Im just curious about how many providers are in relationships, and if so what do your SO's think about your occupation?

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to respond to this highly personal question.  For many customers, its tough to embrace a Girlfriend experience even in P4P with a married woman.  Some of us would rather not know if we are to enjoy the time with our providers.  

Over the years I’ve seen several providers with spouses or SOs, including my long-time ATF and some other favs. It wasn’t a problem for their spouses/SOs so it wasn’t a problem for me, and it didn’t detract from my enjoyment.

Hello
Whether we're  dating or married..
Some of us are...
Some of us aren't ..
Very Personal topic..
Some of us will share
Some of us wont..

I don’t believe in serious dating while selling intimate services, if he loved you enough he wouldn’t let you do that to yourself. But that’s just me.

Is that really how you feel about what you do for a living? and do you really need a man to make you stop?

been a real-life boyfriend to several providers, I would think telling her she can't do whatever work she wants to do is a good way to get dumped.  At the same time, if she said she wanted to be a drug dealer insteaad, I would probably dump her.  Like you, I have no problem with sex workers doing their work.  I have explained before the agreement I have with sex-worker girlfriends about transactional sex NOT being considered cheating, for either one of us.  Sex work has nothing to do with love.  Most providers I have known can compartmentalize their lives well anyway so that sex work does not get in the way of love.

but I don't think anyone will be surprised after reading both your and Kiki's posts that you average almost a 9 for performance while Kiki's average score is 6.77. Go figure, right? lol

that she does not offer DFK and she only does CBJ, so unless she offers Greek or does doubles (which is unlikely with the other limitations on her menu), her max review score is a 7, so 6.77 is not bad, but most guys will just see the 6.77 and move on, so my analysis is probably academic anyway.  

Good work...Also the price difference should be noted. She may be priced right for what she does.
But you still fucked up by reliving that "city" thread from 2 years ago, WTF is wrong with you?
I'm gonna give you a "like"....treasure it.

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a "Like" from you.  Where should I send the check?  Treasure it.  Just don't try to cash it.  Lol

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Thank you Melissa

I'm completely comfy in my own skin. I would date a like minded man. I am not willing to stop providing for anyone though. I am willing to bend a bit.  

We're both married...and yes, to each other. (We've been asked that question, too.)

This means accepting what she chooses "to do that to herself" for a living. First it is just sex, not drugs, not anything harmful unless she is ashamed of it. Second true love is loving who she is now, not some fantasy thing you hope to change her into. A person's career is part of her whole. Not the only thing.

Never been married... asked more than a few times with gorgeous rings amazing homes, but just not the right person!  
As far as dating goes.... I have been asked this too...  
How do you date these days?  
I can’t do on line dating because I automatically want to screen the person 😂  
Plus they just want to get in my panties anyways.....
This modeling lifestyle is perfect for me! No strings attached! Cheers!  

I have heard that is a wonderful, lovely and aromatic place.

I love it!!!! 🥰
Ps. Maybe that why sometimes I don’t wear panties 🥰
Sometimes I just get straight to the xyz  

I see you are a young blood. Actually in my experience, most of the "older ones" are divorced.  I've never "done this" while married, but I know ladies who are married and it works for them And I don't think I'm an anomaly in this dept.  Haven't tried it in so many years I can't remember when.  

Not married, never have been, and doubt I will ever be. Not interested in men or love. Simple as that.

About 12 years ago I had a long talk with a big-time madame/booker in Miami who had a LOT of gals working for her. Used to throw GREAT parties btw. I asked her how many of her gals were married. She said about half. I then asked her how many of their husbands knew what they were doing and she said almost ALL of them. Some didn't care ; some were in an "open marriage" ; some were swingers and a few were being supported by their wives. In the years since I have played with several providers who were married and asked them if their hubbies knew. Most said "no" and a few said "yes".  
It's a big world out there with all types and sorts of folks.

Lesbians can get married these days.

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I dated a lady here a long time ago. She was cool. I had fun. She was generous but wanted me stop doing things but accept her for what she did and what she was doing.  

I should have sent her a bill for coinciding.

I never mentioned anything about being a lesbian. I actually like men, a lot but just don’t have the time, patience, and most of all desire to deal with all the headaches that come along with dating.

I used to tell all the gay people I knew "Be VERY careful what you ask for, because  you might just get it"  

So true.

Along with the "right" to get married often comes "pressure" to get married.  I have some gay friends that were happy to be "partners" but after it became legal, their SO pressured them into making it "legal."  Now they are miserable.  I'm sure there are exceptions, though, just like hetero marriage.  Not everyone is "miserable."   Lol

Wasn't it fucking nuts? But I dug her intent and I have to respect that. I mean, she meant well.  

Damn auto-correct.

Happily partnered on my end. Tried leaving the industry for a “typical” relationship but I missed the hell out of working. So we discussed it for a few months— yes, MONTHS— before I came back. Some parts are more difficult than others. He does not want an open relationship. He’s traditional. Not bad things!

Hobbyists,
Are you really trying to tell me you’ve had actual relationships with providers?  
Please define relationships.  
Is the majority of the time you date providers spent screwing?  
Or is your relationship consist of things like going out to eat, movies, theatre, park,  hanging out with your kids together and dinners at their parents.  
I have a strong feeling that hobbyists idea of “dating” means having sex with a sex worker and not have to pay for it which isn’t a relationship , it’s a casual fling aka f*cking.

it is inevitable that you will become part of each others' lives in some way beyond the simple sex for pay transaction.

If you can get sex for free, that fits my definition of a relationship.  The point being that the definition is subjective.  Of course not all relationships are the same, or even positive.  Ever hear of divorce?  
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Escorts are human too, so they are going to like some of their clients and hate some of their client and be ambivalent about some of their clients.  I imagine some aspects of escorting make for loneliness for some, so I wouldn't be surprised if they form friendships with clients who accept them as they are compared to the rejection of a lot of the rest of society.

Sometimes two people just "click" from the beginning and it doesn't really matter how you met.  I have had a number of real life relationships with providers, and as long a the playing field is level, her work does not become a problem for our relationship.  For me, its similar to an open marriage concept, but we limit the outside playing to transactional sex, her for her income, and me for the variety that most men like.  I pay, and she gets paid.  Anything else is cheating on the relationship.  

Just ask any divorce lawyer.

By your logic hookers never have "real relationships" only freebies with cheap johns.

Check out her podcast. There’s actually an entire episode devoted to this subject

...says "Why would I settle for just one husband, when I can have 20 or 30 of them?"