Hello:
I am a provider here with a number of good reviews.  I'm continuing to post under my alias.

The carnal part is great, but I see several ladies over and over because of the relationship we have created where we pleasure each other.

Without a doubt, I tend to be more of a number one gentleman. That is not to downplay the "carnal act" at all, but the connection, potential friendship and an ongoing relationship with a provider is something I crave in many cases, in addition to the specific acts in any given sexual encounter.  
Maybe it is due to me being old fashioned, but I never wanted to be a selfish lover, so when I made the change from civilian dating to a pay for play one, I brought the wanting to please my partner with me. Whether a woman is paid or not, I think pleasure can & should be a two way street, within reason of course.
My question for you though Jade, is what specific differences do you see between board posters and the people you meet? Thanking you in advance for your response, as I would find your take on that dichotomy quite fascinating!

We tend to simplify as sex or novelty but is much more complex.
Novelty and beauty are obviously big factors and drive a dopamine surge that gives us the massive pleasure (both anticipatory in the pursuit of an encounter and during the encounter itself).
But then what makes us happy/satisfied afterwards is the oxytocin release and that happens through the  personal connection, through feeling desired, having someone we desire desire us back (even if in fantasy). For the married ones of us we rescue the parts of ourselves that got lost over the years of progressive boredom and monotony and that can be cathartic.  So the escape, the transgression, the connection with another human being are as important (at least to me) as the sex itself.  
I've had experiences when I didn't connect and just sex and were meaningless until I found what works for me which is a mixture (sex and some personal connection). It took about a year and a couple of fails and finding amazing providers to learn to compartimentalize these emotions so it does not create a cognitive dissonance, free of shame or guilt and I am able to embrace it for what it is without further expectations and move in with your life in between these encounters. For me it's been life changing. Wish I didn't have to to hide it and could share this growth with my partner but not there yet; maybe some day

All depends on my mood and who I'm planning on seeing. Sometimes I want the ambiance of a seductive, romantic night where I want to establish a connection, and then there's the "I just want to get my freak on", then part ways with "I'll see you, when I see you" type of session... But I would lean towards number 1 but I wish I had a better answer for you.

I Enjoy Both .. Being Treatex As More Personal and As a Sex Toy 🍭

Well, I am a #1 type of gal.  
Buffetboy: in answer to your question, I have put up a few posts, seriously seeking opinions.
I've been told that I get the "Goofy Hooker of the Year" award.  I've been called "seriously deluded."
And after a few vehement posts, I received one with more variations on the personal pronoun than I knew existed: "Me, for ME, mine, MY, my sole pleasure," etc.

but your answer pretty much sums up how I feel as well.  

In My Gentlenen Hobbyists Encounters .. Experiences,  xoxo😚

........ number two. By the time she has sucked my cock,  I know if number one is in play.
I repeat when the full experience feels personal and I sense a chemistry, both physically and emotionally, that satisfies me fully.  

I'm GFE, but I get right to business.  
I LIKE it.  Then we talk and laugh in bed.

Some girls are so amazing I would love to run off with them...which would be a disaster I know.  Can't blame me for having the fantasy.

Smart move not posting under a name that could be traced back to you.

Your really not so nice ..all the time, and allways  calling us providers Hookers..Get a little class man🎅💋💋

Ms. Blue every new session I take the time to try to get to know the person,hoping she does the same by asking me questions about myself,looking me right in the eye.I enjoy the session a lot more when a great connection is made and hope she does also. I want her to have as good of a time as I do .When a session leans more to the carnal side of course a good time can still be had but I rarely repeat.When a great personal connection is made I will go out of my way to see them over and over again.  
I would like to know in your experiences if you think most of your repeat customers are there because of the personal connection.

Your A ok , no matter what name  you use..your question was a good one.. and got alot of nice fun opinions and ideas,  reponses.. you got to take The Good,  with the Bad, catch my drift... You Go Girl..Your The BEST...😚

Im with you.  JadeBlueAtergGlow  xoxo  from one provider to another 💃

Or don't deal with it, your choice.  

😚😚

I do want to establish an ongoing thing though. I'm not really the type of person who wants to have a massive string of one night stands because I feel like sex gets better as you become more familiar and comfortable with someone. I'd say when I'm booking a provider, sex is the only thing I'm really thinking about. I do want the provider to like me as a client though. I don't definitely wouldn't want to see someone who resents her clients. I generally want her to think, "He's a decent and courteous guy who wants this to go as pleasantly as possible."

