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This hobbyist often ends up in the TMI situation
CourageousCat 261 reads
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I always end up knowing real names of my regular providers, and often end up knowing waaaaay too much else, as well.  Real names, addresses, past IRL relationships (theirs, not mine), past probs with booze or drugs, stuff about current SOs.

I'm afraid I suffer from the same mindset as some of the others:  Can't help but be jealous of the bf at home who's getting the same thing that I'm paying for.  Knowing how much money some of my regs make, they just have to be making more than the bf; the old stereotype kicks in--if she's making this much, and he's not working while "trying to get funding" for some new social network or some bullshit like that, I immediately think "he's a loser" and "why does she need him when I could give her everything she wants?"

I'm about to have another "first" in the hobby.  I may end up at an industry conference where one of my ATFs will be one of my fellow conferees.  Do you think I'm not going to be checking him out, trying to see what she sees in him?  I hope to hell I figure it out--if I don't, it's gonna drive me nuckin' futs...

no_email1857 reads

Why do clients sometimes disaprove of sexworker's significant other's lifestyle?

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London Rayne582 reads

and getting it for free. I would never date whilst providing...I can't fathom having to fk on demand and then have to worry about how sore I am going to be if I screw my boyfriend one too many times that week, nor could I handle that emotionally, but some do.  

I think too many times guys assume any man that would have a girlfriend doing this is just either fked in the head or a lazy bum, so that might be why. They can't believe that a normal relationship (them both working and getting along) could be sustained for a long period of time with her in this business.  



-- Modified on 11/9/2013 10:24:51 AM

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Posted By: London Rayne

   
 I think too many times guys assume any man that would have a girlfriend doing this is just either fked in the head or a lazy bum, so that might be why. They can't believe that a normal relationship (them both working and getting along) could be sustained for a long period of time with her in this business.  
-- Modified on 11/9/2013 10:24:51 AM
I'm sure you're right, London. (If you're not always right, you're at least in the ballpark).  

I would have to think, though, that it would take a certain type of guy to be married to a provider. One who wouldn't feel jealous about his SO having sex with other guys (which rules out probably 95%+ of all guys), and who's confident about his own sexuality

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anonymousfun463 reads

The blood sucking parasite is able to provide a decent living, she wouldn’t need to escort; would she? These losers want her to do it so they can live off of her.

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OhCharlie372 reads

And neither do most women. It's not a case of a man not providing well enough for us, its the fact that we want to be independent and in charge of our own lives. Just like any other working person.

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no_email452 reads

and prefer to believe that the woman is not attached. I agree with your second point as well.

 
Given the law of physics. There must be some clients out there who like the idea of being "socially superior" to the SW SO

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anonymousfun388 reads

Dead beat blood sucking parasite worse than bed bug.

Exactly. My question is why do women do it

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OSP475 reads

I know a hooker who quit because her BF would'nt marry a hooker lol. The clients went batshit at the SO's magnetism.

Call it what you want :D

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no_email568 reads

I guess it all depends on what one wants.

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macdaddy1944489 reads

as long as he isnt a crackhead..it never bothered me..

Posted By: bigvern
Why do clients sometimes disaprove of sexworker's significant other's lifestyle?

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no_email399 reads

Was factored into the selection process. What the customer deems as an undesirable trait. Could influence if they decide to patronize the lady's services, as who you keep as a SO, is a reflection of who you are.

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no_email355 reads

That does not mean you can't spin a record.

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QueenBia468 reads

Judging is not my job, but I do not condone human trafficking, pimping, or any other negative sex worker life-style.

This is a public forum, so feel free to post I do & opinions are like … every1 has 1!

Smile 4 me & enjoy TER!

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no_email516 reads

...and like you said, every one has a limit to what they believe to be acceptable behavior.

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mrfisher566 reads

On which planet is that?

8o)

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inicky46344 reads

I think it's on Tralfamadore.  Of course, they also communicate there by farts and tap-dancing.   You could ask Kilgore Trout.  But I'm sure you knew that.

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Arovet477 reads

Anyone who gives even a moment's thought to a provider's personal life, even if brought up by the provider, needs to sit down and think hard about why they hobby....you're not dating.  A provider's personal life is none of a hobbyist's business, and vice versa.  Provdiers, don't bring it up...hobbyists, don't ask!  Problem solved,

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OhCharlie437 reads

It's definitely not what you "have to pay for".  

Those SO's get the PMS, the depression, the drinking problems, the whiney kids, the sweatpants and no makeup, the screaming at you because her mom is being a bitch and it doesn't matter if it makes sense... They get the stress about past due bills, and if they know, the stress of knowing that their wife or gf doesn't know where her next paycheck is coming from or when.  They get nights alone while she is on the road, or doing an overnight with someone else.

What they don't get is full hair and makeup, sex whenever and however they want, and they sure as heck aren't getting skimpy little outfits and threesomes every night of the week.  Truth be told, the majority of them don't even know, and will never even get to mooch to his hearts content, the way everyone seems to think they do.  

The SO's of escorts are getting the same end of the stick that you are when you're at home. Just like you, they've found a person that they connect with, and all the "deal breakers" are worth it to be with her. Truthfully, you guys are getting what the SO's don't, so why let it bother you?

We don't sit here and think to ourselves "you know, that wife of his just sits on her ass all day doing nothing and all he does is support her!" We know better than that, and so do you.

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