Would you let your ATF know ure planning on stopping, or would you just go cold turkey on her and never contact her again?  
What are the most common reasons in your opinion that would be an automatic trigger to stop hobbying?

I have two ATFs and they happen to know each other very well.  They are already aware that I will be moving on shortly.

1. Heart attack.  
2. Bankruptcy.  
3. Wife eruption.  
4. STD
5. Crisis of conscience.  

My intentions are I am done with the hobby not with the boards as I find the boards therapeutic through writing. Even when I wasn't hobbying I was on the boards. I have only had one session in the last ten weeks. My P4 account was shut down off all the other sites were cancelled.  I told my main provider as far as I'm concerned I'm done but she knew I hit a cross roads with this and that I want more out of life. I'm seeing N Grey when she gets to NY in June and Lauren Avery as they both sparked my interest. I have no intentions of reaching out to anyone else. I will also book with Pollie because she just seemed like someone I need to meet but it all comes down to timing the money is there when I'm ready. You can never say never with anything in life. Of course I talked to the people in this world that I have some sort of relationship with. The trigger with me was wanting to know if paying for sex was going to fix my issues of loss and denial about my reality. It didn't however the therapist and everyone around me sees the progress I have made in the last ten months. I have been working on me and finding my happy place it's not in this altered world but it's a day by day thing with me. I still wear my heart on my sleeve but for the first time in awhile life is good again.  

or something to go on , to let her know you're backing out of the game.
I hate thinking someone is dead.

How I would let her know is the question.  Opinion poll:  Which of the following would be the best way to let her know?

... I've retired... and returned.  Twice.  Each time, I let my ATF know.  And I stayed in contact with her during my "retirements" because she's also a friend.  

You say "I am done with the hobby" but you plan to see two or three women in the coming weeks.  And after that, who knows.  That's got to be the oddest version of retirement I've ever heard of.  But you've made "progress," so I guess it's AOK.
PS: You'll love Pollie.

If I had a single ATF - meaning someone I see on a regular (monthly/weekly) basis - I probably would not just call her and tell her that I am done.  I would cancel the date if I had one set up.  In that case, I would probably tell her I was taking a break - and that I would call her at some point to reschedule - but that it might be a while.  This is theoretical since I don't have such an arrangement.

Very easy to handle.  When I stopped shopping at Nordstroms and moved my business to Bloomingdales I sent Nordstroms a very nice gift card thanking them for providing such a great service for many years and wishing them the best.  Did the same when I dumped United for American.

This is a trick question.

Let's assume that I had a ATF, to me that would mean I had a regular relationship. So if I was planning on ending it, I would let her know. The only exception would be if I was incapacitated and incapable of doing so.  

lol
he retired once from the hobby  

Do you like ribs that really aren't ribs?  Is pollie really Donald?

Oh fuck it! Who am I kidding?  

If they aren't in NY until June 13th how can I see them? It's not like i am going out looking for people to see. I know the two or three people left to be seen. Pollie will be seen by the end of the month. I have been busy dealing with my sisters wedding and getting everything ready for Memorial Weekend Pool Party. I was seeing three girls a week when I started. Glad you are so worried about me Mr State Farm. Enjoy your day.

No I like Smash Burger.  

Yes because I know you will ask Rox is doing a 2nd family wedding with me.

share with me their thoughts and reasons for no longer partaking. However, I am still seeing one of them quite regularly. The other two aren't local and still remain excellent friends of mine. As a woman's take here, it's the only right thing to do as a gentleman. Those who seemingly "disappear" but you hear they actually didn't leave this world but were just lying I personally have zero tolerance for. And yes, it happens and is probably the most cowardly move here. Just because your a "hobbyist" doesn't give you the right to act like an asshat. Just sayin'

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Makes me wonder why you put up the post.  Just felt like sharing, I guess?

She's a hot-as-hell gal from the NYC area who is the best Greek Isles tour guide I've ever met.
The McRibs thing is an in joke.  I can't give away why some may feel it's funny.  At least not in public.

And I really wish you hadn't reminded me of what a complete dope you are.

to answer your first question. To me, letting someone know I am quitting would be a matter of courtesy and not one of necessity. Everyone will have a different idea of proper courtesy and courtesy may vary depending upon the nature of the relationship between friends.

no point having last encounters, sending out farewell notes etc...just like ripping a bandage and throwing it in the garbage, I will be rip my burner phones, emails, website logins etc and then walk away in the sunset...