You should probably check out SA (seeking arrangements.)   It can be longer term.

Sometimes I tend to go overboard.   Often that's a good thing, but other times, not so much.

I like taking and getting to know the ladies I see professionally in this hobby. I definitely want her time with me to be fun and enjoyable as possible. Yes I do want to please sexually her again if possible. (I picked her as I found her fuckible, but she pick to see me because I am safe, clean, respectful, and am willing to pay. She likely did not necessarily agree to fuck me because the thought of me in her makes her wet. I don't want anyone to feel pressured to have an "O" that just isn't going to happen.)  

I'm in Vegas, and the market here is unique - as I advertise outcall only I see very few locals, the majority of my clients are visiting from elsewhere.  I believe that most encounters start out somewhere between numbers 1 and 2.  There are driven by a desire to have that random sexual encounter, with no consideration for repeat visits, but still hopeful for a slightly deeper connection.  (Most of my bookings are longer than one hour.)
But ultimately many of these clients will repeat, sometimes on that same trip if they aren't leaving right away, otherwise on a future visit.  
So where many may not have been specifically looking for that connection and repeat visits, they do embrace it when they have that positive experience.  

Most of my repeats are, well....due to the quality of service....
....but that quality comes with genuine interaction.  I'm very serious.  

Both works for me too.

Thank you so much!

You are a doll, Sheila~!
Thank you so much.  

You don't sound selfish at all, Scoed!!
You sound wonderful.

It can be a delicate balance, Mr Fisher.
I understand. I am real and I have genuine feelings of affection for some who come to see me.
But I do have a busy personal life outside of the hobby.  I am always polite and sweet.  But yes, our emotions can run away with us at times.  That's when we step back a bit and cool off a bit.
And come together again when it's time.  

Somehow I doubt a lot of TER members are going to feel comfortable spending time with your pimp, regardless of what you want to call him.

Sex for pay isn't a huge ego stroker.  But sex is sex, so it is pleasurable absent a "connection."  Now here is the rub, it is good PR for a provider to fake "connections."  One of the reasons I don't repeat is that I may in fact become attached and she has a high probability of encouraging that so as to improve her income stream.

I must say, this has been an interesting and mostly pleasant thread!  

But not too personal. Even though I am just ultimately looking for sex when I hire a provider, at least having the whole connection on some level lends to a more enjoyable experience. Otherwise I would hire a provider for a half hour, and bang away in missionary position until I came. Also, providers are into more interesting things than the civilian girls.

Sex is important. But it’s always about more than sex
That’s why they’re great Providers.

oh yes!  Not to toot my own horn...but yes.  I hope that we providers are more interesting than civilians.  

Thank you STPhomer.
Those are my thoughts exactly.
What makes us stand out from the crowd?  There must be a certain charisma beyond the look, and a charm not found in regular life, along with pure heat in the smile and eyes.  Otherwise, why frequent us at all, ne ce'st pa?

enjoyable experience for BOTH of us. I enjoy pleasing as well as being pleased. Therefore, #1 is the winner for me.

I have to say that I don't ever have to hear from you again.

Who starts off with, "I know I'm a bitch...but".  No, it doesn't make it better. Just a self serving excuse to make you feel better about being an asshole. Glad you at least own it.  

This thread surprised the fuck out of me. All these E2 laden old farts like me on this board.
It just seems so wrong. We need some of the women hating pricks back.  
Kumbaya!  

"2.  The nature of this business is the carnal act, and your goal and desire is to have a woman for your sole pleasure?  You get enough of the whole "personal" thing with responsibilities in your regular life, and you come to a provider to relinquish all of that and take your pleasure out on her?"

I tend to go for the personal..perhaps too much but I enjoy getting to know someone vs. just the act..feels empty

Ditto..its much better if its more personal and mutually enjoyable

and yes to number two. I'll let others on the board state their desire for a meaningful (fantasy) relationship with a hooker.

I offer gfe and pse and I have a pretty equal group that is into each style. You may be right about responsibility, etc that may lead a guy to be into one or the other more but from what I've seen on boards and from talking with clients a more connected gfe seems to be preferred.