Ladies. Have you ever had a relationship with a normal guy not involved with the business while escorting with him knowing? How did that turn out? I've been with an escort for about 14 months now and we are starting to hit some Rocky roads. At first she said she would quit for me, then I could see her depressed because she did so because I love her I told her she can work. Our sex life diminished and we only have sex about once a week, and that is only when I am with her. I go on 4 month deployments every 4 months and she tours, so after all that time and finally we are together and it ain't fireworks anymore. We get into a lot of fights when I try to bring it up and she tells me I will never understand her life.I know her family and she knows mine, and wwhen I have had enough and walking out she stops me. She tells me she is a normal girl and this is a normal job, so I tell her why can't we have a normal relationship. I really love her but I'm afraid soon I am just in love with the fireworks we once had. Help me out women. Don't flame me men lol.

And "it ain't fireworks anymore" its time to leave.That sounds like an unhealthy relationship.I would move on

Or do you want free sex with a provider?

You are not just a whore monger, you are a "hobbyist" who writes reviews.  

You're already looking to take the next one "off the market" per your last encounter.

Dating a civvie guy is definitely a challenge. Most guys are not cut out for it. It's very demanding emotionally and a lot of guys eventually tap out. I don't blame them.

I wonder if his "Girlfriend" reads his reviews?  

Why do we fall for someone, then ask them to change for us, or allow them to want to change "for us"?

Too hard, the guilt trips and comments got to be too much. As much as we tried not to, it just came out. The small comments made me feel guilty before an appointment, or slutty and dirty when I came home.  

And I can tell you one thing for sure it takes true acceptance. From your post I can tell her work doesn't sit right with you. Most relationships have lulls and the fireworks become less explosive. This is with consent work to maintain the relationship. You admit to being gone months at a time. That is hard on any relationship. Between you being gone and the extra honestly and acceptance open relationships require it is little wonder things are rocky.

Having read your sad pathetic posts for a couple years now, it's crystal clear that you were hurt...really badly.

Is it her you are attached to or her work self? I have dated a client. It went well, but then he was neither trying to distance himself from his prior involvement in the hobby nor me from my continued one.  

Talk about nailing it on the head ... grand slam.
Having never seen you, maybe your just too hot
 to leave ... then I can't say that I'd blame him  
... as long as he leaves your career matters to you.

I am not sure why she quit providing if it was your request or hers or both mutual. I certainly would not tell my girl to stop and I am not going to stop. It sounds more like a real relationship to me. People fight and make exercising is alwasys good. Get over yourself and show her you care and love her not tell her. I bet your telling her not showing. I am sure things will work out either way. If not then next I say.

That was your first review in about 5 years. Unless that's your girlfriend, IMO you don't have a leg to stand on as far as her getting out of the biz "for you".

It takes a strong man to be in love with a prostitute. Recommend you deal with it or move on and never look back.

and date/marry the boring girls. It's called having your cake and eating it too. I thought they thaught this in BT.

for about an hour at a time.  
The sex is great (for me)
I pay them and they leave
A few of them are total sweethearts,
and it's easy to love them, but only for an hour.  
That's it.  
I don't confuse this (P4P) with romantic dating.  
They are two different things.  
I prefer this kind of dating because I'm
a selfish Bastard and I don't like to compromise.

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Doesn't he sound like a "keeper" himself?  

That's not the correct response to give. There's more to an exclusive relationship then sex(If that is the entire or part of the reason). So, many people forget that you have to connect on every level. Not just the sexual level. When you meet someone and you fall head over heels for that person. You need to stop using your dick or pussy to think with.

That's not love. That's a fucking joke.

Hi

If it was your average 9-5 it would be legal and socially acceptable. I have dated within the hobby. Factually, if you are truly attracted to a person, have great chemistry, share a like sense of humor, have lots of time together and keep in touch regularly it is impossible not to develop feelings. When the feelings come into play it changes everything. It is very hard and awesome at the same time. The key to success is communication and acceptance. It isn't easy to date a provider. It's equally as challenging to date a hobby enthusiast. You can try to block it out...GOOD LUCK! Your s.o. is intimate with others and that's a tough pill to swallow.

