You have my permission! I baked you a Turkey too! -->

I'll bring the gravy!

Could be true.
About 3 years ago I called an agency to see a specific girl.  I was told she was not available but they had a new girl whom they were sure I would like.  When I got to her hotel and up to her room, she turned out to be the daughter of some very good friends of my wife and mine.  We were both rather shocked and sat down to talk. Ended up agreeing that, neither of us ever saw each other, that night. And NO I didn't do her.  She didn't live at home and was enrolled at a near by university.
Saw her at her folks once last year at a party and all was cool.

Jeez a little harsh seems to me.  You wouldn't ask if she's told your son or plans to tell him or if she plans on staying in the business (since it seems you wouldn't want a currently "working" woman like you involved with your son).  

I could see giving her a deadline to tell the son what work she's in.  The problem to me is not so much that she's in the business, but that the dad has tapped her, too.  If the son/provider relationship continues do they keep the dad/provider past relationship a secret? Would it forever be something each could hold over the other?  Could the son ever be comfortable knowing his dad had been with her even if he was OK with strangers?  Presumably even if dad and son could reconcile knowing about each other, what would they do about the mom/wife?