Today my wife told me she would probably leave me if she finds out  
I'm cheating on her ....... ( actually it would not be a bad thing

you mean living two lives.

Don't ever come home with any different scent

To getting caught . Been seeing same lady almost 5 years . Only lady I see now. We built a awesome trust . She actually tells me things I shouldn't  say or text . Man you just gotta be cool!

1) I use a separate email to hobby from
This may be a rule of thumb for some, and not for others.
The S/O doesn't use my laptop, but it's still a good idea to keep accounts that are used for hobbying non-accessible.
Always clear your internet history-unless the wifey is some sort of IT guru you shouldn't go wrong with making this a strict ritual.

A good way to kill unwanted scents is to overpower them with another.  Make sure to get gas on the way home and a bit gets on your hand.  Double bonus, your wife won't want some dirty hands on her that smell like gas.

All these guys saying they've gotten away with it, I don't believe them. Their wives know, they've just chosen to ignore it or live with it.  While you're worried about getting caught, my guess is your wife is probably cheating on you, too.

There are all the same cues.  Getting in shape, dressing better, not making time for the wife.
Ultimately, the paper trail can get you caught.  That includes emails, charge cards, bank records.  Honestly if someone wants to find you out there's really almost no way to avoid it.  Toll roads, parking garages, hotel lobbies cams.  Hell we are being recorded in all we do.  Sounds grim, but most do this without being "caught" if they don't want to be.  Give no one the reason to look. !therefore don't change a thing from your normal routine.   Lastly, never give anyone your real info. If that is what they need , red flag and see someone else.  Act poor, never tell about your personal life, I'm a used car salesman from Kansas :-/.  Ultimately being on these sites could track you down if they needed to!  It's a risk, always have a plan B. You probably wouldn't be doing this if you couldn't accept a divorce.  
10 years and counting for this car salesman.,,and that's the second time in.
See there's a piece of info you learned about me
Merry Christmas you filthy animals

...most cheaters who get caught are either lazy or clueless, and even most of us who are diligent about covering our tracks can get complacent after being successful for a long time. The key is to NOT become complacent.

..and that's reviews not instances. At that rate your chances of NOT getting caught are very poor unless your wife is blind, deaf and dumb.

I know the rules and use those same rules with clients that I did with my former married lovers. I do not wear anything scented and no heavy makeup even though I love scented lotions and perfumes. I do not even put on lotion to un-ash my skin after bathing lol. No glittery stuff and he always washes his friend before returning home. I have heard stories of women demanding to smell their husbands downstairs when he comes home. I make sure that he properly washes out his mouth (ahem) and give him a mint. You always wash away the evidence. I had one guy that we had fantastic connection with and one time I kissed and licked him from his face to his knees. Afterwards he took a shower lol. He just needed to make sure his wife would not suspect anything even though I had no lipstick on or anything scented. Maybe he thought his wife would smell my lust all over him? I don't know. No scratches or love bites or any kind of bites! Tie the hair up so she doesn't go home to his blond wife with a long brown hair on his chest hair lol. Besides, hair can get in the way of certain fun I like to have.  

In my case, that was the oven.

I would rather get it a home but I don't, so I see escorts.  

No shit....with 63 reviews alone, who knows how many total dates this guy has had. I think there are other things for him to think about or be concerned about. This hobby can be addicting and will take its toll. Hope you are not funding it with loans, credit cards, or 401k withdrawals. None of my business really, and you could be making six or seven figures, again none of my business, but step back and evaluate. Is your wife finding out your worst problem or something else?

With all the burner apps out there? Why give her something else to find? Download an app, set up another number and keep that ONE phone secure at ALL times. There's less than zero reason why my SO would need to get into my phone. Unless I'm dead.

don't get sex at home. I did have a client start to shave his balls and when I asked wouldn't his wife notice, he said she doesn't even look at that! I hear this time and time again. I had one that his wife just up and moved out of the bedroom into a spare bedroom when his oldest child was 11. That child now gave him a second grandchild. She is 29 so nearly 20 years of no sex. They don't get any heat save maybe what their hands can provide. I would think that taking care of the wife is no longer on the menu for many of these guys in this hobby

I have a  Secret stash of money that my wife has no idea about so I always pay cash so there's no receipt trails  

Smells just like dirt and grass. Solid cover smell imo. 💋   (Pm me if you want the story)

All the apps are traceable to your real phone and identity. LE or even a good PI could find it if they ever had a reason to.  
     Also app notifications and previews can be a huge problem if mis-set.  It's a risk I personally won't take but to each their own. My hobby phone I keep in a junk drawer of old phones and iPods etc. At times right in the open is the best way to hide something. But everyone needs to know what will work for them.  
       

I have a separate laptop. That I've trained myself to shut the browser off every time I walk away from it. It clears the history upon doing so. Once she used my laptop. I bought her one shortly there after. I have a hobby email. I use protonmail. I don't use protonmail for anything else. There is no chance that I'll mix accounts. If it's open it's for hobby stuff.

Women always know when their husbands cheat, if they don't say nothing that means that don't care, but they know.

Posted By: statson1234

Today my wife told me she would probably leave me if she finds out  
 I'm cheating on her ....... ( actually it would not be a bad thing  
   
 My question is my fellow cheaters ,  
 What are some ways you were able to fly under the radar ?  
 Have you got cought , how long were you able to keep the hobby going ?  
 Give me some tips and pointers .  
 Ladies please give me some feedback from ladies perspective ,  
 How I can keep on doing this for many many years without getting cought.  
   
