It was a set-up for saying she doesn't have to give massages anymore. I guess it bombed if I have to explain it. LOL
5'10" really isn't that tall.
I do remember Debra Hollander (who is also tall) describing a client who she said had a head smaller than her left boob.
Did you ever consider that this business isn't right for you?
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Never ! 95% of my client loves me and I got very positive feedback
Running an asshole once a while who didn’t read is not my fault. I am not going to give up my business.
I take pride what I’m doing
Which is, that you're an asshat.
Did you ever consider that posting isn't right for you?
I’m going to link this to my TER post soon.
You can take a look and give me feedback
When an a$$hole don’t want read or only read what he wants to read .well . What can I do ?
Try using "Statuesque" to describe yourself. Or put it in front of your name or something. So like you're not just MackenzieGold but Statuesque MackenzieGold.
Hey . There . I’ve Post “statuesque” in my website title awhile ago .
When you enter my website this is the first word you will notice . Lol
Maybe they're expecting a Scottish masseuse.
Don't worry, you will see many guys who have several problems about what they want or not. There're time wasters who want to come to your place and see the lady and run away with excuses. If you're tall because you're tall, If you are short because you are short... Same thing with skinny, curvy, busty, red nails, curly hair, etc. He is a complicated person who doesn't know what he wants and consequently plays with the time and patience of others.
Just listen your internal alarm and you will see that you're alraight when something smeel weird or complicated. Is ok to ask for some money for the cancellation but, unfortunately some guys play with the situation and don't wanna pay doing scandal because they know that you don't need problems with the neighboors.
Sometimes is better let him go away fast and don't get more problems and wasting time. Collateral damages on this work.
you get the typical american tourist
There are plenty of other Ugly (fill in the blank) Nationalities out there. Here are just a few that come to mind: The fat Russian guy, dripping with over-the-top gold chains and jewelry, talking loudly in a quiet restaurant. The dreaded Chinese shopping mob searching for bargains in a Parisian shop (quelle horreur!). Deadly selfie-stick wielding Japanese tourists swarming around the priceless artifacts in world-class museums. And I'm sure others will add their "favorites." 
What you call those type of time wasters , Free Window shopping ?
Hahahahaha
Did you run into those type of loser often in Spain ?
So what you are saying is that you only run into a**holes 5% of the time? You lead a charmed life lady! Studies have shown the percentage of male a**holes in this country runs at around 40%. And in one particular city (that shall not be named), it is as high 80%!
Link to these "studies" you are referring to, or did these figures just get pulled out of your ass?
Mr. Lion (if that is your real name): I like the cut of your jib. It is healthy to be skeptical of claims like these in this day and age. Rest assured that these numbers were generated by highly qualified personnel, leaders in their field. Drafts were written and peer reviewed to ensure independence and accuracy. The data was subsequently published in a trade journal known for its scientific integrity. Or PEOPLE magazine, I honestly can’t recall.
According to Jordan Peterson, the US military considers people with IQs below 83 as essential untrainable and doesn't accept them. By statistics we know 10% of the US population have IQs below 83.
If there is a linear distribution of IQ across clients ( and providers for that matter) 1 in 10 is going to be pretty stupid.
(By the way, there are countries, mostly on an unnamed continent, where the national average IQ is below 80. Yikes.)
I bet you it isn't Asia. lmao
As for this country, I have been in a few backwards counties where even hoping to find someone with an IQ over 80 was just wishful thinking.
and speaking of blithering morons, what do you think the chances of our newest idiot "wesley" even having an IQ approaching room temperature would be? Maybe room temperature on the Celsius scale at best. LMFAO
GiGi! You pop your head through the door and prove my point! But you are absolutely correct about the room temperature thing, except the scale is KELVIN, not CELSIUS.
I don't mock actual low IQ people, most of them aren't bad people. They just aren't going to move the needle of human achievement. They'll likely be a net drain on society. Not their fault, of course. Unfortunately there is a correlation between low IQ and violence, so that too is a worry.
Posted By: GaGambler
Re: Oh come on Souls, don't be a politically correct pussy, go ahead and name it
I bet you it isn't Asia. lmao
The map below is not from maps.google.com .
As for this country, I have been in a few backwards counties where even hoping to find someone with an IQ over 80 was just wishful thinking.
The Will Rogers Phenomenon: "When the Okies left Oklahoma and moved to California, they raised the average intelligence level in both states." - Will Rogers
and speaking of blithering morons, what do you think the chances of our newest idiot "wesley" even having an IQ approaching room temperature would be? Maybe room temperature on the Celsius scale at best. LMFAO
