Also, I said only that I was baffled by her behavior, not that I wasn't disgusted, not that it wasn't terrible.
Sex with children present is seriously wrong, but it's not on the same order as rape. Exposing children to drugs is wrong too, but still not on the same order as molestation. Period. No, I wouldn't put a guy to death for indecent exposure to children. Child rape and child murder are about five orders of magnitude worse, can you understand that? Whether perpetrator is a man or woman, it makes no difference to me.
As for putting child molesters to death, (male or female) my actions if I were considering it on a jury would be completely different from the total rage I would feel at say catching somebody in the act, or hearing about it in my neighborhood. I would have to consider justice and the safety of the community on a jury. I would try to be disciplined and to think rationally about it then. But in a "hot" moment, would I really care why he does it? No.
You see, my rage is not justice; it doesn't grant justice. That's not the way that emotion functions. The brown recluse spider I find in the bathtub gets killed, the one I see on the sidewalk gets left alone. Just so, I wish there were a cure for pedophilia. Once a child is molested though, I really don't have a choice about being enraged.
Here I'll admit I don't feel the same total rage I would feel for a child molester-- because she didn't molest her children. Nor even what I would feel for abandonment, because she didn't abandon them, either, as many drug addled parents do. It's one of those areas where I feel emotionally baffled. It's offensive and disgusting enough, but I don't wish her death over it. Society agrees: She will be punished and/or rehabilitated. That was not only my opinion, but it's realistic. Still, it was drug-addled, perverted evil, but I don't stop my analysis at the conclusion that she's evil. I have to understand it further. It doesn't give me any respect for it, but it gets my curiosity.
Death penalty: I do assent to the death penalty for raping and murdering a child, no matter which gender perpetrates it. I don't see that as a matter of justice, but also of public safety.
Lastly, as for her having a choice, perhaps she had a choice before the drugs were in her body, but after the fact she's on the same playing field as a pedophile. Could she have foreseen before her binge that she would end up doing those things?