Excellent points.  
In my younger years I dated several strippers...owned a few topless bars...and then a couple escorts.  
Doesn't work for me as I just don't share well.  
Cannot see my love going out to sleep with other guys for money or just pleasure.  
Small minded on my part maybe but I tend to pedestal my woman.

Sex is sex and that doesn't bother me in the least. I am very open about having an open sexual relationship. I just need the dates to be one and done. When it comes to affairs of the heart I am territorial. If you want to go get your rocks off with strange have at it. If you want to play Rico suave and romance her with wine and roses NO. LOL Sorry, there has to be something that is only mine.

My last hooker GF used to offer dinner and overnight dates before we got together, I never once asked her to quit, but she did stop offering extended type dates and NEVER answered her hooker phone "after hours"  

But again he would have to as well. There's really no need for that anyway. You have a dinner companion and someone to lay awake next to you listening to you snore. lol I guess dating a pro is a sure fired way to find out if her insatiable desire for the all mighty dick is fact or fiction.

If you knew this couple, I think you'd change your opinion.

Those relationships never lasted too long, except for one, but we decided to be "friends' after a few sexless weekends. OTOH, I have dated several hookers, including the one I was just talking about, who always had "plenty of gas left in the tank for me"

Honest injun, a week prior to and after I see my atf I have no desire to bed other people. Fortunately, he is really far away and I can't see him as often as I would like. OTOH I have had civvie boyfriends who make me run to my next date. Lol I think with my atf it's the honesty and freeness of the relationship that makes me desire to be his. Of course he is hot, hung and licks pussy like a master.  

...you have 9 reviews, so you were in the life before you started your relationship...referring to yourself as normal whole holding her to a different standard is hypocritical...

i agree with basically everything that's been said. if she gets out of the biz, it better be cuz she wants to and not for you. otherwise she'll resent you. based on your review,  you're still in the hobby life so why can't she be? if that's too hard to manage, then that's fine... just be honest with each-other about it.  

I know of one very successful Sydney based high end escort who has been in a relationship with the same guy for years, who knows about, and is very supportive of her work and they seem very happy. I'm not sure how common that is though.
Over the years I've worked in this industry I've been in relationships on and off and not told a single one of them what my work is. It helps that I'm a Psych and so I still do that work as well. When I'm away or working everyone then presumes that's the work I'm doing and I keep it that way. I honestly don't know what it would be like to be with a guy who knew about this, let alone knew and didn't mind. I know it's weird but I think a guy knowing and not minding about me doing this I would end up not respecting very much! Human emotions are weird. While I kind of envy the Sydney lady I also wonder exactly how much her man benefits financially from their relationship, or whether he's just not that bothered about her?

It is common missconception  of  some inexperienced couples that family life and  relationships should be always "fireworks"
 
Develop more then just sex relationships.

so please accept my advance apology if it sound stupid or been repeated several times and other things.....

By the OP's words, I agree, he and his "relationship" is a fucking joke. A bad joke perhaps, but a joke none the less.

In my case, my ATF is currently living with me having moved in about three months ago.  One caveat though is that she is "retired".  I'm not convinced that she will never work again, but for now, she's out of the industry.  She lived and worked in another city/state but was ready to make a change and do something different.  I can tell you that it isn't all fireworks and sex all the time.  So if that is what you are expecting, you will be sadly disappointed.  Regardless of what escorts may tell you, they are providing a service and working to provide a fantasy and an escape for you as the client.  She may very well do things in her "work environment" that she doesn't really like to do in her personal life.  Be prepared for that.  I've never dated an escort or former escort in my real life, so it has taken awhile to get adjusted.  And the ironic thing is that while I cheated with escorts  on my ex-wife years ago (which lead to my divorce) as well as the other girlfriends I've had since, I'm committed to not doing so with this person.  We've talked about her past and my past and we are both on the same page with respect to this being exclusive.  In fact, we have both shared that being with someone who has been involved in the industry is probably our best chance for a "normal" relationship given that most civilians could not grasp or accept our past history (especially the volume of people we have seen).  So, proceed with caution and with your eyes wide open and know that it will likely be unlike any other relationship you have had in the past.

And I want to know about her day. If she has a good day I want to celebrate it with her. If she had a bad day I want to hold her and give her the break she needs. She is my woman and I am her man. The fact we both fuck others doesn't change that.