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Approaching the menu question
2724 90 Reviews 1508 reads
posted
1 / 22

I met a dom on X and we are arranging a foot session. Her tweets cover what it means to submit to dom, but she is vague on what services she provides and has no reviews anywhere and no website. I know she will allow foot worship at $450/hour but how do I ask in a respectful way if she has any other services on her menu?  While FS would be the ultimate, it would be nice to know if there are any other options on the menu (happy ending at minimum although DATY would be nice). Afraid if I broach this subject, it could be a dealbreaker for her. Also, do you think the price is right if it is just a foot session?

Thanks for your thoughts!

InspectorMorse 211 Reviews 55 reads
posted
2 / 22

Then that means that she has screened you to her satisfaction. So just go ahead and ask what else is available. If it’s a deal breaker, so what? You can somebody else.

It’s inappropriate to ask about services available when first contacting a provider because that could mean you are LE. But if she’s screened you and the appointment is scheduled, that indicates that she is satisfied that you are not LE.  So ask.

QueenBia See my TER Reviews 49 reads
posted
3 / 22

You do the session & hope for the best. If you ask it could be the end. Why not pick a reviewed Mistress?

mrfisher 115 Reviews 50 reads
posted
4 / 22

inquire on your local board if anyone has seen her and is willing to share information about her either on the board or by PM.

Hpygolky 232 Reviews 65 reads
posted
5 / 22

“ ask in a respectful way”
I had the same dilemma years ago with a Dom.I didn’t know the terminology in when a dom introduces herself as “Mistress” or “Madam”. I thought she was an escort with an odd intro.Met on P411, told her what I was looking for. I wasn’t into having my nipples twisted or my dick in some vice grip.
She explained what her service was. I thank her for her time. But I guess after seeing my 37 Okays from P411 she felt I was an “interesting” fellow so she saw me as a non dom. We had a great time,  
I guess what I’m getting at is.., just ask her.
Oh, and 450 is high for playing footies. Expect to fork out 1K if you get more, and that’s if she even considers it
buena suerte, hombre

LenaDuvall See my TER Reviews 90 reads
posted
6 / 22

Or if anything, exercise some restraint and humbly inquire at the end of your first session about what's possible if y'all were to get together again. Many providers find being asked about a "menu" off putting.  

 
Speaking for myself, I expect that whoever is serious about seeing me will invest the time to read about what experiences I offer. Taking criminalization and other risks into consideration, the booking process can be touchy or anxiety inducing. Whether through my ads, public responses to ISO posts, website, or social media profiles, I paint a picture of what I enjoy and what a suitor might reasonably expect.

 
Since the provider you're referring to is a Domme you've been corresponding with about a foot worship session, it's unreasonable and actually quite delusional to even entertain the idea of full service. Her being open to giving a hand job, a blow job, or receiving oral is also unlikely. In the future, based on the services you're seeking, it makes sense to look into a dominant kinky GFE companion.

Readytorock1 43 Reviews 63 reads
posted
7 / 22

450 an hour to sniff feet seems ridiculously high.  

Id look elsewhere for the fetish if i were you.

ClaireLaCrosse See my TER Reviews 60 reads
posted
8 / 22

Foot sessions rarely include anything else, with the possible exception of a foot job. And that’s a high rate for what shes likely offering in the absence of any verifiable credentials or website, etc.

It should be possible to find a reputable prodomme - or kinky/dominant escort is honestly what it sounds like you want.

GiaGenet See my TER Reviews 81 reads
posted
9 / 22

Agreed. There are many different types of Dominant providers, and while I don't agree with the stigma that says we don't do FS as a rule, Dommes who do are likely to incorporate it into their branding, whereas Dommes who don't will not. It is not reasonable to expect these types of activities with people who give no indication that they offer it.

hljockey 2 Reviews 63 reads
posted
10 / 22

In my experience most pro doms who don't also advertise escort services are pretty unambiguous about NOT allowing those types of services. Sometimes they don't however which always leaves me wondering if it's because they want you to think they might or maybe they will if they are so inclined.  

I have asked for clarification a couple of times in a polite and not overly suggestive way and found out the answer was yes. So make of that what you will. YMMV as they say.

hljockey 2 Reviews 66 reads
posted
11 / 22

I've also experienced this in the other direction, as in wondering if an escort who says something like "fetish friendly" would be amenable to my fetish.

Gets really confusing if she also says something like "tell me all of your secret fantasies". Don't know if she means to tell her when you first make contact or only when you meet in person. The latter could lead to great disappointment and the former to saying something you aren't supposed to say.

Readytorock1 43 Reviews 77 reads
posted
12 / 22

Ive found that you get what you want when you directly ask for it. Just ask. Worst she can do is say no.  

You are paying for someone to get naked and potentially eat your asshole.  The time to ask whats on the menu is not the time to get shy or worry about being judged.

ClaireLaCrosse See my TER Reviews 83 reads
posted
13 / 22

That’s a tough one! For me as a provider, I try to address that by describing myself as both fetish, friendly and open-minded, and also offering a 15 minute video consultation option (paid, but not expensive) that I specifically label as being to discuss fetish related inquiries or medical issues. I’ve found that to work really well.

Valida 17 Reviews 83 reads
posted
14 / 22

"Worst she can do is say no."
Unfortunately, that is far from the worst she can do.  
"Judging" is not the worst she can do, either.  
Some do worse with far less prompting, simply misinterpreting something you said.  
It's not common but it happens.

Readytorock1 43 Reviews 73 reads
posted
15 / 22

Then you simply move on.  

Its that easy.  

If i am paying i will find exactly what im looking for. Accept nothing less than what you want.

trimming 35 Reviews 71 reads
posted
16 / 22

Spoken like a true money hungry escort!
Of course you think it's ok to pay for services that you don't get.
Would you buy a car without know what features it came with?
🤦🏾‍♂️

SydneyB See my TER Reviews 77 reads
posted
17 / 22

Trimming - you’re wrong. A person has a right to offer her services to the price she wants and you have the right not to book with her.  
The previous poster is spot on that a) services are off limits discussion (unless both parties are naked in each others company) and b) if she doesn’t indicate she offers other services, don’t expect them.

WIMissScarlet See my TER Reviews 81 reads
posted
18 / 22

You can legally buy a car. You cannot legally pay an escort for her services.  
Do you also get pissy with your dealer when the snow you bought is cut with more baby laxative than to your liking?

trimming 35 Reviews 77 reads
posted
19 / 22

That's the rub. She hasn't offered her services yet because she won't tell you about them but expect you to blindly pay for something that may not be available.

Readytorock1 43 Reviews 72 reads
posted
20 / 22

Back when i was into blow i would have brought it back and asked for better product. And i would have gotten just that.  

Once again, super poor comparison.

Readytorock1 43 Reviews 80 reads
posted
21 / 22

When texting with a new potential gal yesterday, she sent over a detailed and rather explicit menu. I was both, somewhat shocked and intriqued.  

Ill be seeing her today for some great greek hopefully.  

I love it wjem the gals are being very business oriented like this and keep it real from the start.

holystonethedeck 104 Reviews 49 reads
posted
22 / 22

I just experienced the same thing. I asked about a specific date, time and duration. She texted back that it worked well for her and not only sent a list of rates and what she offers (and doesn't)  but also her address - rather large building I've been to before so I guess she figured there was no harm in me knowing the location in advance.

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