 Also please share some stories of how you did get cought.  
   
 

I got bigger issues. A second phone? Anywhere? My SO is all over that shit. As for LE tracing me via burner apps if they've got the time, so be it. I'll accept that risk. Points taken however.

Perfume has been the only thing that raised the SO's radar.

I read a thread like this and I thank the universe I'm not married--no way do I want this shackle around my neck!! Give me freedom today, tomorrow, and forever!!

Been married for 17.5 years, hobbied for at least the last 12.  Was a monger before marriage too (was always socially awkward and had a hard time getting girls ti see me as more than a friend).  Still a horny hetero male, so I turned to escorts.  Anyways...
Rule #1
Money:  never make large withdrawals just for seeing a provider.  Instead, accumulate your play money slowly over time.  (Tack on 20 or 30%) to what you would normally spend in a week and this way it doesnt throw up red flags on a bank statement (if she looks at it at all).  Tuck the extra cash away and when it is time to party follow rule #2)

I recently met an escort at a hotel room reserved for smokers. That stuff gets into your clothes quickly. I think it eminates from the walls and carpet. I had to go home for lunch. I thought I was sunk. But it didn't get noticed.

My Man, you have 99 registered, accepted and posted reviews and your first one wasn't until May of 2015. That means in roughly 79 weeks you have found a way to see 99 women other than your wife. I know I do not review every extra curricular event I sponsor but maybe you do.

Without confronting it - after all, if she confronts it now without any evidence, she has to deal with a cluster fuck of "Honey, you are wrong - how dare you accuse me of such a thing?" but she knows. And she wants you to know that she is not stupid. Women don't like to be the fool, and most of the time they aren't - but the conveniences of life without that happening are very strong components in keeping people from reacting on first instinct. There's a lot to lose.

One of my married lovers kept my name under a guy's name! Now I had never thought of that but that's what he did and any and all texts between us were deleted before he got home. This one, his wife had him on a short leash but we still managed to get together a few days a week and he always had the right kind of soap and mouth wash.  

I hate to say it but your are correct.

I agree C.O. this Dude is already busted. If this story is true his wife said what she said to gauge his reaction, but you are right she probably already knows.

Courtney's right. Her subject line say it all. You're wife will suspect before you think she suspects.  

I used "Hushed" for hobbying purposes.  

Hahaha

Its never too late to learn more tricks my friend
My wife does not drive so this definatly helps me  
Plus applications such as spoof calling is super handy

1. My hobbying trips that range from 4 hours to several days are covered by the fact that I do endurance athletic events, local and in other cities, that the whole day. Keeps me in great shape (well, relatively speaking at least), and at the start/end of such an event there is time for other activities. Sometimes, the "travel" to the event is entirely for another type of event, but that's only 10% of the time, because it's the real activity that makes things look legit.

but it makes that skin so silky, and lasts a long time. You can get pure jojoba oil at Vitamin World, and I'm sure trader joe's too. It is said to be the closest oil to your natural skin oil. Once it soaks in, it's gone and the skin stays smooth for a long time. Way way better than any lotion I've ever used.

As an escort I have learned my own little tricks. I have had wives call and email me but that is bound to happen from time to time. I always have my mans grooming kit that I make for each of my dates. I place a small bottle of Febreze, Axe Body Spray and Wash,  Shampoo, Listerine with wet wipes. I also offer my shower with fluffy towels that are specifically for my male visitors. That are always freshly washed and smell like Downy. I'm sure most wives use Downy for their wash so it's perfect. I also place clothing in a closet with Febreze Linen smell. And leave it there until the gentleman gets ready to go. I also have my voicemail set at the default where the number is pronounced. The number registers to Nick Mancetti so if it is checked it's just another man. I also have been collecting men's cologne in popular scents so if you use cologne it's readily available. I also do hair so if perchance I do get a wife I can say he came and got a haircut. But I also have an LLC and my own Small Salon in a building that rents to stylists. Sometimes I offer to do the wife's hair so it is more incognito. I agree with most of the postings above about keeping yourself safe. Yet as a provider I think it is also in some part my responsibility to help keep my clients safe also. I have my own persona in my real life and coming from Utah you are bound to run into clients in public. I always smile and walk by and more often than not I am not alone so it's easy to maintain my own privacy. I also have to agree a woman always knows when something is not right with her other half when she asks questions or makes off kilter statements. That is when you stop for awhile spend more time with the family and get back into a normal groove again based on your review history it looks like you are extremely immersed in the hobby and you don't realize how much of your time you are putting into your activities. A wife notices when you are on your phone to much or sitting at your computer to long. So my Advice is to give yourself a time out and get back to normal again.

The 10th level of paranoid is the right place to be

Your biggest concern should be not getting busted by LE.  Many police departments will post your pictures, name and address in the local papers or other news outlets.  Imagine trying to explain that to the little lady or your boss at work.  The other thing to look out for is PSYCHO providers that may get too attached and cause problems at home on purpose for you when you decide to cut them off.  Women will put up with a lot of shit but they really don't like being humiliated. It makes me think of Tiger Woods.  The wifey didn't leave him until the world knew about his dirty secret and she was humiliated.  

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All very solid advice.   If you care about your spouse enough to stay with them, respect them enough to never let them find out.  It's devastating, and it's never the same afterward

...I ask the lady not to wear perfume.

Very thoughtful and insightful.  Thank you!

Well...guess part of the issue might be that the wife is NOT sharing "Dick-Duty" and not into having sex for what whatever reason