I'm guessing this has probably come up before but maybe it's time for a fresh discussion on the subject.  I've been hobbying for a very very long time (I'm old, you see) and have found that it is virtually impossible to find a provider that is consistently reliable and honest.  This is even the case with escorts that I have maintained lengthy relationships with - some as long as 10 years!  I do understand that it is probably just something that naturally comes with the territory but it's still discouraging to feel that your 'ATF' cancelled on you because perhaps something better came along (as in bigger bucks, travel, etc.).  I've always been a complete gentleman with every lady I have ever seen and have accepted the various excuses but many times doubt the veracity thereof.  Please understand this doesn't happen all the time (or even the majority of the time) and I don't consider myself to be a loser, but it is still annoying and disheartening when it does happen.  I would be interested to hear other thoughts and comments on this subject.  Many thanks!

I've been Lucky so far in this Hobby. I've been at this a long time too. My Current Provider is Great. She can see me the same day I call her. Within about an hour or two. She's Never cancelled on me. I've been seeing her since March. If she did cancel a Session with me, I would totally understand. She's too Adorable for me to stop seeing her.  

there was genuine reason to cancel. Sometimes things does happen and as long as it is not habitual, you should give benefit of doubt.

Good advice -- I've never used an agency but that is a good reason to consider it.  Thanks.

It would be a good idea for you to have a Plan B. Just in case your Plan A doesn't work out for that day. I do have a Plan B Provider. Until I found my current Provider, my Plan B used to be my Plan A.  

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Imagine if we did that all the time. We'd have no business.  

Agencies tend to be more Expensive than an Independent Provider. Ladies have to give the Agency a percentage of their Session Money which explains the Higher Prices from an Agency.

I make sure I have nothing planned for that time. I take a Shower and always show up on Time. Well there were a few times I was late by 15 minutes. No big deal with her. More and more I've noticed that my Provider can see me earlier than our planned time. She tells me that her Regulars who she knows a lot longer than me, are Cancelling out on her. It's a Shame because she's a Sweetheart. Oh well, their Loss.

Courtney - you sound like a very responsible person and I do know it works both ways but I have never cancelled on a provider with other than ample notice and always for a very valid reason.

In some cities, indies are more expensive

...while I know of agencies that do have higher donation providers those same agencies also have providers with donations equal to many of the indpendents. I also know of agencies with reasonable donations lower than many independents. They aren't cut rate low reputation agencies either. They are very reputable and highly thought of. It is true that I can only speak about agencies in my area.

And I found it to be very frustrating, because of puncuality issues.  

You are completely off the CM (creep meter)

Perhaps girls do it based on the amount of last minute cancellations that we get, so in order to secure at least one date, some girls even double book for the same time slot (having to cancel one later just in case the other one flakes out or cancel the one that presents a better financial gain for her). I am not saying it is a good practice however, If you factor in all the dates cancelled, all the NCNS etc.., we will not be able to still stand here. I find that many girls have learned that is important to take deposits in order to ensure that the gentleman is really committed to their date and not keeping her as a plan B in case plan A is able to make it so she is not left on the negatives. Also, some ladies even have a cancellation fee in place should any of those "last minute cancellations" occur.  

It was just a contribution to the discussion. You have a valid point and I share your frustration but on the other side of things... And not just for the money hehehe. We get blue balls too lol. Only it's more like being hit in the head with a 2x4 followed by frequent masturbation lolol

... And if your girl isn't available they offer you see someone else. A little tougher to make sure you get plan B

My run down on this topic....

Dependability is not as valued a trait as it used to be in every facet of life. Why should escorts be any different?

But I am thinking of reconsidering and making my "family day" and different day of the week because I seem to be getting a lot of callers on Sunday. But we'll see I guess.

For the SPOTY? With Fidiot absent, and dungy and ridge making sense in their recent posts, a race that was long thought locked up, could open up again.

And yes, besides his creepiness in always talking about this provider he apparently owns, the random capitalization is annoying. Your post about it the other day was hilarious.

I want to thank everyone for the responses and conversation.  And to clarify, I did not mean to say that ALL excuses weren't true but when, on a number of occasions, I find the provider posting availability the same day she cancelled on me, then don't blame me for being a little suspicious (I also am aware that some posting is done for the provider automatically).  Again, thanks for the excellent dialogue - that's what I was after to begin with.

my appointments are less reliable! Married gents have to sneak away, so that means last minute calls. Who knows, though? LOL! Let me know how it works out if you change your family day

If someone takes the time to schedule with me in advance, I do my damnest to not cancel . There has been times that (people in my life) are like you're not going to cancel your appointment? Because I'll be throwing up and still leave 15 minutes later. (antibiotics make me sick to my stomach - I wouldn't go if it was something that put the other person in danger of catching it) It has to be very serious for me to cancel. I hate when people do it to me - so I do my damnest to not do it to someone else.

I have had a girl cancel on someone else to see me.  Sorry Mike.  I'm sure it wasn't personal.

When I first started in this business in Wichita there were about 5 agencies. The price you collected ehen you got there was for a massage and everything else was above and beyond. The services in the Midwest has dwindled down due to the internet and the ones still around only have 1-2 girls.

...first few posts in this thread, but finally his inner creep came out and he went back to "My Provider."

when a provider can’t show up and offer alternatives. Some indies on the other hand just send you text message few minutes before like 15 to 30 minutes which is really bad.

Plenty of agencies with gorgeous ladies. No dwindling in this part of the country. Include Dallas, Houston and Austin.

If she doesn't value your time or business, move on to the next. When she has no regulars she may just learn in how to treat them better. If you find yourself with a gal constantly canceling for whatever reason... she has too much going on in her life. Whether valid reasons or not. If she is canceling because someone else came along that is better, she doesn't value you at all. Yes it makes more sense for a gal to have an appt with whoever pays more, but in the long run, it is very disrespectful to the loyal regulars. I don't care who you are, once I make an appt I follow through.  

LMAO I had to go back and read his post again to see what you guys were talking about. Nothing gets past you TER Posters! I never would have noticed that he was randomly capitalizing shit until you pointed it out!

LOL! RCS!  You're starting to sound like Rasha.

Most indies would be a little put off knowing that they were "second choice" not to mention the fact knowing that they set aside time most likely to just be blown off. An agency with several gals is a different story, a phone call to say "will you have a girl available at such and such a time if I happen to free up this afternoon?" and your worries about blue balls go out the window.