It will take huge courage and mental resolution for someone to stop pay for play behavior. They do not owe anyone they are paying to fuck any reasons or farewell notes. If they do, good for them, if not, good for them - its their choice.  

But at the end of the day we are all still human beings. On both sides. Neither of us are fuck bots. So do just that...treat each other as a human being. Doesn't seem like a complicated concept to me. The problem I have is that some here believe that because of the nature of the business it absolves this kind of behavior...when frankly it just doesn't.  

Just ask him the last time he had a date lol


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People are more willing to part with their Benjamin's than they are with common courtesy and respect.
 At the end of the day those that have shown courtesy and respect are the richer souls!

If I got into a serious relationship with a civie, I would quit the hobby (unless she was cool with it). But I'd be back if we ever broke up.

If so, you are the only one.

Jake. It's only an expression. And on a fuck board nonetheless. You really need to find more to do with your time instead of wasting it on here day in and day out. Don't you see you're life passing you by?

and that's a scary concept in and of itself, isn't it?

As for life passing anyone by, what are you doing here on such a lovely evening?  No dates?

Unfortunately it has become pervasive in all areas of today's society. Demographics do not apply.

Not all of us can be as wise as those who speak the words on here day in day out.  

Even expensive Merlot is kind of a cliche.  I recommend Vodka.  Try Sobieski.  It's not expensive and is really quite good.  As for Zak, he's beyond hope.

You need new glasses.
And it was a great day.

know that I could no longer see her because of whatever reason.  Currently I see my favorite every week and have no plans of stopping.  If it came to where I had to stop seeing her, I would never do an unprofessional act of going cold turkey.

a large number of people think money trumps all sorts of other behaviors and social lubricants (no pun intended, i mean things like courtesy and smiles and positive attitudes; things that get you through social interactions easier than a snarl or snark or curse word).

And, yes, your imaginary picture is NOT optimal. It sounds more like a John Waters film.
Start drinking now. Heavily.
Zak is just a tool.

when you don't have any to begin with. Common courtesy, like common sense, isn't all that common. Don't start me on respect.

if you're on US60 between Phoenix and Las Angeles and you're at the Kofa Café, you're beyond Hope. Unfortunately the sign that apprises you of that fact says "Your now beyond Hope"

would I stop paying hookers to fuck me? What is YOUR insight?

Cancer or some other terminal illness I would let her in on how much time I might have left. But if I just drop dead unexpectedly, I don't see how I could give advance warning. Either way, I'm not getting out while I'm still breathing.

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I would advise those ladies I see on an ongoing basis, privately, as common courtesy requires.  I would not state it publicly, though...just fade away.

preoccupied with my existence here lol

Then what in pray tell are you?

I develop true friendships with my ATFs...the gents who really do come to spend time with me very regularly.  It is painful when they just disappear...I worry about them and wonder if they have had an emergency in their life medically or personally.  I know there are boundaries.  The boundaries are healthy and should be respected, but I appreciate the men/couples who have the class and emotional depth to say good bye whether that is for now or forever.  I have had wonderful hello sessions...and profound good bye ones too.  Maturity is and always will be sexy!!!

That was sarcasm. What next? "I know you are but what am I?"  LOL!  And this from a woman north of 50.

It won't be long now.....
I wonder what her next handle will be?

Finally some sense after a gazillion posts...

I am sure "junior" has one of his own to share with us.

Sometimes, he does both at the same time, but in this case he made perfect sense without being a dick about it.

Coming from a man north of 70

I am young, handsome and well dressed

GaGambler sometimes calls Zak scoed JR for what ever reason. I too am semi retired.

I can bring in loads of courtesy and respect in a parcel as well, any takers? I will even bring you flowers and Chinese takeout...I will call and let you know that I am available anytime you would like to have more courtesy and respect in exchange for bbbj...

ut it is what it is. Some on this board haven't had a new thought in a while. Others like GaGambler seems preoccupied  with things I have shared. There posts provide little new content and are nothing but attack posts using the same redundant attacks that may have been funny when first used month if now years ago but have grown stale with time. Sad really but let us pretend they are still funny. I think it is all they have to look forward to. After all GaGambler's whole like appears to be on this board, posting on every thread almost doubling the next highest poster. Add to that he is in the top posters on many other boards well it is plain this is his life. Let him think he is still funny and relevant. He needs it. Still if one must post like a mad man and be an asshole in the majority of ones posts, one should at least try to come up with something new every once in a while.

