I've been in this hobby a long time. I've had incredible experiences and some not so great ones. But even after all these years, one question still trips me up. When a provider asks "So, what do you like"? In my early days I was concerned about le. I'd answer with something stupid like "um...whatever you like" or even worse "I like big boobs" lol. I feel like my awkward answers have turned what could have been awesome experiences into just good ones. Fellow gentlemen, how do you answer this common question? Are you vague like I am or are you very detailed and explicit with your answer? Providers, what kind of answer are you looking for when you ask this?
you can always reply that if she would read your reviews she can get a good idea of what you like.
Alternatively, if she has reviews, you can always say that you like to do the things that her reviews describe. If neither of those 2 scenarios, fit, then just say that you'd like to talk about it once when you are behind closed doors. If this is not satisfactory to her, then that is a red light, and I'd get out of the situation..
Think back to all the great times. What was it about those sessions that made them special? Exclude what you might think was specific to that provider. Then you should have it boiled down to what you like. Don't ever say "anything" or something like that. Next thing you know she'll try to fist you or whack your balls with her knee. Or maybe you're into that. In which case definitely say. They have done and seen 1000% more than you. So you should be specific.
I'm pretty vanilla. Passionate, urgent, sex is what I like. Then I make sure to ask consent for specific things of course. Since I'm vanilla, I had better say because I wouldn't want things to get too kinky.
I don’t know why you’d be worried about Uncle LEO. You’re a TER gent. I’m assuming you wouldn’t be going off the grid and seeing a lady who wasn’t reviewed here on TER or who wasn’t p411 approved. If so, there is an extremely high degree of probability that she’s not a cop. To me that’s the biggest benefit of TER. I know I’m not walking into a scam or bust because I’ve read her reviews. So, with that in mind I’d feel free to tell her exactly what I like, and suggest that she read my TER reviews to see what happened in my highest rated dates. . Now, if you are going off the grid and seeing an unreviewed SW then there is a risk of bad experiences. That’s why I rarely go that route. TER is my safety net.
... I start off with telling her what I most like: Enthusiasm. My biggest turn off is boredom.
Once I see how she reacts to that, I will ask her what her boundaries and limits are and then we can discuss specific acts or other details as needed. I tend to format my discussion around a consent framework: are you ok with this, and this, let me know if you are comfortable with this, etc. If it all starts to go south (no pun intended) and she doesn't seem to be aligned with my expectations, I know that 1-Her reviews are bullshit, AND/OR 2-She's not comfortable with me. Either can happen. That's when I might have to make a difficult decision to possibly leave and possibly surrender my present as well. Fortunately that is a rare occurrence. Life is good The Cat
You don't have to answer every question someone asks. Did you ever watch a politician being interviewed by a reporter? Just talk about whatever you want, or better yet, just start moving in on her.
So that's a good start. Physical features I already checked out, so anything else am interested in will most likely be hinted at before meeting or discussed before or upon meeting.
Are you referring to BEFORE meeting, that is in email, text or verbal on the phone? Or are you referring to the Q coming up BCD, when you are face to face? . If the former, I have previously suggested what mrfisher said: mention her reviews or even specific reviews (if there are many to choose from). You can fine tune your prefs that way. "Well, I'm not into all of the stuff that A, B, and C mentioned. But I like what X, Y, and Z like."
Posted By: midniteman
I've been in this hobby a long time. I've had incredible experiences and some not so great ones. But even after all these years, one question still trips me up. When a provider asks "So, what do you like"? In my early days I was concerned about le. I'd answer with something stupid like "um...whatever you like" or even worse "I like big boobs" lol. I feel like my awkward answers have turned what could have been awesome experiences into just good ones. Fellow gentlemen, how do you answer this common question? Are you vague like I am or are you very detailed and explicit with your answer? Providers, what kind of answer are you looking for when you ask this?
Attitude can make or break a session more than anything else. Most all providers know WHAT to do, but the difference is the ones that know HOW to sell that they are really enthusiastic and engaged in what they are doing with us.
When I started I fumbled around too. I remember saying, "what all guys like" once.
To me it depends on when asked. Like others I do my research so I can tailor make my answers. My general response is that I love foreplay. The journey is as important as the destination. I give generalities about foreplay, like kissing. Usually that is when the kissing starts. I also mention I take coaching well, which translates to guide my hands and mouth as you wish. If I feel something is being neglected, like nipple kissing, I will mention it, but as a tease. Not sure if that helps you.
Why? Because I freaking HATE when a hobbies asks ME that question. Kills my mood instantantly! I like alot of shit. But I'm not paying me to spend time with me. You are. Don't worry about me. Let me focus on you. How bout that? If you do something I don't like, you'll know. If I want something I really like and your not doing it, I'll figure a way to work it in..... Fo'Real
I get you. But in my case if I was asked I would say surprise me in a good way please just do what makes you happy making me happy please. I’ve been asked if I liked BBBJs because I seldom cared for them, it would raise a challenge for her to be the first. Now when I’m finishing by a HJ I love it when they realize I’m going to loose it and they finish me off with a BJ. Those experiences were rare and far apart but when it happened my finish was usually so powerful I’d convulse and cry like a baby, joking
I do also ask this question, just to get a general feel for what you are looking for. I do massage, bubble bath, role play w/out fit requests, BDSM (full, part, or toy play) and of course, "regular play time". If you are booking an hour I want to make sure we get in what you want to do. I had a gent send me a nasty gram that he was not happy with our session because he actually wanted more massage and less "regular play time", which he did not say before or during the session. Ug. We want to have a fun time, and of course we want you to have fun as well. If you have ED, or a bad neck, or any other issues also that is fine, just tell us! Happy play time everyone!!!
I am looking for answers to verify if I need to bring anything to our date besides myself. Toys? Lingerie? Special requests that I may need to prepare for, so I am not caught by surprise & unable to fulfill your dream date. If your shy & don’t wish to share after sending my deposit to secure your date. I will inquire if you have a TER handle, so I can read your reviews to get an idea of what you genuinely enjoy. Great question. Thank you, kindly for posting!
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