I don't owe any other business owner any kind of explanation when moving on, why should I owe all the hookers I see an explanation if I choose not to see them when doing the same?

I only hobby when I travel, so I can be quite infrequent.   After an extended gap, my CF (current favorite, as I don't really believe in the ATF concept) sent me a text wondering how I was doing.  The next time we met, the subject came up, and she mentioned that in 'this world', that if something bad happens, then she never gets to know and is left wondering.  I could tell that this bothered her.  

That's sweet

Death is the first reason to come to mind.

Or even fun.  Honestly, I don't think you have any idea what fun, or funny, is.  Sorry.

So I am open to the truth of the statement. At least I realize my humor fails to translate to posts well, and have given it up.

It's the fact that you are not only "unfunny" yourself, but that you constantly have to piss on the parades of others. There can be a dozen of us laughing, joking, just generally having a good time in our usual politically incorrect way, and then here comes Scoed with a giant bucket of cold water to throw on us.

Wondering if I should just lie down for awhile until that feeling goes away.

In this post I only posted to clarify Jakes post given I haven't posted about McRibs in years. Most posters forget years old posts. Fact is I no longer even eat fast food and haven't had a McRib in years. I haven't eaten at McDonald's in over a year. But I don't mind Jake in the least.  

You don't laugh at all, quite frankly you suck all the joy out of the room by making people feel bad about making a joke. The only joy you bring to a room is by leaving it. Someone once asked if you had your sense of humor surgically removed, I am of the opinion you were simply born without a sense of humor in the first place.

So maybe I wasn't born with that sick harmful sense of humor like you. Thank god. I may very well may suck the joy out of the room from to bit bullies like you. Good. I at least don't do so at the expense of others unlike some well besides small minded bullies that is. And if I make someone feel bad because of a joke, odds are the joke is hurting someone else. True I don't tolerate bullies easily. Which by the way is a good thing. Small minds see humor in the misery of others.

We are on a fuck board, guys are going to talk that way, just like they do in a locker room only this is a coed locker room. You are the one guy out of thousands who would take not only take offense, but jump right in the middle of a dozen different guys (and girls), most of them you call friends and start berating them over joking about being raped by a hot chick. THAT is what I call sucking the joy out of a room, even your good friends were left shaking their heads over that one.

is just because you pay us  doesn't mean we don't like you. I will speak for myself actually because I am quite sure there are ladies who are heartless.  There is even one guy that I see who I like a whole lot.  But, factually he's not mine to keep so the monetary arrangement stands.  That is the only reason it stands. Not all of us have a revolving door. Not all of us are heartless bitches. You can't know what we are thinking.  I personally think you're a dick  but I often even say that with a little bit of love attached to it and I don't even know you. Maybe it's me because I've been in this for so long but I genuinely gaf about my regular friends.

I bet you half of my actual "friends" are hookers,  not just hookers I pay to fuck, but simply friends I have made over the years, many of them right here on TER. and you're damn right I would tell them if I were going to make an exit.

If it is willing it isn't rape period. If it isn't consensual losing power over one own body is extremely damaging regardless of sex. Look it up if you don't believe me. Looks has nothing to do with it. And if you don't think throwing my rape at me when I didn't even bring it up isn't bullying you are amazingly ignorant.

Thank you for proving my point beyond a shadow of a doubt.  

You're right  and I wouldn't even care to know

So no it was not a joke. It was a crime. Both the cops, and the DA agreed as felony charges was filed on at least one perp, and the other had a warrant for her arrest. So sexual battery is a joke? That sir is sick. A man's right to his body was literally violated and it was a joke. You sir prove my point.  

You pull this kind of crap anytime the cool kids are snapping towels at each other.

But you have also attacked people 1000-1 over me. In fact you out post me 300-1. You attack far more than you help by a huge margin. But if we compare percentages far higher percentage of my posts are an attempt to help. I have a life and can't compare to the raw volume of redundant blather put out by you.  

Ask yourself an honest question, how often do I seem genuinely unhappy or angry? Now ask yourself the same question regarding yourself?